veggirl Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 So, basically, she hasn't changed at all and is telling you AGAIN that she will not stop her wildly inappropriate "friendship" with this guy. You'd be very wise to just end it, yes. I hope you do.
InJest Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 Don't tell her to pick between the two of you, just end the relationship. She'll come back if she decides your relationship is worth more than the "friendship", and you don't have to sit her confused. Don't give her a chance to fight it either. Just say it's over, she knows why, and you wish to have no further contact as long as she talks to him.
Ninjainpajamas Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 Damn Sibernox, you're a better man than me because by this time I would have body slammed this idiot into a trash can. And then I would have thrown her ass out of my apartment with her **** and told her to go home with the guy If he's that important to her. And I wouldn't have looked back If she never called whether I was in love with her or not, that's just not something I'm going to do...even IF I really like the girl, there's just too many women out there to put up with that kind of bull**** and drama, IF it's bothering my life that much I'm not going to deal with it. They have a really inappropriate relationship also, and any normal guy is going to have a problem with it. I really wouldn't care about the sob story or acknowledge anything of what she is saying, I'm not going to have my girlfriend swinging from her ex's nutsack while she's with me and still having this under-the-radar relationship with him. You've got to be more aggressive/assertive in your words and actions, you can't just try to work this out diplomatically at this point, especially with the crap coming out of her mouth. You're right...she's not, you don't need her to agree with you to know that...all her warped excuses and mindset isn't going to change the reality. You can't trust her to be honest with you because she's emotionally intertwined with this guy. You should probably be with a nicer girl, someone with less baggage, this girl is rough around the edges and you seem too square and honest. Those type of women need a guy who is more of a jerk so they can respect him. The more you try and wrap your head around this the more you are forgetting she's just an emotional basket case and reason doesn't count for much in her little world.
ja123 Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 But then yesterday we were at my place, walked out to walk the dog, and saw his car parked in front of my place. As soon as he saw us, he drove away quick. This is seriously NOT ok!!!! He's a stalker. It could escalate. She's nuts for believing anything he says. She's disrespecting you and compromising the relationship she has with you. You're in the right, dude. I agree with the others who said don't even try to explain/negotiate with her, but walk away.
Author sibernox Posted February 23, 2012 Author Posted February 23, 2012 Thank you all so much for your replies, it really helps to get some outside perspective. 10 mins ago I was at the gym and looked at my phone and saw a text from a random number, it read : "hey sibernox it's Jon (her ex). If you'd like to talk let me know". I called her to ask her if she gave him my number and she said yes cause he asked her. Do I acknowledge him? Am I being immature if I ignore him?
InJest Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 Call him and ask what he wants. Tell him not to ever let you see his face again. Also let him know that if he wants to try and rip your head off, then he's more than welcome to, and need only mention the time and place.
Author sibernox Posted February 24, 2012 Author Posted February 24, 2012 She's expecting me to call him and make it all Okay. She said he's trying to make it better and she wants it all to go back to how it used to be... I am baffled. Should I call him?
InJest Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 WTF?!?! This is a perfect opportunity to put your foot down. I get the feeling she chopped your balls off, and is hiding them in her house somewhere. Tell her that you want nothing to do with him, and if she does want anything to do with him, then your relationship is over, and stick to that. Pussy.
carhill Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Should I call him? IMO, no and, further, erase both of their contact information from your electronic devices and block their contact means. Good luck.
veggirl Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 No you shouldn't call! OMG! Why would your girl be telling her ex to call you?! She is NUTS! What a drama queen, why do you continue to involve yourself in this triangle? Please get out of it! Don't talk to either of them! They can have each other and be the bestest friends ever.
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