TimmyTuckerR Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 As a 25 year-old man I prefer a woman within my age range that knows what she wants, I don't have to worry too much about not hurting her feelings, has goals in life and I can have a future with. I don't want to deal with possible bleeding nor emotional attachment issues. IMO I think virgins should be with virgins. Other than that, I don't feel like teaching (I taught once as a 19 year-old, not this time). I just recently turned down an older virgin women (she was 3 yrs older than me) my cousin try to set me up. Someone called me a jerk for that but I was simply being honest. I don't want to then end up feeling responsible if the relationship doesn't go right. I'm I the only man that refuses to date virgin women?
Author TimmyTuckerR Posted February 17, 2012 Author Posted February 17, 2012 So I'm I wrong for not wanting to date them? I respect that they are waiting but to me that feels like taking candy away from a baby. I get a bit offended at older dudes my age or in their 30's going after innocent 18 to early 20ish girls. It makes me wonder why can't they find a women within their age range.
Author TimmyTuckerR Posted February 17, 2012 Author Posted February 17, 2012 Only reason I turn girls down is if I'm not attracted 100%. The idea of being a womans first to me is a very exciting idea. When I was 23 I was with a 20 year old virgin and enjoyed it! Well lucky for you virgins who you can legaly sleep with are probably pretty hard to find.I think part of the reason is I really had an aweful experience once. In my younger years (was about 19 at that time) I was dating a virgin girl. After a while the relationship turned out terrible, she turned out to be a jealous freak (I really had given her no reason to distrust me and she would still snoop up on me and ask me if I've been with other girls) and I didn't know how to break it off without hurting her. When I did, she wouldn't stop calling me nor following me at work. I don't want to deal with that anymore.
ShannonMI Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 As a 25 year-old man I prefer a woman within my age range that knows what she wants, I don't have to worry too much about not hurting her feelings, has goals in life and I can have a future with. I don't want to deal with possible bleeding nor emotional attachment issues. IMO I think virgins should be with virgins. Other than that, I don't feel like teaching (I taught once as a 19 year-old, not this time). I just recently turned down an older virgin women (she was 3 yrs older than me) my cousin try to set me up. Someone called me a jerk for that but I was simply being honest. I don't want to then end up feeling responsible if the relationship doesn't go right. I'm I the only man that refuses to date virgin women? I don't blame you. The '"bleeding" issue would only happen the first and maybe second time you had sex with a girl, so that really shouldn't be that much of a concern. And you are right, if you take a girl's virginity she is bound to grow very attached to you. Or perhaps not. Some lose their virginity with a guy and enjoy it so much that they want to experience many different dicks. Hahahahahaha I've heard it go either way. I wouldn't want to be with a man who is a virgin because dude would last about 2 seconds and most likely be a fumbling idiot. No thanks.
Saxis Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 I agree with Dust. It wouldn't bother me at all and I'd find it a bit exciting as well. I've always been very gentle the first time with a new partner anyway, and I enjoy it that way. I certainly wouldn't be after banging virgins for the excitement though, which is obviously all you're interested in, since you don't want the emotional attachment... That happens with most women, virgin or not.
Ninjainpajamas Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 I think part of the reason is I really had an aweful experience once. In my younger years (was about 19 at that time) I was dating a virgin girl. After a while the relationship turned out terrible, she turned out to be a jealous freak (I really had given her no reason to distrust me and she would still snoop up on me and ask me if I've been with other girls) and I didn't know how to break it off without hurting her. When I did, she wouldn't stop calling me nor following me at work. I don't want to deal with that anymore. Hate to break it to ya Tim man....but that just doesn't happen with virgins! 9
Author TimmyTuckerR Posted February 17, 2012 Author Posted February 17, 2012 since you don't want the emotional attachment... That happens with most women, virgin or not.True but generally virgin girls get more attached. I don't know but it's like I don't wouldn't feel too comfortable. I feel there is an age to everything. I feel kinda sorry for the 28 year-old virgin woman. I think there is something wrong if you're older already and no experience at all. If I were still 20 year old or during my last year of high school, then virginity is great news but now that I'm older, it's tedious.
kaylan Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 this thread gon' be good *grabs popcorn pop* *pulls up a chair* 2
setsenia Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 I think part of the reason is I really had an aweful experience once. In my younger years (was about 19 at that time) I was dating a virgin girl. After a while the relationship turned out terrible, she turned out to be a jealous freak (I really had given her no reason to distrust me and she would still snoop up on me and ask me if I've been with other girls) and I didn't know how to break it off without hurting her. When I did, she wouldn't stop calling me nor following me at work. I don't want to deal with that anymore. I am 22 and my husband is 28. We were both inexperienced when we met each other. I don't see what is so offensive about a man being that much older. I am very mature for my age, so my husband are on the same page and connect easily. None of the issues we ever have are the result of our age difference. I personally could not date a man around my age unless he was very mature for his age. However, I would not date anyone more than 10 years older, as generational issues have to be considered. Now my dad wanting to be with women 20 years younger than him, I can see how that might be a bit more offensive. I personally think it's gross, but it really depends on the people and what makes it work for them.
kaylan Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 Am I the only man that refuses to date virgin women? No you arent. I prefer a gal who knows what she wants, and itd be a little odd to me if a girl was around my age (25) and still a virgin. Usually these women are way more conservative than I am and we dont click anyways. At a younger age being a virgin is ok, but now that Im experienced, I desire the same in a mate. Plus I just dont have the patience for walking someone through sex anymore. Or the possible sexual hang ups.
kaylan Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 So I'm I wrong for not wanting to date them? I respect that they are waiting but to me that feels like taking candy away from a baby. I get a bit offended at older dudes my age or in their 30's going after innocent 18 to early 20ish girls. It makes me wonder why can't they find a women within their age range. I have to admit its creepy when much older dudes try and take advantage of younger girls. They do it to be in control and they know they can run circles around them. Oh wells. 1
Author TimmyTuckerR Posted February 17, 2012 Author Posted February 17, 2012 Haha not all girls are like that. She was also a teenager not a virgin who was in her 20's like the one you described. You probably don't really like this new virgin girl or you'd just date her. For me a girl being a virgin would be something that brings her to 100% attraction level if she wasn't there already... not something like "she has kids" that would take that milf out of 100% attraction level.I had 2 previous exes that weren't like her and they were teenagers too. None of that happened on my other relationships either but only with that particular girl. I don't know what became of her but hopefully she got the help she seriously needed.
Greensleeves Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 You might be one of the only 25 year old men in this entire country facing this problem. lol I would be more concerned with whether or not a woman who has managed to remain a virgin until the age of 27 would be adventurous enough for me, than the actual sex itself. Finding a 27 year old virgin these days is like finding a pearl, in an oyster, that was found growing on the Lochness Monster. Who knows, you could awaken a sleeping giant (sex drive that is). If she is crazy enough to go without sex for her adult life then don't think she isn't crazy enough to stuff a ball gag in your mouth and do things to you that will prevent you from being able to look your parents in the eye ever again! Congratulations. You are the 1%. Probably much less than 1% actually. 1
Author TimmyTuckerR Posted February 17, 2012 Author Posted February 17, 2012 When I turned her down, I didn't really bring up the virginity issue but I simply told her I see her as a friend. I tried to be as polite as possible.
Author TimmyTuckerR Posted February 17, 2012 Author Posted February 17, 2012 So why are you still thinking and posting about this? Whys it on your mind? Do you want her. Are you mad she tried to date you. What are you thinking. Just curious how other people feel i guess?I was posting because at some point I was thinking maybe I was a bit of a jerk. I was thinking it over and decided to share this. It just that this really caught me by surprise. It wasn't something that's typically expected from a 28 year-old woman.
Anela Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 I'd date any girl of any age as long as I was attracted to her. Much more likely to be attracted to some one 10 years younger then 10 years older. Even though I'm unlikely to go for someone ten years younger myself, I find this offensive. I don't see why older men should be more attractive than older women. You never did respond to me in that thread where I asked you if it was only gross when it was an older woman. Apparently, the answer was "yes". Sorry for going off-topic; I can't find the other thread to bump.
Anela Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 No you arent. I prefer a gal who knows what she wants, and itd be a little odd to me if a girl was around my age (25) and still a virgin. Usually these women are way more conservative than I am and we dont click anyways. At a younger age being a virgin is ok, but now that Im experienced, I desire the same in a mate. Plus I just dont have the patience for walking someone through sex anymore. Or the possible sexual hang ups. I was open to all sorts of things with someone I had very strong feelings for, when I thought that they loved me. I was extremely hot under the collar as a teenager, but turned off at the thought of being used. Don't assume that they won't be up for much, if they're inexperienced. I know a woman whose husband had a lot less experience than she did when they married; she taught him all sorts of things, and ended up being the best lover she ever had.
Cypress25 Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 I think part of the reason is I really had an aweful experience once. In my younger years (was about 19 at that time) I was dating a virgin girl. After a while the relationship turned out terrible, she turned out to be a jealous freak (I really had given her no reason to distrust me and she would still snoop up on me and ask me if I've been with other girls) and I didn't know how to break it off without hurting her. When I did, she wouldn't stop calling me nor following me at work. I don't want to deal with that anymore. Not all virgins are like that. In fact, most of them aren't. Most people aren't like that, virgin or not. You happened to date a girl who was very jealous and possessive, but it's not because she was a virgin. That's just her personality. She'll probably be like that for the rest of her life. Think about it: Everyone starts out as a virgin, but most people don't act like jealous stalkers before they lose their virginity. Virgin is NOT a personality trait. Also, you assume that virgins have no sexual experience. That's not necessarily true. Maybe they've never engaged in vaginal intercourse, but that doesn't mean they haven't done other stuff. In fact, most virgins have had a lot of practice with the other physical stuff because they've been in relationships that didn't include sex, so they had plenty of opportunity to hone their other skills. You can date or not date whoever you want, I just think you're jumping to a lot of false assumptions about virgins.
kaylan Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 ^psssh who wants only other skills? I want her to have vagina skills =P
Saraswati57 Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 Just as there are women who would never touch a male virgin, men have the right to be repulsed by female virgins at whatever age. Now, in some cases you could be missing out on a rare relationship opportunity depending on the individual, but that is up to you. 1
ScreamingTrees Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 What's the main argument for this "I don't want to be the teacher".. Is there really all that much to it? Sounds like an exaggeration. Sex would only get better with someone the longer you're with them anyway, not every way works for every person, and not every person requires the same level of intimacy and familiarity.. For a male, you're essentially sticking your wingwang in her diddlywink. Rinse and repeat. Is that so difficult? Does it have to come with an instruction manual? Of course you have to be sensitive to how they're reacting, but other than that, what else needs to be "taught"? Nobody's a mind reader, they're not going to know automatically what works for YOU. They could've been with partners who liked to be donkey punched and screamed at from behind as their lover pulls their hair and screams "WHAT'S YOUR MAJOR MALFUNCTION SUGAR TITS!?!?" - An exaggeration, but, my point has been made. If I'm a virgin and I let her know right before we do it, is she really going to get dressed again, take me to some classroom and lecture me for 6 hours and have me practice shooting my load on targets, putting condoms on bananas and jumping over tires full of DNA testing kits, pregnancy tests and child support documentation before we actually DO it? Or is she going to just grab my junk and guide it in right before I ravage her? (If I even need help doing that.. I'll find a hole.. LOL) 4
Fondue Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 I avoid virgins not for the inexperience, but because many of them go into this "lovey-dovey" emotional state after the fact. Every virgin or inexperienced woman I have touched has turned sex into some sort of emotional connection between the two of us, and this is not what I intend t do. Virgins have difficulty seperating sex and feelings. I didn't put it in your hoohaa for some emotional connection, I put it in so we can both enjoy our bodies physically. I have found that the virgin (or inexperienced) women can't differentiate the two, resulting in some unwanted attachment. If a woman knows who to keep the two divided, I would be happy to have fun with her, otherwise... STAY WAY!
Cypress25 Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 Every virgin or inexperienced woman I have touched has turned sex into some sort of emotional connection between the two of us, and this is not what I intend t do. Virgins have difficulty seperating sex and feelings. That's not a virgin thing. That's a woman thing. There are exceptions to every rule, but in general, women feel an emotional connection during and after sex. That's normal and expected. It's easier for men to separate sex and emotions, but that doesn't mean everyone should do it that way. Your way of having sex (devoid of emotion) is not necessarily the best way for everyone to have sex. I have found that the virgin (or inexperienced) women can't differentiate the two, resulting in some unwanted attachment. Plenty of experienced women don't differentiate the two, and there's nothing wrong with that. They just need to find men who feel the same way. Obviously, they should avoid men like you. Personally, I'm glad that sex is an emotional experience for me. I wouldn't want it any other way. I don't know how it could be enjoyable if I didn't have an emotional bond with my partner. That's why I don't have sex outside of committed relationships, because I would never want to make the mistake of sleeping with a man like you, who just wants a moist hole to stick it in. Emotionless sex sounds like it would be awful, so I don't have it. If you think virgins are the only ones who feel that way, you're mistaken. 4
ScreamingTrees Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 The whole emotional connection thing boils down to a choice. You get out of life what you choose to give. If you wish to give an emotional connection, you'll get that something extra right back and for some that extra ummph is worth it. Some people stumble upon it without looking for it and change their minds, and some never find it. It's life. I'd say someone's gotta be pretty resilient and mentally tough to go out of their way to preserve their standards.. Even if others look down on them for doing so. Huh. 2
Author TimmyTuckerR Posted February 19, 2012 Author Posted February 19, 2012 Now tell me was she hot? Or were you kind of unattracted to her but going to date her anyway and thats why virginity scared you off.I would say she was an average 7 out of 10. Not bad but I don't have patience anymore with the ''wait for x amount of time and take it slow''.
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