Author Whipple Posted February 16, 2012 Author Posted February 16, 2012 I definitely don't doubt that I have an issue. I had a funny feeling that this would happen eventually when I met a nice guy. As planned, he brought me dinner and we sat and talked for a while. He informed that he told his parents about me. I asked him what he told them and said that he talked about how he met me and that they seem to like me based on what he's told them. Okay, stupid question time. Was it appropriate for him to tell his parents already? Again, this is very foreign territory because all of my exes had strained relationships with their parents. Hell, my last ex never even told his parents about me and we dated over a year! This current guy seems to be close to his parents because they meet up during the week for a meal and they still take family vacations every once in a while. I thanked him for dinner and in all honesty, I don't remember my tone of voice when I thanked him. He replied, "The way you thank me makes it seem like you're expecting me to be an ass or something." Well, he totally called me out. He asked if I have been in ****ty relationships before and I couldn't lie so I said yes. He said, "Well I was brought up differently." At that point I felt defeated and told him that I did feel scared. He then told me to not overcomplicate things and that he's learned to open up his heart and I should do the same. So yeah, he knows. Now I feel even more terrified. I guess he cares enough to be perceptive. I'm terrified that I'm going to disappoint him or I'm already tarnishing this image he has of me.
neowulf Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 So yeah, he knows. Now I feel even more terrified. I guess he cares enough to be perceptive. I'm terrified that I'm going to disappoint him or I'm already tarnishing this image he has of me. He likes you. He likes you enough to hear that you come to the table with baggage, yet *still* give it a try. There are no certainties in dating. Anyone who's been heart broken before is bound to be frightened. It will take time, trust and a little faith. Just keep being honest with him. You might want to consider getting some counselling to help work through these feelings. Being open to a relationship means being open to being wrong, to being disappointed and to being hurt. That's just the way it goes. The alternative is being detached and alone. He sounds like a great guy. Try relax and enjoy it
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