amyfrank2442 Posted June 4, 2004 Posted June 4, 2004 Im 19 years old and MARRIED! I just got married March 5th of this year! I like being married its fun! But when it comes to sex my husband makes me feel like im not that good! and it really really hurts! I dont know what to do he told me one time that the only difference between me and his xx-girlfriend was that she liked the you know what(she like the c*m) and I dont really like that s*** that much! But The one thing Im worried about is that he wants me to dress up as a nurse and stuff but Im scared that I wont please him! Like i wont look good in it or something and then it will turn him off! and I really dont need that. So someone anyone please help me do something about this situation! Thanks A LOT! By the way My husband is 20 and we have been together for 1 yr and 4 months.
JustSoRight Posted June 4, 2004 Posted June 4, 2004 How old is your husband? How long have you been together? Role playing is healthy, don't worry about not pleasing him. You don't have to swallow, or even have him finish in your mouth. He'll have to accept that. Marriage is all about compromise. You both are still getting used to marriage. I'm glad you think it's fun by the way.
DerangedAngel Posted June 4, 2004 Posted June 4, 2004 I like being married its fun! "Fun"? Where's Samson? But when it comes to sex my husband makes me feel like im not that good! and it really really hurts! That's not very considerate of him. Have you told him that it is hurtful? Is he your first partner? How old is he? (sorry for all of the questions) Have you tried having him tell you (and guide you) so that you know what he wants? I dont really like that s*** that much! Do you mean you don't like it on you? In you? Or do you mean you dislike the taste during oral? I never understood why a woman wouldn't absolutely love it, but that's just me I guess. There are things that he can eat/drink to improve the taste if you think that might help. But, you don't have to let him finish in your mouth. And he should respect that. But The one thing Im worried about is that he wants me to dress up as a nurse and stuff but Im scared that I wont please him! Like i wont look good in it or something and then it will turn him off Try it. I'm sure he thinks you'll look good in it or I doubt he'd ask you to do it for him. I think you need to talk to him, and spend some time learning how to please each other. It shouldn't stress you out so much! Good luck. -Deranged
Author amyfrank2442 Posted June 4, 2004 Author Posted June 4, 2004 No he is not my first partner and im not his! What are the things he could eat and drink to improve the stuff? So I could please him. The only reason why it stresses me so is b/c I like to please him it makes me happy knowing thatim trying to do something right! And no I have'nt told him that it hurts I guess im a lil scared to.
Jewel925 Posted June 4, 2004 Posted June 4, 2004 First of all you I think you should really look at what a wonderful person you are. You should never think you are not good enough for anyone! You are a wonderful and special person, who if anything may not deserve a man who compares his wife to an ex GF. If he does that often you rproblems may be more than just your sex life. Since you are a newlywed, this is the time to experiment and learn. If you have a really good relationship, which I hope this is why you married the guy, then it shouldn't scare you to try new things and be open with him. You at no time should feel threatened. I know at the age 19 you may not have really discovered who you are yet but at least you have a partner to be with along the way and that can be an advantage too. It takes a while to be totally vunerable an open with someone sexually, and let me tell you the biggest turn on for a guy is a woman's confidence in bed...even if you feel like you may not know what you are doing..take it on like you do! Read up on it, there are many books on the subject try something new everynight that will keep him coming back for more. And most of all don't forget he should be in it to please you too..not just himself. Don't let him get away with being selfish in bed. Figure out what you like and let him know. Remember you are a young, vivacious, woman who deserves a rewarding marriage with a fabulous sex life! Jewel
Author amyfrank2442 Posted June 4, 2004 Author Posted June 4, 2004 Aww well thank you very much for that advice! it really helps!~ No he dont tell me often that im like his ex but that just kinda scared me! He used to tell me that he had alot of girls and there for alot of experience so that kinda made me think alot and I only had 2 before him. But hopefully I will get enough convidence and take him over in bed! Amy
DerangedAngel Posted June 4, 2004 Posted June 4, 2004 What are the things he could eat and drink to improve the stuff? So I could please him. Have him try drinking lots of fruit juice - such as pineapple and orange juice. He should cut down on alcohol, red meat, and dairy products. Smoking supposedly makes it taste a little icky as well (I don't know this for sure). Goody goody cum drops? -Deranged
Author amyfrank2442 Posted June 4, 2004 Author Posted June 4, 2004 Thanks he damn sure dont smoke but does eat alot of meat! Well thanks for helping if you have anything that could help me please tell! Amy
Jewel925 Posted June 4, 2004 Posted June 4, 2004 Also, if I may add...if you are like me and you like sweet things maybe even a little whipped cream or Hershey's choclate sauce..things you can buy at the grocery! The sweetness of that may help the taste a little too. Technique Hint: when you are going down on him lift the back of your soft palette (located in the back of your mouth) like you are yawning. This helps the whole process...try it and see. -Jewel
Author amyfrank2442 Posted June 4, 2004 Author Posted June 4, 2004 Really I didnt even know this kind of stuff! thank you very much I am glad that I have this advise! Thank you! Amy
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