Leigh 87 Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 I love my boyfriend a lot. We are very close. Unfortunately, there is a high chance that things will not work out. My boyfriend wants to travel the world. Luckily for him, his father brought him a hosue when he was about 15: furthermore, he owns half of his dead mothers house ( which his sister owns th other half of)... He has assets now, but not much cash in hand. He could sell the houses and be set for life at any time, but he has chosen to invest the houses, and work for money for the time being. He has no plans to sell the houses anytime soon. I want to travel the world with my boyfriend; I am keen to travel, independantly of my boyfriend, but obviously we want to travel together. Problem: I f*cked up my life until age 25, so now I have two options to earn enough money to travel with: OPTION 1 - In Australia, where I live, there is the MINING boom. Girls can move to W.A, the isolated area where the mines are, and do low skilled jobs and get paid a decent amount, 1500 Aussie dollars or more per week for cleaning, cooking for the men who work there, office admin.... We would save and travel together this way. AFter travelling, I could save more money, and THEN go to University, and pursue the career I WANT. OPTION 2 - I go to UNIversity NOW, full time, get a degree in three years and find work as a social worker or coucellor. I would do personal training on the side. I would only be able to do a weekend job, part time job, if I study full time. I would not be able to save or travel for the 3 years I study. I love to work out daily, therefore working part time on top of full time study, is not feasible for me. OPTION 1 - I get to be with the guy I love, the once we travel and settle down, when I am about 30 or early 30's, I will be able to have my dream career, and study something meaninful to me. OPTION 2 - the guy I want to be with, will go and travel the world. Without me. I would have to just move on. I asked my boyfriend flat out: if we are going well, and u do not want to be apart from me for long, what would you do, if we go to the mines, and I just do not end up earning enough money to travel with u? Even worse, what if I do not get a job up there? I asked him: if u wanted to stay with me, would u just go travel the world without me, and leave me, if I could not earn enougn to at least travel a little bit, so as to MEET u for a month some place? He said that if we are going well, and he wants to be with me, that no, he absolutely would not leave me, if I cannot earn the money to travel with him. I told him that I do not want to invest any more love into him, if he will just go and travel, and leave me, if I cannot earn enough to travel with him. Obviously, the only way I will earn the big money to travel the world with him, will be to go to the Mines, where women get paid A LOT, for doing low skilled jobs.
Els Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 Didn't you two JUST break up....? Jesus, Leigh, I can't keep up. >.<
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 15, 2012 Author Posted February 15, 2012 At the moment, our plan is: to both work, and at he end of this year, move out to the mines, and line jobs up before we get there. We are going to try to see if it works there for us: it is the fasted way to earn big enough money, to travel together. If I look hard enough for work, I am positive I will find SOMETHING. People get paid so much, because of the isolation ( Western Australia is wayyyyyy removed frin the rest of the country, and the mining sites are even more desolate, away from any city or any place fun) He will get a job easily, as he can drive trucks and etc, or could go into the actual mines. On the other hand, women with no degrees or minimal skills, can apparently get cleaning, food preparation, and office work. It will be hard for me to get work than my boyfriend, but people do it often and it works out for them. If he earns big money and I can't, I am going to make sure that he would wanrt to be with me badly enough to support me, if I can only get lowly paid work. He told me the other day, that he would merge our money, if we worked out long term. The way a lot of couples do it. I tend to clean up and cook and do all the house work, so I would obviously do my part, to show my appreciation.
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 15, 2012 Author Posted February 15, 2012 No, we were going to numerous times, but we love each other too much, and we enjoy being together a lot. We feel the fighting comes from a place, that is separate from " us". OUtside factors. We both want the same things in life, we both show apperciation for each other, and we are both VERy resilliant about the things we are prepared to get over, that we have gone through. I am going to just work very hard to get a job, to see a few friends each week and form friendships, and work out every day, as this is a hobby of mine. I am coming from a place where I had not much of my own life at all, and so we very much just want me to do what I NEED to do, in order to overcome my issues, whilst still seeing one another most days. I obviously need time to look for work, socialise a lot more, and also study my personal training stuff, as I want two jobs: one in hospitality or retail, in addition to working as a gym trainer. I will also be working out every day, so I guess I will not have time to see him a lot, besides weekends, despite the fact we like to just be around one another all the time. regarding my latest post I just asked him again, once and for all " Andrew, what if I try mY BEST to find work when we move to the mines, and I just cannot find a job that pays enough for me to travel, or worst still, cannot find a job" " would u just leave me and go and travel the world, if u feel I am a special person that u want to keep in your life? He said no, he would look after me, as long as I did not take it for granted, and tried my best to earn what i could to support my self as best I can...... He would support me in being with him, if he is rich he said. There is a strong chance of him being well off, seeing as he will easily get work in the mines, get paid a lot, and also have his 1.5 houses.............
carhill Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 IMO, forget about the money disparity and just go do it. It'll work out or it won't. You're young. Yeah, my impressions of WA is that it's a bit 'different'. Been there a couple times. Got a picture of us with friends at Burswood in Perth in my album here. Wouldn't mind going back. Feral I like
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 15, 2012 Author Posted February 15, 2012 We both want to try our luck in W.A. It is VERY isolated, and extremely desolate - hence the big money, for lower skilled jobs. For us, it would be GREAT: we would have each other to come home to and sleep with. We are happy to work 7 days at a time, no weekends off, for a month, and then to have one whole week off. The money is so good, and our need to travel and have a nice life is our priority, therefore W.A is the fastest option for us. We can study and do a job that we actually enjoy, once we have money and have experiences life more. I was very scared of not getting work over there - that it will not work out. Howver, because of the isolation of W.A, I guess not every one is prepared to go through that, and therefore the jobs should be fairly easy to get? In the case that we move over there, and I do not get work, or I get paid badly, and cannot keep up with him.... He said, if he wants to be with me, then of course he would help me afford to travel with him. He knows I am not a gold digger, and simply want to be with with.
Emilia Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 I always wanted to go to Western Oz just for the experience. Good luck.
coffee.girl Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 Leigh, what do you want to do? If your BF was not around, would you want to go travelling, or are you just thinking about this because you think you need to do this to stay together? I remember some of your posts from about a year ago, and getting your degree was important to you. I have been in a relationship where I lost my sense of 'self', and my own goals, because I was so wrapped up in pleasing my partner/doing what he wanted to do, because I thought he was much better/stronger/brighter than me. I think whether you travel or stay and study, it will be a good experience for you. But, from reading a lot of your posts, I think it is important that you work on fostering your sense of self and self worth. I know you are working on this but it is a never-ending task for many of us!
ja123 Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 Perhaps you could both consider getting an TESL certificate, so you can teach English abroad. That way you can combine travelling and working.
Els Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 Leigh, are you really going to be planning your future based on a relationship THIS rocky? If it weren't for your bf what would YOU do?
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 15, 2012 Author Posted February 15, 2012 I would want to travel regardless of HIM, haha! Travelling, among other things, is one of the main things in life, that I want to do. Getting a career that I am passionate about, is something I would have done while younger; however, I screwed up my life thus far, and so studying, while still being a priority, is not what I want to do RIGHT now. I want to see a bit of the world, before studying non stop for 3 years. And, our relationship is only rocky, because I have not been well. Andrew is great. We are fine, we have the love for one another, and we can both see everything working out great. Unless we out grow each other, which happens often with people, I cannot really see us breaking up. We have gotten through so, so much, the most two people can pretty much go through, SHORT OF cancer or some incidous disease..... We both seam to want the same things in life, so it just makes sens to me, that we both go together to W.A, earn a lot of cash, enough to travel with, and just do it. DEspite not having cultivate much of a sense of self, due to being consumed with my past mental illness, I DO like myself a great deal.. I like who I am, i think I am great:) I just need to keep going in that direction, in terms of finding out who I am, and getting a great life on my own, outside of my relationship with Andrew..... I am not worried that he would leave me now. It was a huge worry, and it caused a strain, in my mind; hear I am, investing my whole heart in a person.. getting as close as two people can be ( which is what he said h e wants ).. For what, to have him just leave me, if I cannot earn the cash in W.a, to afford to travel with him? However, after I asked him if he WOULD just leave me, if we are going very well together, he said NO. He said, if he earned great money, he would help me out, in order for me to be with him. I would help as much as I could, of course.
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 15, 2012 Author Posted February 15, 2012 I plan on studying abroad, actually.... I am 25, and do not wanrt to spend the remainder of my 20's studying. I want to spend it travelling and having fun. Going to W.A, the mines, seams like the fastest and easiest way to go about it; I feel S Lucky to have met Andrew, because otherwise I would have not thought to do this; I would have spent the last years of my 20;s studying my butt off, and travelling when I am not young enough to party as hard. I realize what I want to do more than ever now, since I have met Andrew. I never partied or had any fun or social life in my 20's. I was ill. Now, I have a lot of living to do, before I want to study and settle down in life, and sacrifice things. If it does not work out I will have direction, in the sam,e way I do now; only difference, is if I was without ANdrew, I would probably study THEN travel; where as now, I will travel THEN study. If it weren;t for ANdrew, I would prob do a degree that I could do abroad. However, sometimes in life, u want things equally: I am very much indifferent as to the order to travel and study. It just happens to be, that I have found a person I want to spend a few years with, getting close to and having fun with.
musemaj11 Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 So good to be a woman. If you dont have money, you can always rely on a man.
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 Leigh, I think it's a good idea to go to work in WA because it will be healthy for you to get out of your parents' home and have to function well in a new environment and take care of yourself. You focus WAY too much on your relationship, though. That is not healthy.
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 So good to be a woman. If you dont have money, you can always rely on a man. I think you should explore getting a sex change so you can reap all these "benefits" you are so obsessed and evidently jealous about.
musemaj11 Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 I think you should explore getting a sex change so you can reap all these "benefits" you are so obsessed and evidently jealous about. It is my wish to be born as a woman in the next life. Its a lot simpler to be a woman. As long as you take good care of your physical attributes, you will have the world handed to you on a silver platter.
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 28, 2012 Author Posted February 28, 2012 I have decided to pursue my career in fitness, as a personal trainer. I have my cert 3 and 4 and the rigth qualifications, I have just waited until I am ready - I am 100% certain it is the career i want and I am very passionate about it, above all other career choices. I get enough money to live off it, and it is a field u can upgrade and evolve in; u can get your diploma in fitness, and when I go to uni, I can do a sports or exercise science dengree one day. Although, I would prefer to do social work and councelling, and hence a sociology degree... I want to do personal training as my first career, and be a social workeror councellor as a second career. I am in the stage where I need to study it, and brush up on knowledge, and keep up to date with everything, and know a lot of exercises for each body part in the gym.. this is the fastes way I can not only earn a living, but wake up every day to d job I want. I will have to work hard, as every one does, but in a job I would do above all other jobs. I am going to spend less time with my boyfriend, and more time investing in studyidng for my fitnesss career. I was going to see him tonight, but instead will read up about fitness:) After all, I am seeing him tomorrow any ways. We will end up trying W.A out, u get big money for it. I will try my luck as a trainer over there, it is HUGE money for trainers... I will also look the part, Do u think, and WOULD U gravitate towards a trainer who was slim, fit, and the perfect image of one? I also have a very positive attitude and kind approach to people, always smiling and a lot of fun;although I can read people and will learn to better read people to cater my approach. I think, right now, I need to spend more time studying and cultivating my fitness career, because I have a beright future in it if I work hard for it. Why not? Nothing is stopping me, besides typing in this website LOL. I currently attent a fitness development work shop, with the manager that hires staff; he puts people with the rigth qualifications and a genuine interest in getting a job in his gym. When he thinks your ready, he will give u a shot at working as a PT. I am not ready yet, due to my lack of confidence and experience, but I have the CHANCE to get ready. I honestly cannot wait to START my career, FINALLY, after years roaming around. I thought I would do Uni, then hated it, although I will love it when I am ready for it, I love studying.
FitChick Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 I will also look the part, Do u think, and WOULD U gravitate towards a trainer who was slim, fit, and the perfect image of one? Yes, just like I would go to a makeup artist who had beautifully applied makeup or a hairdresser with great hair or a stylist who dressed well. Silly question.
FrustratedStandards Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 Seriously? You have to keep up? Is he a man or what? Last time I checked, when people were serious about each other, they didn't keep their finances so separate. Everyone on LS knows that i'm all about the man paying. He pays for dates, he pays for you when you need some financial help, and he definitely needs to make more. It's called help your f*cking girlfriend out you cheap ass. He doesn't have to pay for you entirely, because travelling is expensive. But goddamit if you're working your ass off and still can't afford, the least he can do is pitch in a little. And i'm sure you're both smart enough to travel economically. There are ways you can save without spending a whole lot of money. Backpackers do it for goodness' sake. I'm sorry, but I would never date a man like this. He has assets, and can make enough for a lifetime by selling one house, yet his poor girlfriend needs to catch up so he can take her on a trip? Gross.
thatone Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 i highly doubt he can make enough for a lifetime by selling one house. i don't think she understands that any more than she understands what she wants (which is not at all, apparently). sounds like the ramblings of a 13 year old to me.
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 1, 2012 Author Posted March 1, 2012 that one - are you a troll? I know exactly what I want to do in my life, career wise, actually.... Frustrated - your right!! Although, many other people think that, even when in love, u should look after yourself, and if u cannot, tough.. albiet a little help, such as dinner dates being paid for by the one making the most cash, is normal. HE HAS said, that if I am working as hard as I can, and i still cannot afford to travel as exnensively as him, that he WOULD help me. Furthermore, he said that if we married and got very serious, he would split our assets/ finances. He is just very careful, as he does not want anyone taking advantage of his money. I will earn a good living as a pesonal trainer; I will also be doing bar work and cafe work on the side, and I will work extra hard for money. I love woring at cafes, the good ones with nice bosses. I just like working around people, really, so it is not a chore doing it outside of my " passion" job, persional; training...
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