Author Disenchantedly Yours Posted February 15, 2012 Author Posted February 15, 2012 I just pick up the nearest girl I find cute and throw her over my shoulder. Which means that if there are two cute girls between me and you, you're out of luck no matter how hot you are. I only have two shoulders! But you got two hands, you could drag two more girls behind you by their hair...well maybe only one. YOu got to still carry your club.
ptp Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 I just pick up the nearest girl I find cute and throw her over my shoulder. Which means that if there are two cute girls between me and you, you're out of luck no matter how hot you are. I only have two shoulders! In my experience, one should club them in the head first, prior to throwing them over the shoulder. That way there is less talking.
kaylan Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 This. But assuming there are multiple people who peak your interest, what then? On what criteria do you decide who to speak to first? Whomever I am most attracted to I will talk to first. Thats if no one has made eyes with me yet. If one particular chick gives me the eye first then Ill talk to her first. Then a little later Ill go talk to the chick I was most attracted to in the beginning.
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 Yeah, I don't think that's the best way to look at it either. But it's nice to know that a man approaches you for more then just closing his eyes and pointing to a group of attractive girls and just landing on any ole one Well, what I mean is let's say there's a group of similarly attractive "normal" looking (like not heavily tatted up or a gross amount of piercings or something) women and all of them are strangers to me. How then do I pick who to approach? I don't know anyone's personality so I have to pick at random.
verhrzn Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 Whomever I am most attracted to I will talk to first. Thats if no one has made eyes with me yet. *Points* Thus, my statement is not ridiculous.
Lonely Ronin Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 *Points* Thus, my statement is not ridiculous. Yes, but it's not the only method, and it sure seems like you think it is.
A O Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 What makes you approach one girl over another? Their level of interest in me. I'm not a 'cold caller' so to speak. Given that attraction, on my part, is evident, then I'm looking for a woman with like behavior towards me. If, on the rare occasion, there's more than one attractive woman signalling interest in me (at the same time) then other factors come into play. All things equal on the physical front though, then how they're interacting with their friends, namely, how much fun they appear to be having is what I look for next. .
Fondue Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 I'm like a heat-seeking missile. If I spot someone that tickles my fancy, I don't care how far away they are, I'm going straight for her. It's probably pretty funny to see, I'll walk all the way across the bar when I got my target on lock down. This is of course, after I devise a full plan, know exactly what my conversation should be like, and know exactly what to say/reply. I play approaches like a game of chess. I will be several moves ahead-- always. As far as you girls complaining, "omg, it's always the hottest girl in the bar!" Well ****, what do you expect? Looks are ALWAYS the first thing to click. You gotta like what you're looking at. This is of course a good thing because LOOKS ARE SUBJECTIVE. What you might find hot, I might find repulsive. Additionally, many of us guys have a check list of things we go through before we commit to an approach. For example, what shoes she's wearing. if she's wearing Uggs, there's no flippin' way I'm approaching her. Staying away from her like the plague. For many other dudes, that might be okay. If I spot a girl who has green/pink/purple/odd colored hair, I get a mind boner. Other guys might find that repulsive. It's cool, we're all different. I don't think you have the right to complain that men who approach women tend to approach the most aesthetically pleasing. I am sure most women would be doing the same if they were approaching men. Or even better yet, I'm sure most women are THINKING in their mind, "OMG I HOPE THE HOTTEST GUYS IN HERE APPROACH ME," none of that "well, I hope the chubby short guys with acne scarring approach me tonight." Not sure how you can deny this. 1
Anela Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 Yeah but I'm sorry I'm not a member of the church of verhzn... by the way I hate your user name. You've lost it verhzn you've driven yourself past the sweet spot of crazy and into the too crazy category. I can imagine you infront of a mirror pulling at your face while screaming then throwing your comb and watching it shatter. Then pricking your fingers with the broken glass and writing something with your figner tip blood. No, that would be me. Mentally throwing things, occasionally anyway. It is horrible to feel that way, and I'm right back there, unfortunately. I'm turning into a spelling snob. Isn't the word "piqued" and not "peaked"?
Anela Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 If a girl is otherwise occupied I'm not going to approach her no matter how hot she is. Only a player would attempt something like that. Oh, I'm not that hot, and I'm almost always with someone. I had the attention of a guy in the bookstore cafe the other night, but I think it was my accent that was the attraction. I was walking around looking for books by Rudyard Kipling and Roald Dahl (couldn't find any in the proper sections - only a paperback of The Jungle Book, in the bargains), and feeling antsy. just after I told my Dad that I would be ready to go in a few minutes, this guy jumped up and started packing his things in his bag. The only time I can remember being approached, in the last few years, was when a guy stopped in the a doorway of a supermarket, when I got mixed up (thinking he was coming through, so I held the door open). I guess he liked my smile and my laugh, but then I froze as he hung back and started to talk. Another guy passed my sister and I in a store, and said, "hello, ladies.." and a third enthusiastically let us know that a tarot reader was in another store the same day every week, just as he would be. My sister is very pretty and well-dressed, so I think they were more attracted to her. I'm used to guys going goopy over her.
Anela Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 In my experience, one should club them in the head first, prior to throwing them over the shoulder. That way there is less talking. That could be what's behind all of the headaches later on. Shooting yourself in the foot there.
Eclypse Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 Yes this is will sound shallow but I will of course approach the girl that I find to be hottest (and not visibly attached to a guy). But like Fondue said that is subjective and what other people find hot I don't and vice versa. As an example I was out with a friend at a club a few weeks ago and we began talking about the chicks. When he mentioned someone he thought was hot I'd personally thought she wasn't much to look at. I tend to go for the slim, leggy types with cute faces. Unfortunately that is the way it is, but if a girl decided to approach me and was passable in terms of looks then I would of course pay attention to her and give her a go and who knows what would happen next. If girls want a guy they will greatly increase their chances if they approach him. But if they just stand back and wait for the men to approach, then of course they will just go for the hottest ones first before moving down.
Author Disenchantedly Yours Posted February 16, 2012 Author Posted February 16, 2012 (edited) Fondue As far as you girls complaining, "omg, it's always the hottest girl in the bar!" Well ****, what do you expect? Looks are ALWAYS the first thing to click. You gotta like what you're looking at. This is of course a good thing because LOOKS ARE SUBJECTIVE. What you might find hot, I might find repulsive. To some degree I agree but I find men have less range in what they find attractive then women do. Men seem to fall more pray to stereotyical ideals of beauty in women then the reverse. They don't seem to appreicate a wide variety of women as much as women seem to be able to do. That's always been my experience when hearing men or women talk about the other gender or seeing what they like. I don't think you have the right to complain that men who approach women tend to approach the most aesthetically pleasing. I am sure most women would be doing the same if they were approaching men. Or even better yet, I'm sure most women are THINKING in their mind, "OMG I HOPE THE HOTTEST GUYS IN HERE APPROACH ME," none of that "well, I hope the chubby short guys with acne scarring approach me tonight." Not sure how you can deny this. Those are two extremes. I am not always attracted to the "hot" guy. I can recongnize that is would be considered attractive yes, but that doesn't make him automoatically attractive to me. I find women much more fluid in this then men. Despite the fact that yes, some women do like tall,dark, handsome types. And I think that's why women complain and have a right to. During the Superbowl I went to a sports bar with a friend. Just me and another woman. And we were just watching the game and there were two guys near us that were watching the game. Can't say that stereotypically the one guy was 'hot". He was an average guy, probably about 5'7ish, not buff but not overweight either. But I really attracted to him and wanted him to talk to me. He didn't but oh wells. There were a bunch of men there that night of course and some would have been considered more attractive by society standards then I personally considered them. Edited February 16, 2012 by Disenchantedly Yours
Emilia Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 Whomever I am most attracted to I will talk to first. Thats if no one has made eyes with me yet. If one particular chick gives me the eye first then Ill talk to her first. Then a little later Ill go talk to the chick I was most attracted to in the beginning. This is what I do as well. What if the girl you were attracted to most gets chatted up in the meantime by another guy? Don't you regret talking to the other girl who was giving you looks but you didn't like that much?
Emilia Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 Those are two extremes. I am not always attracted to the "hot" guy. I can recongnize that is would be considered attractive yes, but that doesn't make him automoatically attractive to me. I find women much more fluid in this then men. Despite the fact that yes, some women do like tall,dark, handsome types. And I think that's why women complain and have a right to. During the Superbowl I went to a sports bar with a friend. Just me and another woman. And we were just watching the game and there were two guys near us that were watching the game. Can't say that stereotypically the one guy was 'hot". He was an average guy, probably about 5'7ish, not buff but not overweight either. But I really attracted to him and wanted him to talk to me. He didn't but oh wells. There were a bunch of men there that night of course and some would have been considered more attractive by society standards then I personally considered them. I think it's more about age rather than gender and sometimes whether a person reminds you of someone you already know and like. I think younger ones go for stereotypical hotties while those slightly older or with more dating experience pick up on signs they found attractive in the past.
Jynxx Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 10 meter is an infernal long walk of shame back to your buddies if she shoots you down.
xxoo Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 If girls want a guy they will greatly increase their chances if they approach him. But if they just stand back and wait for the men to approach, then of course they will just go for the hottest ones first before moving down. Can you talk more about "moving down"? How attracted are you to these women? Do you approach and ask out women you are NOT attracted to? How does it work out?
Author Disenchantedly Yours Posted February 16, 2012 Author Posted February 16, 2012 I think it means he's attracted most to the one he calls "hottest" first and then considers it moving down and "downgrading" to the next best option. Most guys probably pine for the hottie while banging whatever is availble to them. Or they just think about things from porn so they can stay hard enough to do it with someone they consider less attracitve. Or they suggest to look at porn with this person so they can keep it up to do it with her but it's not really about her so much as it is the other women he is thinking about or visually looking at. *shrug*
xxoo Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 I think it means he's attracted most to the one he calls "hottest" first and then considers it moving down and "downgrading" to the next best option. Most guys probably pine for the hottie while banging whatever is availble to them. Or they just think about things from porn so they can stay hard enough to do it with someone they consider less attracitve. Or they suggest to look at porn with this person so they can keep it up to do it with her but it's not really about her so much as it is the other women he is thinking about or visually looking at. *shrug* I'm really hoping he (or other men) respond, because I know that's what V thinks....and I think it is completely different. I think most men feel very lucky to get a girl naked, and are turned on by her body, even if she wasn't the first girl he was attracted to in the room. I really doubt they have to think of other women to stay hard when there is a naked woman right in front of them. I also don't think they would approach at all if they didn't have any attraction. I guess we'll see!
Emilia Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 I'm really hoping he (or other men) respond, because I know that's what V thinks....and I think it is completely different. I think most men feel very lucky to get a girl naked, and are turned on by her body, even if she wasn't the first girl he was attracted to in the room. I really doubt they have to think of other women to stay hard when there is a naked woman right in front of them. I also don't think they would approach at all if they didn't have any attraction. I guess we'll see! I also think most men have a pretty wide range when it comes to 'hotness' - as some guys here said before. Attraction goes way beyond looks anyway and no doubt there are many men who suddenly found a girl growing on them when they got to know her better.
aj22one Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 Can you talk more about "moving down"? How attracted are you to these women? Do you approach and ask out women you are NOT attracted to? How does it work out? There's attractive and "attractive", ya know? For me, I definitely notice very attractive women (I think it works the same way for women I'd imagine) but you also gotta look at body language and other things that factor into attractiveness. If I see an absolutely gorgeous women eating her boogers or something, I'm not likely to want to go up and chat her up, haha. And I definitely try to work the room, talk to as many people as possible. I'm definitely not hitting on all of them. And then I try to narrow the list to a few women I think are pretty cool and worth getting to know romantically. Because I have a very specific type, I'm lucky if that list has any more than 2 women on it.
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 No doubt some guys do that. In real life, plenty guys are just as horrified by the thought of rejection as women are. They are not just going down the gauntlet of hotness with a cavalier attitude. Most regular guys really will approach a girl who they find attractive and who also seems like she might go for him. I'm sure the idea that success (whatever that means) is likely trumps the hotness of the girl much of the time.
AD1980 Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 To some degree I agree but I find men have less range in what they find attractive then women do. Men seem to fall more pray to stereotyical ideals of beauty in women then the reverse. They don't seem to appreicate a wide variety of women as much as women seem to be able to do. That's always been my experience when hearing men or women talk about the other gender or seeing what they like. Those are two extremes. I am not always attracted to the "hot" guy. I can recongnize that is would be considered attractive yes, but that doesn't make him automoatically attractive to me. I find women much more fluid in this then men. Despite the fact that yes, some women do like tall,dark, handsome types. And I think that's why women complain and have a right to. lol theyre's no evidence that women have a wider range of what they find attractive in fact studies online have shown women find a small group of men attractive.. The guy who had all the women fawning over him in my social circle was the stereotypical tall dark and handsome guy in our group.. Just because you dotn go for 10's doesnt mean women have a more wide range in what they find attractive..
Author Disenchantedly Yours Posted February 16, 2012 Author Posted February 16, 2012 Just because you dotn go for 10's doesnt mean women have a more wide range in what they find attractive.. That's why my opinion is based not only on myself but what I see from my friends and women around me. 1
zengirl Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 To some degree I agree but I find men have less range in what they find attractive then women do. Men seem to fall more pray to stereotyical ideals of beauty in women then the reverse. They don't seem to appreicate a wide variety of women as much as women seem to be able to do. That's always been my experience when hearing men or women talk about the other gender or seeing what they like. You know, I think that's actually generational, and I think it's a misinterpretation. For generations, women relied on love and husbands for their identities, and even as that changed, it did not just flip a 180 at once. It only makes sense that women in those generations and even the generations preceding (who had careers but had grown up with images of different types of couples) would be socialized to accept greater physical flaws in a partner in exchange for other more important (to social survival) traits. I do not think the ideal of beauty was any less true for men; it's just that men were able to avoid it, because society was so male-driven. That has solidly changed by now to the point where I would say women in my generation or younger (under 30 now) are entirely free of that previous socialization. Statistics are showing that younger women are more "narrow" in what men are considered attractive than young men are. Both have ideas and ideals about beauty, and both compromise ideal beauty for other traits in some situations, and ALL people are individuals, but I don't think what you're saying is really backed up today. If it ever existed, it was a product of societal norms and the dependence women had on the family unit.
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