redgreensf Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 Hi! Would appreciate your comments...Especially from anyone who's been thru this scenario. Please bear with me. First some facts that I know are true and have evidence that they are true: MM: -Moved out of house 3 1/2 yrs ago to nearby apt. -Married for 20 years -Wife verbally abusive to husband/no intimacy for 2 yrs before he moved out -3 kids ages 14 to 20 -Wife apologized for wrong doings. They went thru therapy and tried to get back, but the MM has no romantic feelings for her and can not be with her physically -Wife still loves him and told him she won't file for divorce that he has to do it -He has NOT told kids he dates -Wife knows he dates and asked him to move home and he can continue to date discreetly. MM said "no" -Never told the kids they were getting a divorce, just that for the time being he's moving out -He goes to the house almost every week night and has dinner there with kids and wife is often there -Helps with kids on the weekend -No custody schedule -Is not filed divorce or separation papers MW (that's me) -Finally had nerve to leave Husband after 26 years of marriage to a verbally abusive, Narcissistic husband who cheated and is now in relationship for 3 years -Due to unjust, justice system and no funds to pay a lawyer (no child support or alimony) been going thru a nasty divorce for over 3 1/2 years -3 kids ages 12 to 18 -Kids know mom started dating after 2 years of divorce filing -kids ok with mom dating I left the MM over 2 weeks ago. We had a great loving relationship, but told him i can no longer see him if he doesn't tell his kids. While he doesn't hide me when we go out. He avoids places where his kids or their friends may see us. My kids like MM, but agree with me leaving him unless he tells his kids he's dating and getting a divorce. MM text me often that he is going to leave his wife by the end of the month. That he needs that time to make it happen. He does not try to convince me to come back to him. He knows I won't unless he talks to his kids. Would appreciate any feedback as this is very hard. He has told me since 4 months ago that we would tell his kids, but he never did. This time I left him... I really appreciate any feedback you can share. Thanks!
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