Mr. Savage Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 I feel so cheesy doing it on dates I don't. I will get doors going into buildings or pull a chair out for them to sit in no problem. Do you really think not opening the car door for them has a negative impact on their impression of me? P.S. This is just a curiosity question. I'm not losing sleep over this. lol Link to post Share on other sites
ditzchic Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 I don't really think it's a big deal. I much prefer that a guy treat me well in other ways (calling when he says he will, not breaking plans, showing respect for me) as opposed to all the typical chivalrous stuff. That stuff is nice but it's not the meat and potatoes of what I'm looking for in a guy. Link to post Share on other sites
blueskyday Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 I love it. Major points. Major sex points for later. ha ha Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 Ive never done it. Im not a chauffeur. Ive never even heard girls my age say they care about that. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 I don't really think it's a big deal. I much prefer that a guy treat me well in other ways (calling when he says he will, not breaking plans, showing respect for me) as opposed to all the typical chivalrous stuff. That stuff is nice but it's not the meat and potatoes of what I'm looking for in a guy. I like both. Meat and potatoes are more important, but some kick-ass gravy on top doesn't hurt. OP, I'm not sure if it's my generation, but I've never had guys do the car door thing. Maybe it's because I usually have it open already and am stepping out while they're doing the same. I would find it a bit weird if a guy rushed to open it. I have often had guys open doors, walk on the outside of sidewalks, etc though, and I loved that. Those feel more natural and less rushed. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Disenchantedly Yours Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 It's not a requirement but when a man does, it totally gets noticed by me and really appreciated me. It makes me feel all girly and stuff. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 Tend to her, unless she objects. When she sits down, hand her the seat belt so she doesn't have to fidget for it. It's not just corteousy, it's "connection" to a goodly degree. Either you care for her, if not love her, or you don't. If it's someone new, just shut up and do it regardless to show you're socially aware that eveything is not all about you. You can't lose (unless you're inept, bungling, and step in dog shi+ and track it in and angrily blame her). Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 A guy doesn't have to do it, but he stirs up major feelings of appreciation and attachment in me if he does. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 I think more men would do it if we weren't constantly reminded of how useless and horrible we are. The death of chivalry did not happen in a vacuum. If there weren't so much misandry I think more men would be much more willing to show these manners. Link to post Share on other sites
TheFinalWord Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 I think more men would do it if we weren't constantly reminded of how useless and horrible we are. The death of chivalry did not happen in a vacuum. If there weren't so much misandry I think more men would be much more willing to show these manners. I think it shows good manners and that you respect her Plus it makes it clear you are interested romantically. I mainly posted so I could test out the new "like" feature on here! Nice touch admins!! Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 Opening the door, pulling out a chair so on an so forth....get's you laid!!!!!! Love chivalry!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 Opening the door, pulling out a chair so on an so forth....get's you laid!!!!!! Love chivalry!!!!!!!!! My cute face and toned body get me laid. YMMV lolz Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mr. Savage Posted February 15, 2012 Author Share Posted February 15, 2012 Opening the door, pulling out a chair so on an so forth....get's you laid!!!!!! Love chivalry!!!!!!!!! This kind of caters to my point. If you are doing just to score brownie points and probably wont be doing it anymore 6 months to a year into the relationship why present yourself as someone you are not. The poster who said he does it for old women, children, and dates is being very genuine and I totally respect that. Link to post Share on other sites
silvermercy Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 (edited) I don't know if it's because I live in the UK, where people have a reputation for being extra polite, but all these years even women hold the door open for me (and i do the same). Depends where you live I guess! So I'm very USED to it now. But to answer your question, it's not expected at all. However, you will get EXTRA points by doing this (as long as you are GENUINE. We can usually tell if you're not). lol Edited February 15, 2012 by silvermercy 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Oxy Moronovich Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Women have arms. Let them hold the door open themselves. All this extra points and "I greatly appreciate it" talk is bogus. So what if you get extra points? She could easily bail out on you anyway. You could pay for dinner, hold the door open, compliment her looks, and still get rejected in the end. In the 21st century women should learn to open doors for themselves. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Women have arms. Let them hold the door open themselves. All this extra points and "I greatly appreciate it" talk is bogus. So what if you get extra points? She could easily bail out on you anyway. You could pay for dinner, hold the door open, compliment her looks, and still get rejected in the end. In the 21st century women should learn to open doors for themselves. Where's the "dislike" button? Boo. It's a privledge to help one's girl get comfortably seated. That's what it's about, man. Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 ^Privilege? Riiiiiight Link to post Share on other sites
Disenchantedly Yours Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 women have arms. we do?????!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Where's the "dislike" button? Boo. It's a privledge to help one's girl get comfortably seated. That's what it's about, man. It's only one if the woman is worth it. If she is one of those women that hates men and posts on certain sites she can hold her own damn door. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 LOL ... y'all are terrible. look, if those were the manners that you were raised with, use them. It's an old-fashioned, sweet courtesy when someone does that. I don't care if it's a guy getting the car door for a girl or a young person holding a door open for her elder ... it's good manners. if it's not something you'd normally do, then don't sweat it. It's about being natural around someone. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Hubby opens the car door for me. He tries to get entrance doors, though if I get there first I hold it for him. He knows I hate chair-pulling-out, so he doesn't do that. I'm not big on chivalry and never cared that other people didn't open the car door (never had a guy who did it regularly before I met hubby), but I have to say it's kind of nice. Maybe it's a symptom of his overall awesomeness; I didn't really take it as one at first, but it certainly could be. I seriously doubt it's dinging you much on dates if you don't and you're under 40, though. I don't know many women who expect it as commonplace. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Opening a building's door is nice or holding it open, but not the car door. I don't have the patience to sit there waiting. Sometimes a man will unlock the door for me first, wait for me to get in, then close the door. That is fine. Very natural, not awkward. Link to post Share on other sites
Oxy Moronovich Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Where's the "dislike" button? Boo. It's a privledge to help one's girl get comfortably seated. That's what it's about, man. Why would you date a chick that doesn't know how to get comfortably seated by her own self? Get the crap outta here with that priviledge crap, you living doormat. Do you wipe your chick's butt too? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 It's only one if the woman is worth it. If she is one of those women that hates men and posts on certain sites she can hold her own damn door. That's assumed. If she's a selfish, catty, contentious, irritable, demanding and demeaning pain, she gone. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Opening a building's door is nice or holding it open, but not the car door. I don't have the patience to sit there waiting. Sometimes a man will unlock the door for me first, wait for me to get in, then close the door. That is fine. Very natural, not awkward. Oh, yes. Opening the door to let me out of the car is WEIRD and I'd be annoyed with that, the same way I am with chair-pulling (or would be with standing at a door waiting for a guy to open it). Hubby doesn't do that. I was speaking to when you get in the car, not out of it. Link to post Share on other sites
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