Imajerk17 Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 (edited) I have been meeting a decent amount of women for living in a small town. For living in a small town that is. Obviously--it's V-Day day and here I am on this forum. There aren't that many women on here over 25 who are cute and don't have either a ring on their finger or a man by their side who is clearly their S/O. I approach women all the time, usually during lunch, or in the evenings at the grocery store, which is the time and place the women do their grocery shopping after their workouts. But I'm thinking I need to "go Dust" and take it up a notch. I went to the store tonight after my workout and as I was walking in, this hottie was walking out, kind of in a hurry. I should have stopped her to talk to her--it's Valentines Day so she must be single, right?--but I did not. Fcvk it next time. No woman who strikes my fancy and who doesn't have a ring or a man on her arms is getting by me. And even then I'm not going to be staying here forever, who cares if people here think I'm crazy. I need to push things more, even if I come across as obnoxious to some. That I've never gotten slapped means I am doing something wrong. Edited February 15, 2012 by Imajerk17 2
Cracker Jack Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 I think it's about time to take it up a notch as well. I'm not sure I can do anything on the same level as Dust yet, tho. I just need to be more bold. 1
cerridwen Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 I think it's about time to take it up a notch as well. I'm not sure I can do anything on the same level as Dust yet, tho. I just need to be more bold. Go on with your bad self, Cracker Jack. You're a great guy. I'd like to see things come together for you. Imajerk, get smacked! 1
Cracker Jack Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 Thanks, cerri;) I'm certainly going to do more to really push my comfort zone.
Author Imajerk17 Posted February 15, 2012 Author Posted February 15, 2012 Yeah you're right. I at least could have sang to them. The irony is that the ballsier you are, the cooler you appear. A real badazz charges in while creeps are the ones who loiter. 1
Author Imajerk17 Posted February 15, 2012 Author Posted February 15, 2012 (edited) I need some updates this thread could be really entertaining. Somedude kicked it up a notch. He held the door open for a girl and then watched her ass as she walked up the stairs ahead of him. Too bad thats all he did! The best update will be when you ask a girl out and have a great time! Finding that special girl could take months or more. I know I've been there. Thanks man. I once started a conversation w a girl in a parking garage. She was walking in, I was walking out, but she was so hawt I turned around to catch up to her. I asked her how she liked her car and then told her that I didnt care about her car, I just wanted to meet *her*. Got a very positive reaction but she showed me the ring on her finger. I once met a girl who was with her friend walking the streets of my home town. I thought they were cute so I just went up and talked to them. Turns out they were tourists. We hung out all day and I kissed the girl I was into. We had seperate tabs for dinner but I bought her AND her friend coffee. I'm a nice guy! I have some stories. Some. As I said, I need to kick it up further. Edited February 15, 2012 by Imajerk17 1
Author Imajerk17 Posted February 17, 2012 Author Posted February 17, 2012 (edited) Last night, after my workout, I go to the supermarket. I was sweaty but (I think) smelling clean--I keep a stick of anti-persperant in my gym bag for these reasons--and pumped. There's nothing like a routine of heavy back squats and yoke carries to get the testosterone flowing. Over by the coffee line I see this woman who was...hot. No ring on her finger! I feel the tension rise, because I know what this means.... After she orders, I ask her what she got. We get to talking, and I confess that I didn't come over for the coffee, I came over to talk to her. We chat for a good 5 minutes, and then her friend (a guy) comes over. I introduce myself to him. He seems cool. Anyway, I put this girl's number in my phone, and I tell her I will give her a call Saturday morning (tomorrow). We shall see.... Edited February 17, 2012 by Imajerk17 2
Oxy Moronovich Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 Jerky, looks like you're doing good. It's actually good to see a positive thread from a dude for once. I am getting tired of all these lame "How do I talk to women/a woman I like?" threads from all these cornball losers. 1
Author Imajerk17 Posted February 17, 2012 Author Posted February 17, 2012 Jerky, looks like you're doing good. It's actually good to see a positive thread from a dude for once. I am getting tired of all these lame "How do I talk to women/a woman I like?" threads from all these cornball losers. Thanks man! I do OK. The thing is, I struggled with this like social anxiety and whatnot my whole life. But I knew that I had to get over it. And I did what I had to, to get over it. Isn't that what men are supposed to go, take on obstacles? Don't get me wrong. I don't get every girl. But I make my fair share of plays. I absolutely can relate to feeling frustrated with women. I have a hard time though, feeling sympathy to the guys who just come on here and whimper like lost puppies, instead of actually making it a point to do something. I call these guys the Lovable Losers. They can change things around as much as anyone else can, but as long as they keep their "Loser" mindset (they're "Lovable" because they actually seem like decent guys) they will stay down.
Oxy Moronovich Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 Being afraid to talk to women is not what makes these guys cornball losers. It's when they keep whining and making posts and threads about how they have a difficult time meeting women. Folks will give them tips but then these dudes won't take the advice or give excuses. Plus, when these whiny threads become too many, you tend to get tired of them. That's why it's good to see an uplifting thread from a dude who is trying to get chicks.
Author Imajerk17 Posted February 17, 2012 Author Posted February 17, 2012 (edited) Man what a story... although I'd give a call now! and ask her out for either tonight or tomorrow. I mean heck what are you doing? If she doesn't answer I wouldn't leave a msg just try again in like 30 mins and send her a txt msg at that point something like "I was trying to call you its ______ from the supermarket. Lets get dinner tonight or tommorw!" My favorite part is that her male friend came over and you took all the ques that this was her friend... I mean even if it was her bf at this point after flirting with her for 5 minutes you have to assume its her friend. Great job! You kicked it up a notch olright. Wish I had been in the supermarket I would have gone up to the girl and said "do you know who that was... there goes my hero.. watch him as he goes!" I get scared when I do stuff like what you just did. But I also replay it in my head and enjoy it. And that awkward charged playful interaction with a woman I find attractive winds up being the highlight of my day if not week... I mean barring a date! So worth it even if nothing comes of it. I hope you have a nice date with this girl. But if not many more fish in the sea. Thanks bro! Thanks for the kind words. Yes, I definitely feel nervous when it is approaching time. And I also struck out a lot of times. I still strike out a lot. Thing is though, is that we both take our chances. You know, I was thinking what you said about calling her tonight, and I normally would call the next day, but I figured with today being Friday... I told her I was going to call her tomorrow morning. And we both agreed on a time... But if she doesn't pick up, I will send her that text as you suggested. Thanks again! Edited February 17, 2012 by Imajerk17
Cracker Jack Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 Good stuff, dude. I love reading approaches like that. You just went for it and didn't allow the nerves to stop you. That deserves mad respect. 1
Author Imajerk17 Posted February 20, 2012 Author Posted February 20, 2012 (edited) Well, Supermarket Girl from Thursday night didn't call me back. Dust, I should have taken your advice and called her the next day! Maybe I will try her again in the middle of the week. I think I've talked to 10 women since. Well, 4 of them were sitting together in a table last night--and I talked to them in one approach, so I didn't approach that much. (I don't usually go to bars, but I was bored last night so I went out.) The last time was this morning. I was walking downtown to get my coffee when I saw two women walking together on the sidewalk ahead of me with two small children. They were both cute--nice figures--but the one on the right--L_rd have mercy! And it looks like the kids belong to the other woman--she was cute too, but I was really into the woman on the right. I hustle and catch up to the one I was into (the woman on the right) and she had a ring on her finger. Damn... I'm still going to say something though. "You know, if you didn't have a ring on your finger I'd be shamelessly hitting on you right now" She laughs. We make small talk and I ask her when the wedding is. Then after 30 seconds I'm back on my way. Edited February 20, 2012 by Imajerk17
Author Imajerk17 Posted February 20, 2012 Author Posted February 20, 2012 Well I get to the coffee shop, and make conversation with the girl the next table over. After a few tries on my part it is clear that she is not feeling it, so I let it go. Then I go to the grocery store. As I am walking into the store, I see this young woman with a cute face and an amazing figure sitting down at the cafeteria. Hot Damn... She looks like a gymnast or something. So I walk over to her and tell her that I think she is really cute and that I had to meet her. She lights up. Amazing young woman. But she is only 21. I am in my late 30's. That is too much of an age difference for me. So after a few minutes, I tell her that I need to let her get back to her lunch. 3 women in one day! And it's not even 3 pm yet...
Oxy Moronovich Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 You should have taken her number anyway, dude. Who cares about age difference? You might end up kicking yourself later.
Author Imajerk17 Posted February 20, 2012 Author Posted February 20, 2012 I see what you are getting at. She was awesome. But I still think 21 is a bit young for me.
thatone Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 the thing all those guys oxy is talking about could get from these threads is that women LIKE BEING APPROACHED. i don't see why that's so hard to grasp. it's an ego boost. even if they are engaged or married or have a boyfriend, it doesn't matter, they'll still appreciate the compliment by and large. 1
Author Imajerk17 Posted February 21, 2012 Author Posted February 21, 2012 You got that right. But until they learn, more for me...
Author Imajerk17 Posted February 22, 2012 Author Posted February 22, 2012 Man, I've talked with a good 20 women this week. 20 women. I talked to 5 since yesterday afternoon. Today I was going for lunch at the supermarket, and I saw this really cute girl. Asked her to join me (after we each paid for our own lunches). She said yes. There was no chemistry though. And she is only 21 too. Still, this is fun.
Eddie Edirol Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 There was no chemistry though. And she is only 21 too. Still, this is fun. Its getting fun now that youve made all of the experiences positive, you dont come off as a creep to the women, and you still make them laugh knowing nothing will come of it (the woman with the ring). Im inspired to go back to working on my street game. I blew it off thinking I would just shoot fish in a barrel in the clubs, but I hate going to clubs! Lol. Street game is so easy when you dont have the look of desperation in your eyes and youre just out to make them giggle, and walk away.
Author Imajerk17 Posted February 22, 2012 Author Posted February 22, 2012 Its getting fun now that youve made all of the experiences positive, you dont come off as a creep to the women, and you still make them laugh knowing nothing will come of it (the woman with the ring). Im inspired to go back to working on my street game. I blew it off thinking I would just shoot fish in a barrel in the clubs, but I hate going to clubs! Lol. Street game is so easy when you dont have the look of desperation in your eyes and youre just out to make them giggle, and walk away. So how do you meet women in the club anyway? I never was able to figure out how to do it with all that loud music, drunken friends, and all those other guys as competition. It just seems to me to be too much work. It's so much easier to meet women in the grocery store or even on the street, at least during the day. It really is.
Ruby Slippers Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 the thing all those guys oxy is talking about could get from these threads is that women LIKE BEING APPROACHED. i don't see why that's so hard to grasp. it's an ego boost. even if they are engaged or married or have a boyfriend, it doesn't matter, they'll still appreciate the compliment by and large. So true. When I was living in Europe, cute, friendly men hit on me constantly. Like, 10 times more than in the U.S. It was so fun.
Author Imajerk17 Posted February 22, 2012 Author Posted February 22, 2012 (edited) So true. When I was living in Europe, cute, friendly men hit on me constantly. Like, 10 times more than in the U.S. It was so fun. Haha. That explains a lot then. See I'm 100% Italian-American. I guess you can take the boy out of Italy, but you can't take Italy out of the boy... Edited February 22, 2012 by Imajerk17
Ruby Slippers Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 I'm 100% Italian-American. I guess you can take the boy our of Italy, but you can't take Italy out of the boy... *drool* The Italian guys were the best. Sooo fun and sexy. (The Spanish guys were awesome, too -- romantic and passionate.)
Eddie Edirol Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 So how do you meet women in the club anyway? I never was able to figure out how to do it with all that loud music, drunken friends, and all those other guys as competition. It just seems to me to be too much work. It's so much easier to meet women in the grocery store or even on the street, at least during the day. It really is. Usually in the club you just start dancing with them, or talk to them at the bar, or if they are standing around. But I usually got lucky, I just chilled at the bar with a drink and they kept walking by me to make me notice them. Its much easier to converse with them your way though.
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