Awarth Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 Hey all, its been a while since i posted here~anyway, got some questions i will like to ask~ anyway, a quick background story, been wif this girl for 5 yrs, she left me around 3 mths ago for another guy that she only met for 2 mths...i have not been contacting her, but she will sometime contact me through phone or msg.. anyway, fast forward to valentine's day. so at around 1 am of valentine's day, my ex suddenly send me a msg, wishing me happy vday...being polite, i reply wif a happie vday too.. then i was preparing to sleep as i thought that she will just broke off and go too, however, she suddenly send me another msg again, this time calling me by my pet name she used to call me when we are together, and she start to tell me that she is is so sorry for all the things she had done...then, its not over, she starts to tell me that she is crying at the 1st hr of valentine's day, coz her bf said alot of mean things to her and she is feeling v sad, and she even says that she misses the time when i will be there for her when she is down... so anyway, i just reply her wif a few simple sentence, lyk "its okie, i am sorry to hear that"..blah blah blah...yup yup...then after that, she just wish me gd nitex and SMS chain ended... So guys and ladies, any insight on why she is doing this? just looking for comfort i guess? its been 3 mths, and i am feeling much better, although i will still miss her sometimes..but honestly speaking, i still want this girl back into my life, and i have seriously thought this through wif a clear head. but as much as i want her to come back to my arms, i know that the valentine's day msg she send me definitely does not means that she wants to come back..so anyone got a guess why she is being lyk this? thks!
Philosoraptor Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 She is hurt, lonely, and missing the comfort from the past. It's not unusual and it being Valentine's day I'm sure many people either got messaged or used so their ex could make it through the day ok. It's noble of you to be honest with yourself and to have not given into her wants. If you are to ever give it another try she will need time alone to mature and heal before a successful reconciliation could begin.
Chi townD Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 Dude! Read what you just wrote again! She's texting you because she lonely and sad because she got into a fight with her boyfriend. NOW, she's callingyou by your pet name and everything? Wow! She is using you! How does it feel to be her back up plan? I would have been MAD AS HELL if my Ex wrote that to me! How dare she use you to give her an ego stroke and boost just because she got into a fight.... grrr... Your post just got me spun up!
CaliBabe Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 I agree with Chi, she is using you as an emotional crutch. Don't let her treat you that way.
Frank13 Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 (edited) As usual, Chi is right. It would be one thing if she just did it, but she only did it because of the fight. If there had been no fight you probably wouldn't have heard anything. Edited February 15, 2012 by Frank13
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