Hammerdinrus Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 Hi, So I have a slight nagging problem in the back of my head that I cant seem to stop thinking about. Im dating a girl, who I really like, but Im scared Im only a rebound for her. I moved to Calgary, Ab in September for school, and met her through my roommates friends (I knew no one when I moved here). When I first met her, she was in a relationship. All of us knew that she wasn't exactly happy in it, and at that point I had no interest in her, mainly because she was in a relationship. As the months progressed we began to hang out more 1-on-1, then eventually she told me she liked me. I was told by a lot of our mutual friends that she did like me (shes quite terrible at keeping that sort of stuff to herself). Eventually she started to confide in me, came to my dorm crying several times, and began to spend a lot of time with me. I had never tried anything while she was dating this guy, because I wouldn't be able to date someone who cheated while they were in a relationship, even if it was with me. Early in Dec she broke up with her boyfriend, on my last night before going home for holidays we got together. We spent all of the holiday break talking, and eventually when I got back in Jan we decided to be exclusive and date. I wasnt bothered by this until a couple days ago when she told me of a conversation she had with her dad, who warned her about rebounds. She said she laughed it off and explained I wasn't, but it bothered me, because after doing some reading it seemed as though I am. I mean she seemed very eager to commit to me, I met her parents almost 2 weeks in. She tries quite hard to show me off to her friends. She really often brings me up in compassion to her ex(s). She talks about how much she likes me, but rarely "why." There are loads more, I feel like Im putting too much thought into this, but I like her a lot more than anyone Ive dated in the past and I dont want to stupidly get too attached to her. The only thing that seems to off set a lot my ideas that I am her rebound is that she lost her virginity to me, after dating plenty of other guys, and 2 of them for over a year. We are both seniors in university, so I felt that that was something special. Im not sure though. Thanks for any thoughts/ideas.
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