BluEyeL Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I think refusing to date a virgin makes a little sense only when your goal in dating is casual and you know it from the beginning. When/if you are in love, it wouldn't matter whether she/he was a virgin or not. 2
man_in_the_box Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 When I was a virgin I knew exactly what turned me on. I looked at provocative paintings and photos and masturbated almost every night. I also knew which places I got the most arousal from, and which positions were the best. I never watched porn because I didn't need to. I'm a woman in case that wasn't clear. Off-topic but that pretty much constitutes as watching porn in my book. 1
Maleficent Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 As a 25 year-old man I prefer a woman within my age range that knows what she wants, I don't have to worry too much about not hurting her feelings, has goals in life and I can have a future with. I don't want to deal with possible bleeding nor emotional attachment issues. IMO I think virgins should be with virgins. Other than that, I don't feel like teaching (I taught once as a 19 year-old, not this time). I just recently turned down an older virgin women (she was 3 yrs older than me) my cousin try to set me up. Someone called me a jerk for that but I was simply being honest. I don't want to then end up feeling responsible if the relationship doesn't go right. I'm I the only man that refuses to date virgin women? Well it's your right to have preferences. I admit it's kind of weird to turn down someone 'just' because they are virgin...but like I said - your preferences not mind. Don't worry about it. 1
Babolat Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 So I'm I wrong for not wanting to date them? I respect that they are waiting but to me that feels like taking candy away from a baby. I get a bit offended at older dudes my age or in their 30's going after innocent 18 to early 20ish girls. It makes me wonder why can't they find a women within their age range. I have not read all the posts. Are you wrong? Well, that depends on what your intent is, and really, only you know if it's wrong. I have been with one virgin, though I comitted to a LTR with her, married her, she wanted to wait until her wedding night, and we did. Sex was great from that night on, no issues. Your question feels kind of strange though. If you enter into an exclusive LTR with a woman why does it matter? 2
Babolat Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I wouldn't want to be with a man who is a virgin because dude would last about 2 seconds and most likely be a fumbling idiot. No thanks. My first time, I could not cum and stayed rock hard for over an hour...she asked ME to stop. So your theory doesn't hold true all the time. 3
CrystalCastles Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I actually had a terrible experience with a virgin long ago. So you decide all of this based off ONE experience? That's hardly fair. 1
GorillaTheater Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I vaguely recall being with a virgin. I think it was during Reagan's first term. 1
kaylan Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 \ Wow. That statement is so ridiculous I don't even know where to start. It's not a virgin thing to develop an attachment. It's a woman thing. And not every woman is going to be that way. I wasn't. You're making some very big generalizations and it annoys me how you try to make virginity sound like a bad thing, which it is not. When I was a virgin I knew exactly what turned me on. I looked at provocative paintings and photos and masturbated almost every night. I also knew which places I got the most arousal from, and which positions were the best. I never watched porn because I didn't need to. I'm a woman in case that wasn't clear. Waiting for the right man to have sex with isn't the disgrace you make it sound. A woman should have the freedom to choose what to do with her body without some guy urging her to drop her pants already. Attachment isnt just a woman thing. Its a people thing. And yes, its very common for virgins to get very attached to their first. Even more so with older virgins who wait for that "right person". Most people Ive met got attached to their firsts. 1
FredRutherford Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 (edited) \ Wow. That statement is so ridiculous I don't even know where to start. .... Waiting for the right man to have sex with isn't the disgrace you make it sound. A woman should have the freedom to choose what to do with her body without some guy urging her to drop her pants already. Well-stated. There's nothing "wrong" with a woman (or man) who wants to wait. Those that have had sex aren't inherently "better" than those who haven't (though they often smugly think so), and those that wait aren't necessarily "more moral" or better prospective mates than those who didn't. Some of us actually prefer virgin or less-experienced partners and would in no way try to intimidate them for their stance or pressure them to give-up their innocence to us. Attachment isnt just a woman thing. Its a people thing. And yes, its very common for virgins to get very attached to their first. Even more so with older virgins who wait for that "right person". Most people Ive met got attached to their firsts. Yes, men get "attached" too and not only because of sex. I didn't but I was 17-18 in high school and deeply regret getting sexually involved with her, something I never should have done, but that's another topic. Methinks the OP's drivel reflects some arrogance and disdain for those that actually prefer to live sexually responsible lives, whether for religious or other reasons. Years later, he may lament why he can't land a "nice girl" when he wasn't such a nice guy himself. Edited October 17, 2013 by FredRutherford 3
Queen_Sophie_Anne Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 for everyone who considers 24+ older virgins to be weird; why does it bother you? if you're all about stopping people from slut-shaming you because you decided to become the town bicycle, then you should respect other people's choices for their own sex lives. 1
Criticality Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 for everyone who considers 24+ older virgins to be weird; why does it bother you? if you're all about stopping people from slut-shaming you because you decided to become the town bicycle, then you should respect other people's choices for their own sex lives. I don't think it bothers people all that much, unless they have to deal with it themselves. There's a big difference between "wow, that's weird, but whatever..." And disrespecting somebody's choice. Virgins on the other usually have an air of condescension about it, making it clear that they consider themselves as better because of it. "I choose not to throw myself at people looking for a quick lay..." "You should respect yourself, instead of giving it away at random..." That is the real turnoff. And I'm not saying that everybody does this. But many do.
man_in_the_box Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Wow, that was some thread necro.... Beware, zombie thread on the prowl. Don't let it bite you!
Els Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I thought necro'd threads turned into undead, not zombies, but that's all good! 1
man_in_the_box Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I thought zombies fall under "undead" category. 1
Els Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Oh, interesting. I'd always thought it to mean ghouls/vampires, not zombies. We learn new things everyday...
man_in_the_box Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 "A zombie (Haitian Creole: zonbi; North Mbundu: nzumbe) is an animated corpse raised by magical means, such as witchcraft.[1] The term is often figuratively applied to describe a hypnotized person bereft of consciousness and self-awareness, yet ambulant and able to respond to surrounding stimuli. Since the late 19th century, zombies have acquired notable popularity, especially in North American and European folklore. In modern times, the term "zombie" has been applied to an undead being in horror fiction, often drawing from the depiction of zombies in George A. Romero's 1968 film Night of the Living Dead.[2][3] They have appeared as plot devices in various books, films, television shows, video games and comics." QED
Els Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Yep yep, just read the 'undead' wiki article. I'd been brainwashed by Stoker, it seems.
crederer Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I absolutely hate virgins as much as I hate sluts (that was meant to be satirical, don't get all upity on me).
Queen_Sophie_Anne Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I don't think it bothers people all that much, unless they have to deal with it themselves. There's a big difference between "wow, that's weird, but whatever..." And disrespecting somebody's choice. Virgins on the other usually have an air of condescension about it, making it clear that they consider themselves as better because of it. "I choose not to throw myself at people looking for a quick lay..." "You should respect yourself, instead of giving it away at random..." That is the real turnoff. And I'm not saying that everybody does this. But many do. but listen to what you just said. non-virgins have this air of condescension about it 'being weird' that someone would remain a virgin for so long, while criticizing virgins for doing the same thing (being condescending). of course the condescending attitude is a turnoff, but it doesn't only come from virgins ... 1
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