ponymaruni Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 Im in a large university where the student population is around 50 thousand. The wimminz never approach me, and im generally ignored by the wimminz. Im not ugly and once in a blue moon i get that "your handsome compliment" by family members which i dont believe. So my question is, what would be a good way to approach a girl that is walking to class? Im 21 and very introverted by the way so any tips would be appreciated.
jerbear Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 You are at a university so I suggest taking an English writing course in addition to the university's requirements. You also have to get past your introverted ways and go up to women and converse with them. There is online dating if you're introverted but that will not help you. 1
PrincessPeach Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 First, don't refer to girls as "the wimminz." Approaching doesn't have to be hard and a simply "hello' or 'howdy' works just fine to start things off. Like all things, you get better at conversation with practice. So if you are bad at it at first, stick with it and don't worry about it. If you do something dumb you probably won't ever see that person again anyway and they probably won't remember you even if you do with it being such a large campus. A couple suggestions. Try not to be to self-conscious or concerned with how you are doing in the conversation. It'll lead to too much inner monologue and self doubt and end the conversation before it begins. Try to ask something open ended, like a "how" or "what" or "why" type of question, something that doesn't just require a yes/no. Maybe about a book she has with her, something that happened or is happening on campus, whatever springs to mind. Just practice and eventually you'll come out of your shell and get better at approaching people.
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