Ranchero44 Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 Hello . . . I am brand-new to this site and have just been spending some time reading various threads. I have a question and would be curious to what people think: At what point do you need to gently tell someone you are not interested? This would be an alternative to, say, just doing the "fade away." Although it would be SO much easier to just "fade away", I'm wondering what point necessitates having a talk with someone who is pursuing you. I have been out on two dates with the guy in question. On the second date, I very awkwardly fumbled my way through a speech about how I was uncertain about the whole dating thing, but I was OK with "hanging out". BIG mistake! I now realize that when I told him I was OK with "hanging out", he heard, "There is a chance." He has emailed me several times this week to say hello, including a "Happy Valentines Day" email on Tuesday. I have politely, but curtly, responded to his emails. (I feel it is disrespectful just to ignore him.) I am trying not to get too annoyed with his pursuit of me, because I haven't been very clear about not wanting to date him. How should I talk to him about this? Is it heartless to send an email? Does it have to be in person? Does it have to be done at all . . . what about the "fade away"? It hurts to get rejected, but sometimes it sucks more to do the rejecting.
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