Scoobyd Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 I got into an argument which was really bad and ended up with her running out. After she ran out our communication was very little. We spoke briefly over a course the first week apart; we pretty much decided to give each other space. Over the next 3 months we didn't speak at all. She sent me text one evening asking how I was doing. That text led to phones a day or so after. She stopped by one night(after the texts turned into calls). We ended up having sex that night. Before we had sex she told me was dating some othe guy and they already had sex multiple times. At that moment I was numb and couldn't think much. It wasn't until a week or so later that it really hit me and made me feel sad. I didn't understand how she could move on and have sex with someone else after a month apart. I struggle with both the fact that someone else had sex with her; more so that it was so shortly after our fight. The whole ideal of knowing someone was in her is crushing. Sometimes I don't look at her the same; but I still love her. Someone say something please so I can get a feel if that sort of situation is normal or am I just being a egomaniac
Philosoraptor Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 You are separated and she is free to do whatever she pleases. What was your reason to go through with sleeping with her after being told she was dating someone else? It's not abnormal to be jealous over what an ex is doing and who they are doing it with. But it's something you just have to accept as her choices and the fact that your opinion doesn't matter anymore. All we can do after a breakup is to concentrate on ourselves and find our own path to healing and happiness.
bluewolf17 Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 That sounds painful Scoyb'd. I'm sorry. What you have to keep reminding yourself every day and night, is that you are not together. As long as you stay in contact, it will delay your getting past it. You got into a big fight, and it sounds like she may be ready to move on, but she stays in contact just in case. If she wanted you back, don't you think she would tell you? She is with another guy. I know it's very heard to hear, but you need to accept that and don't be the fall back guy waiting around. It's desperate and you are better than that.
geegirl Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 So, did you both end it or did she just want space? I don't believe in breaks (space) but I feel that breaks aren't for going out there and sleeping with others but more so to get clarity as to whether you/both want the relationship. I am just curious. It is normal for you to feel this way. There is nothing egotistical about you being territorial. She was once yours and you still feel that way. In any case, why are you sleeping with her when she is with someone else? It's in your best interest to let her go and begin detaching. Nothing good can come out of you being close to her.
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