Badsingularity Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 Why would getting my fears confirmed by being rejected by a random girl be something to be proud of? I can go to my campus and get rejected by 20 girls in one hour. What can that possibly do for me? All it would do is lower my self-esteem by confirming that girls don't like me. Did you know that the mere fact that you were brave enough to walk to up to a girl and face possible rejection makes you more attractive to a woman than a guy who is to scared to do it. If you don't believe me, ask a few women here. Women like bravery, they responde to courage. If you want to become more attractive this is the first step you need to take. Also. Do you think that every women is the same? That they are all carboard cut outs of one another? You will get dates if you keep asking women out. Not just 2 or 3 a year though. You have to keep doing it until one says yes. Then you can learn from your dates and if it doesn't work out then you just start asking girls out again and learning more. The point of this is that while you are doing this YOU WILL LEARN ALOT ABOUT WOMEN. "confirming girls don't like me" Like I said all women are not the same. Some girls like me and some don't. Some think I'm handsome and some think I'm ugly. Same for you. I've actualy experinced this first hand. You have to weed through the ones that would never like you or that don't think your handsome to find the ones that do like you and do think your handsome. I promise you they are out there. You know what? I would have to right a book to explain it all to you. I think I'll just right out some tips for you. Little things that took me a long time to learn. You may already know some of this stuff. -don't complain or whine about anything. It turns women off. -you have to grow a thick skin if you won't to be able to handle a relationship with a women. -a guy with confidence will be percieved by most women he talks to to be handsome even if he's not. (Had this happen to me. Girl did not think I was handsome and didn't like me "in that way". Saw the girl 4 years later after I had gained alot of confidence and suddenly I was hot and handsome. The only thing that had changed was my attitude and confidence. - don't text a girl asking why she has not answered your text -when you call a girl and she does not pick up. Don't call again 3 more times. She will see that you called the first time. -You as a man have to be a rock in a relationship with a women. You have to be able to handle hard crap thrown your way much better than she does. There are a million more things but I'm done with this post. Hope it helps.
Cypress25 Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 Why would getting my fears confirmed by being rejected by a random girl be something to be proud of? I can go to my campus and get rejected by 20 girls in one hour. What can that possibly do for me? All it would do is lower my self-esteem by confirming that girls don't like me. What if one of those girls says yes? 1
AD1980 Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 -don't complain or whine about anything. It turns women off. -you have to grow a thick skin if you won't to be able to handle a relationship with a women. that you called the first time. -You as a man have to be a rock in a relationship with a women. You have to be able to handle hard crap thrown your way much better than she does. So were supposed to be robots who never have fears or insecuruties while women are allowed to be emotional messes? Who wants that respnsibility,sounds like more of a father daughter relationship then a parntership
Cracker Jack Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 I don't think that's what he's implying. 1
Badsingularity Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 So were supposed to be robots who never have fears or insecuruties while women are allowed to be emotional messes? Pretty much. Ok, seriously. Everyone has fears and insecurities but it's best as a man to have as few as possible. and yes women are allowed to be more emotional. Who wants that respnsibility,sounds like more of a father daughter relationship then a parntership Relationships aren't easy
Badsingularity Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 I don't think that's what he's implying. I like your sig:cool:
somedude81 Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 What if one of those girls says yes? That's not possible. Just why would a girl even say yes? And even if the odd chance she said yes, maybe because she was scared of whatever, wanted me to go away, there is no chance it would actually lead to a date. Do you think that every women is the same? That they are all carboard cut outs of one another? From what I've seen they are more similar than different. I've been rejected by enough women to know that I'm not what they want. You have to weed through the ones that would never like you or that don't think your handsome to find the ones that do like you and do think your handsome. I promise you they are out there. I'm 30 now and have been playing this game since I was 13. I highly doubt that a woman who likes me, who would meet my minimum criteria, actually exists. -don't complain or whine about anything. It turns women off. Know that already. -you have to grow a thick skin if you won't to be able to handle a relationship with a women. What does that mean? -a guy with confidence will be percieved by most women he talks to to be handsome even if he's not. (Had this happen to me. Girl did not think I was handsome and didn't like me "in that way". Saw the girl 4 years later after I had gained alot of confidence and suddenly I was hot and handsome. The only thing that had changed was my attitude and confidence. Actually getting confidence is the hard part. I haven't figured it out yet. - don't text a girl asking why she has not answered your text -when you call a girl and she does not pick up. Don't call again 3 more times. She will see that you called the first time. Already knew these and don't do them, well mostly. If a girl doesn't respond to a text in a day or two I ask what's up. But it also depends if she's spacy or not. -You as a man have to be a rock in a relationship with a women. You have to be able to handle hard crap thrown your way much better than she does. One of the many benefits of being a man
Badsingularity Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 (edited) That's not possible. That is totaly in your head dude. It's very possible. At one point in time I TRULY BELIEVED that no women could like me. People close to me would tell me I was wrong, but I would argue and argue with them with what I thought at the time was sound logic. Well. I turned out to be wrong big time, but I wasted years believing that, just like you do now. From what I've seen they are more similar than different. Not true. Some women are smart, some are dumb. Some are jerks and some are the nicest people you could meet. They cover a large spectrum. I've been rejected by enough women to know that I'm not what they want. I know your story man. I can tell you that you do not ask out nearly enough women to be able to say that. I'm 30 now and have been playing this game since I was 13. I highly doubt that a woman who likes me, who would meet my minimum criteria, actually exists. Thats just negative thinking. Not realistic thinking. You just haven't been playing the game right. -you have to grow a thick skin if you won't to be able to handle a relationship with a women. What does that mean? If you easily get your feelings hurt or you get offended and defensive too easily, then you'll have a tough time in a relationship with a women. Women are always testing you to see what kind of man you are, wether they know it or not, they do it. If you fail those tests it only makes things worse. Actually getting confidence is the hard part. I haven't figured it out yet. Conquering your fears helps build confidence. -You as a man have to be a rock in a relationship with a women. You have to be able to handle hard crap thrown your way much better than she does. One of the many benefits of being a man Sucks but it's the truth:laugh: Edited February 16, 2012 by Badsingularity
FrustratedStandards Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 It's not true that we think bad of shy guys. It's just a turn off when he can't approach you, and I don't chase men. There are so many bad connotations with a woman doing the approaching too. Men think she is either desperate or too aggressive.
Alex DeLarge Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 (edited) .. Or you could just be a man and approach a girl if you find her sexy. Most of the time girls will be receptive to what you say, as long as you don't use some cheesy pick up line (even then those can be used for irony of breaking the ice). I used to be the shy guy at the party, but I eventually learned to come out of my shell and am now the life of the party! Once you approach your first girl and keep doing it, it gets easier and easier. Trust me! You'll be on par with a PUA in no time lol.. Those guys just run a scam business, all you need is CONFIDENCE. Think about it.. Men are supposed to be brave and protecting of their woman. You think a woman is gonna be turned on by a man who doesn't even have the balls to talk to her?! HELL NO! Ever see those relationships where a guy's wife bosses him around all the time? That is the outcome of a shy guy meeting an outgoing girl. I'd rather go celibate the rest of my life than deal with an overly bossy wife. Edited February 16, 2012 by Alex DeLarge
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