nowwhatnow Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 i met this guy at my friend's boyfriend's party and ever since i can not stop thinking about him. i friended him on fb and kept thinking i would run into him at my friend's bf parties but so far he has not been there when i have. its been about a month since ive seen him but i just cant stop thinking about him - we really clicked that night. i wish that i had run into him on campus or at a party so that it could have progressed more naturally. so my question is, should i wait to see if he turns up at another party? or should i fb message him with my number asking him if he wants to chill/ go out? or is a month after meeting too long to message him?
PrincessPeach Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 I don't know if this is the best advice or not, but it's fun to play matchmaker. Your friend or her boyfriend will probably want to help you out if they know you are interested (I know I do when the opportunity arises! ). If you let them know they might be able to invite you to the same party or go out as a group and bring both of you along. Just make sure they won't spill the beans to him, but maybe nudge you both a bit in the right direction.
Feelin Frisky Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 Go for it if that's what you want. Apparently it's not happening otherwise. Could be a great move and probably won't hurt to know if he's not available to you. Good luck.
salparadise Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 Yes, just ask him out and make sure he understands it's a date and not a chill session or hang out, which could still leave him unsure of what type of interest you have in him. This is 2012 and women are definitely allowed. All you have to loose is the same thing you loose by default if you do nothing. Just mind your boundaries with regard to what happens and how fast if you're goal is exploring relationship potential as opposed to jumping his bones.
Author nowwhatnow Posted February 18, 2012 Author Posted February 18, 2012 i guess im just really scared to do it - ive never chased a guy. with my ex he was the one chasing me. i dont even know what i would say. i feel kinda weird even drafting a message
Feelin Frisky Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 i guess im just really scared to do it - ive never chased a guy. with my ex he was the one chasing me. i dont even know what i would say. i feel kinda weird even drafting a message Don't belabor it. I'm not a fan of the word "chill" but the way you used it comes off as pleasant an un-chase-like. Just drop him a brief note like what you originally said. You can say whatever you have to say to him about not encountering him since and hoping to if and when he takes you up on your offer and you are making conversation. Just act on the note and don't over-think it. But DO phrase it so that he needs to reply. If he doesn't then you know he's not really interested or available and can adjust to that. Best of luck.
Author nowwhatnow Posted February 18, 2012 Author Posted February 18, 2012 yes you do have a good point. mind sharing some tips? what if it looked something like this: hey x! so i know i havent seen you since kevin's party but i kept hoping i would run into you I really enjoyed meeting you. i would love to go out some time if youre interested. my number is x. lets grab a coffee or go out for a drink one night! cant wait to hear from ya! too forward? not forward enough? too creep?
Author nowwhatnow Posted February 19, 2012 Author Posted February 19, 2012 i meant to say "too creepy" lol
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