Sophie99 Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 (edited) Hi everyone, this is my first post here, I'm looking for some advice :') My boyfriend of almost 2 years broke up with me 1 month ago. I'm still very much in love with him. When we broke up, I didn't see it coming at all, and I got all the standard speeches of - "Its not you, Its me", "I love you, I'm just not in love with you anymore", "A relationship isn't for me anymore" etc etc. He says I'm perfect, and therefore would love to be BEST friends (we were best friends for about a year before we started dating, and of course remained best friends throughout our relationship). I would love to be friends with him too. However, everywhere I read, they say you can't be friends until you are both over it. I understand that being friends would be near impossible while I'm still in love with him. I have read that you should go no contact until you are over it, before working on being friends. Here's the problem. We go to the same school, have classes together every single day, which we have to sit next to each other in (assigned seating). We are in the same circle of friends as well. He contacts me all the time through text, and I don't think point blanc ignoring him would be very helpful.So no contact is pretty much impossible. What should I do? Thank you so much x Edited February 16, 2012 by Sophie99
Philosoraptor Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 Seeing as we are in school with assigned seating I will gamble that you are quite young and still have not experienced enough in life to even know yourselves yet. Yes, you can not be just friends with someone you have feelings for. I suggest you speak to your teachers as they will move you as they want a drama free class and for you both to be able to focus on your education.
Author Sophie99 Posted February 16, 2012 Author Posted February 16, 2012 Seeing as we are in school with assigned seating I will gamble that you are quite young and still have not experienced enough in life to even know yourselves yet. Yes, you can not be just friends with someone you have feelings for. I suggest you speak to your teachers as they will move you as they want a drama free class and for you both to be able to focus on your education. Thanks, and yes, I'm only 16 x
coopster Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 i agree. you cannot be `friends` with someone you have feelings for. Tell him to stop texting you, you will let him know when you are ready to be friends. This may take a while, you`ll have to get over him 1st or at least come to a point when you can talk to him without feeling anything. If he trully wants to remain friends , he`ll honour your wishes good luck
CaliBabe Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 Agreed, friends with someone you have feelings for will only prolong the hurt.
Glove_slap Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 it will not only prolong the hurt but it'll make it 10x harder to completely forget that person. 1
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