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The guy I'm dating is in africa at the moment we only have email contact at the moment. Tuesday morning I got an unpleasant wake up call by a rober in the place, I would normally say something straight away but I don't know if I should ruin his trip. He has two weeks left, I was thinking of telling him but reassure him I'm okay and that my family have come up fora few days. What do you guys think?

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If you are none the worse for wear, I'd not mention it. You could lighten the mood a bit when you get together though. "While you were in Africa having an adventure I had a little adventure of my own. You won't believe what happened!" He will be able to see that you are fine now, so won't get that upset. Just tell him you didn't want to ruin his trip and have him worry for no reason since you were fine.

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You know him. If you think he will go crazy while he's gone if you say something, maybe you need to wait. He can't do anything about it now, anyway. If you think he would be upset after he gets back that you didn't mention it earlier, maybe you need to say something.

 

I would probably tell part and not all of the story. Say that there was a break-in, everything is fine and your family is here and you want to wait and discuss the details when he gets back so you can tell him in person, perhaps?

 

(I had a similar situation, not the same but something scary happened to me. I waited until he was back and then told him. I was a little worried about mentioning it, but he just made sure I was okay and said he wished he had been here. I said that I am really able to take care of myself and he said he knows but he doesn't want me to have to. It was a nice moment, actually. Reaction will depend on the guy.)

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