Cypress25 Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Like I said, older virgins tend to have a certain personality type and view of sex. Why else would they be virgins past a certain age? There are a million reasons why someone might still be a virgin past a certain age. It doesn't necessarily mean they're conservative or have a narrow-minded view of sex. That's the problem with your attitude: you think "virgin" is a personality trait. Virginity has nothing to do with your personality. You're lumping all older virgins together as if they have the same personality type and the same view of sex. They don't. The time frame I can wait at the most for a woman (assuming she's experienced already) to put out is 2-3 months and that would be if I know she wants me but is taking things slowly, that is if she isn't playing games either. Try dating girls you actually like. Then waiting a few months for sex won't seem like torture to you. That one virgin I referred to on my previous post made me wait about 8 months. Poor baby! How you must have suffered! You didn't like her anyway, so what were you doing with her? By the way, 8 months is nothing. 1
somedude81 Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Honestly, taking a girls virginity is one of the things on my bucket list. Though it's probably never going to happen now that most girls lose it at 16 or something.
Ross MwcFan Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 There are a million reasons why someone might still be a virgin past a certain age. It doesn't necessarily mean they're conservative or have a narrow-minded view of sex. That's the problem with your attitude: you think "virgin" is a personality trait. Virginity has nothing to do with your personality. You're lumping all older virgins together as if they have the same personality type and the same view of sex. They don't. Try dating girls you actually like. Then waiting a few months for sex won't seem like torture to you. Poor baby! How you must have suffered! You didn't like her anyway, so what were you doing with her? By the way, 8 months is nothing. I must admit, 8 months does seem quite excessive.
lifeasiknowit Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 I'm a 28 year old female virgin. Mostly it's because I was always really, really shy around guys, and very introverted. I have a sex drive, but I'm just super shy. Yes, I know it's not normal to be a virgin at this age, but why do people feel like it's a red flag? 1
Author TimmyTuckerR Posted February 20, 2012 Author Posted February 20, 2012 Poor baby! How you must have suffered! You didn't like her anyway, so what were you doing with her? By the way, 8 months is nothing.I didn't do nothing. That was my crazy, jealous ex gf from my early years (6 yrs ago). After the break-up, a couple times she showed up at my job suddenly. How was I suppose to liked that?
Ross MwcFan Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 I'm a 28 year old female virgin. Mostly it's because I was always really, really shy around guys, and very introverted. I have a sex drive, but I'm just super shy. Yes, I know it's not normal to be a virgin at this age, but why do people feel like it's a red flag? Because I guess it shows that the person is either super repressed, really shy and introverted, or because they have no social skills. A lot of people don't find those traits desirable.
lifeasiknowit Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Because I guess it shows that the person is either super repressed, really shy and introverted, or because they have no social skills. A lot of people don't find those traits desirable. So you're saying a majority of men would runway if they found out a woman was still a virgin in her mid to late 20s?
Author TimmyTuckerR Posted February 20, 2012 Author Posted February 20, 2012 Because I guess it shows that the person is either super repressed, really shy and introverted, or because they have no social skills. A lot of people don't find those traits desirable.Shy women are hard to work with. It's like you have to find what are her interests and what she likes talking about. As much as I hated it, I had to ditch one like that on the 3rd week because there was no improvement and I felt like talking to the wall. It's annoying talking, only to have the girl staring into space or giving out short answers. At some point, after all this talk we do it's expected for the girl to say something about herself and if possible add some humor, laugh, etc.
Ross MwcFan Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 So you're saying a majority of men would runway if they found out a woman was still a virgin in her mid to late 20s? It depends on what they want. If the guy was looking for a relationship, or a non serious girlfriend, and was going to go on a date with her, then there's a decent chance he'd run away. If he just wanted to bang, and she was up for it too, then most guys wouldn't run away.
lifeasiknowit Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 It depends on what they want. If the guy was looking for a relationship, or a non serious girlfriend, and was going to go on a date with her, then there's a decent chance he'd run away. If he just wanted to bang, and she was up for it too, then most guys wouldn't run away. So men looking for actual relationships wouldn't want to be in one with a virgin, but they're okay with having sex with her? That doesn't make sense to me.
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 So men looking for actual relationships wouldn't want to be in one with a virgin, but they're okay with having sex with her? That doesn't make sense to me. I think he's got it backwards.
Titania22 Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 As I have said a million times on other thread. Women reach their sexual peak much later, in their 30's. There is nothing wrong with a woman waiting until her labido kicks in to wants to have sex, even if it doesn't kick in until her late 20's. You wouldn't expect a 5yr old boy to be sexually active, so why expect a 20yr old girl?
kaylan Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 ^Que? I love some of the silly comparisons you folks make sometimes. You cannot compare a sexually immature boy with no sex drive, to a sexually mature woman with a sex drive. A big part of the reason a womans sexual peak is in her 30s is confidence and experience. Mental stuff. Women arent raised the same way guys are where they are encouraged to masturbate, watch porn, and explored their sexuality. Plus the majority of women in their late teens and 20s have some sort of sex drive, so I really dont understand what you were trying to say about virgin gals. Most chicks Ive come across have had a good libido.
ScreamingTrees Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 As I have said a million times on other thread. Women reach their sexual peak much later, in their 30's. There is nothing wrong with a woman waiting until her labido kicks in to wants to have sex, even if it doesn't kick in until her late 20's. You wouldn't expect a 5yr old boy to be sexually active, so why expect a 20yr old girl? I might've agreed with your overall idea on an individual basis, but I don't believe many 20 year old girls to be anything like your typical 5 year old boy. Might've been a bad comparison.
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 The vast majority of people of both genders have had sex by their mid 20s. Like less than 5 percent of people are virgins by 25.
ScreamingTrees Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 The vast majority of people of both genders have had sex by their mid 20s. Like less than 5 percent of people are virgins by 25. Maybe your own issues are painting the numbers, but I don't believe that at all, and although I'm nowhere near 25, if I was a 25 year old virgin, I wouldn't care. I'd had a girl or two come onto ME, but since I didn't just screw them at the time, there's something wrong with me? Must not be if I could confidently turn down a female while some of the guys on here can't even approach one. Maybe there is no correlation between one's virginity and their mental state. 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Maybe your own issues are painting the numbers, but I don't believe that at all, and although I'm nowhere near 25, if I was a 25 year old virgin, I wouldn't care. I'd had a girl or two come onto ME, but since I didn't just screw them at the time, there's something wrong with me? Must not be if I could confidently turn down a female while some of the guys on here can't even approach one. Maybe there is no correlation between one's virginity and their mental state. I'm not saying there's something wrong with being a virgin I'm just saying that because there are so few virgins out there sometimes people have a hard time relating to us or being able to understand that we exist. In my own life I know of three virgins my age or older (I'm 23). All three are foreign born. One guy has had girlfriends just never sex, another has fooled around a bit but no sex and nothing serious and the last has absolutely no experience with women. So in my own life the statistics would bear out.
ScreamingTrees Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 I think that the problem a lot of older virgins have is self inflicted.. If you feel you're normal, when a girl comes around, you shouldn't be ashamed of the fact. If you appear normal, they probably wouldn't care or suspect that you're a charming psychopathic axe murderer.
Titania22 Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Plus the majority of women in their late teens and 20s have some sort of sex drive, so I really dont understand what you were trying to say about virgin gals. Most chicks Ive come across have had a good libido. I don't agree, as there is pressure on girls to be sexual, and alot of them pretend, so as not to be ostracized. Sure society is changing, so possibly more girls have some sort of actual labido then they would in the past. But I don't think the pressure caused by societies expectations can be undervalued. In the past the pressure was to be chaste and nonsexual, so girls who developed a good labido early were repressed and ostracized, nowadays the opposite is true. You guys are essentially saying late bloomers are no good. Girls aren't stupid, so many play the role, and many end up resenting men/sex, which they wouldn't if they had waited until they were truely ready. And maybe I should have used the age of 8 instead of 5 in my example, as many 8yr old boys are starting to feel very sexual at that age, but i am sure there are some who aren't.
ThaWholigan Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 As a virgin myself, I think that men and women are equally likely to get fobbed off for being virgins at a certain age. I don't think I am that much of a late bloomer, but considering I have yet to manage more than a short, drunken kiss and a deep sleep alongside a woman with an innocuous (and accidental LOL) cupping of the breast while I slept, I am sure that my lack of experience will be a huge turn off to many. I think that while it is frustrating on my end, I think that someone is entitled to want someone of a similar sexual standing. So I can understand where OP is coming from.
binny Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 I'm a 26yo female virgin.. I guess I'm a little weird.. I am shy around guys that I like.. Not to mention I just don't know how to flirt.. I suppose I've had a couple of opportunties, but it has just never felt right.. Tbh its attitutes like are being posted on this thread which actually scare me about dating.. How am I supposed to tell a future bf that I am still a virgin? Judging by the amount of people who have posted on here it's a deal breaker I have no chance of it lasting once he finds out..
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 I don't agree, as there is pressure on girls to be sexual, and alot of them pretend, so as not to be ostracized. Sure society is changing, so possibly more girls have some sort of actual labido then they would in the past. But I don't think the pressure caused by societies expectations can be undervalued. In the past the pressure was to be chaste and nonsexual, so girls who developed a good labido early were repressed and ostracized, nowadays the opposite is true. You guys are essentially saying late bloomers are no good. Girls aren't stupid, so many play the role, and many end up resenting men/sex, which they wouldn't if they had waited until they were truely ready. And maybe I should have used the age of 8 instead of 5 in my example, as many 8yr old boys are starting to feel very sexual at that age, but i am sure there are some who aren't. Well I hope you take the same approach with regards to male "late bloomers".
ThaWholigan Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 I think that the problem a lot of older virgins have is self inflicted.. If you feel you're normal, when a girl comes around, you shouldn't be ashamed of the fact. If you appear normal, they probably wouldn't care or suspect that you're a charming psychopathic axe murderer. This is true, in the very few times I confessed my virginity IRL, I was met with slight disbelief. It did not help me to do so. I have considered not disclosing it, but lying is never a good idea. I'm still at a juxtaposition as to how I am going to successfully date a woman knowing I will have to disclose my lack of experience at some point.
Titania22 Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Well I hope you take the same approach with regards to male "late bloomers". Hey I broke in a 25yr old virgin late 2010. I don't have a problem with virgins. As I think the ls record has shown. I like the idea a virgin men, makes me feel that they are less likely to carry diseases. 1
Titania22 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 How am I supposed to tell a future bf that I am still a virgin? I have considered not disclosing it, but lying is never a good idea. I'm still at a juxtaposition as to how I am going to successfully date a woman knowing I will have to disclose my lack of experience at some point. See i would agree, if it is a problem, just don't disclose it. You can always mention it after the fact. It's not like hiding a transmittable disease or a husband.
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