dudeonthisforum Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 well there's this girl I have kind of had a thing for for some time now. shes often getting lunch at the same time i am and i see her in the lunch line pretty often. so i want to start getting friendly with her, and i suppose it's gone ok, but she still talks very little cuz she is ridiculously shy. like, not saying one word in a half hour of lunch shy. i was wondering what the best things to say to her would be. i usually just say oh hows it goin or ask her about a class that she has earlier in the day than I do. pretty bland, but idk what else to say to her. and i'm not worried about getting stuck in the friend zone in this case, so anything that would even help me get into that would be good. if more info would help refine suggestions, let me know. what would you guys suggest i say to her? thanks in advance
Author dudeonthisforum Posted February 15, 2012 Author Posted February 15, 2012 Why some time... Why haven't you made a move? Are you in HS or a teenager in college? You sound like you are your own worst enemy. Stop overthinking and just make some moves like asking her out, kissing her! She's a girl its her job to be ridiculously shy when some guy who likes her is being all awkward around her. Just ask her out already and make out when you run out of things to say. True story! Ok, thanks mr. know it all, you know the situation and the girl better than me. When I say she's shy I ****ing mean it. and i guess you don't subscribe to this, but I don't just ask girls out without getting to know them at all first. Theres this new thing called flirting, I think the cast of the Jersey Shore invented it. It's this thing where you just have fun talking to a girl and try to get her laughing. You just talk about silly sht or what ever really. Then you ask them out. You should try it. It's also ok to not always be saying something and just enjoy the girl. Why would you want to get into the friend zone? Thats a parnoid delusion loser guys came up with to avoid facing reality that you can't get stuck in such a place. If you want to get to know a girl romanticly, you have to get to know her romanticly. You can't friend your way into being her lover. You already like her, so ask her out and then make more moves. Let your lips touch her lips. what you don't understand is, despite me asking you to trust me on this, i don't need to worry about being stuck in the friend zone. with shy girls like her its always the case that once your a friend you are wide open to date them. and i'm more than capable of that part, it's just hard to get her comfortable because she's so shy. i don't want to embarass her by trying to use one-size-fits-all techniques on her that won't work anyway. she's very quiet as well as shy so i don't see that kind of flirting as appropriate. also, frankly, no matter how i approach her she wouldn't honestly think i want to be her friend. once i get to know her well enough to get past her shyness, i'll ask her out. if all goes well it shouldnt take too long. also, i am one of the last who adhere to that elusive moral principle, abstinence until marriage. excuse me, i forgot that it's assumed i'm looking to **** her. seems like this is your first time meeting a christian, so i'll let you know that i don't date girls for sex. a large part of the reason i'm interested in this girl is because she's one of the few girls whose boobs i don't see on a daily basis since she doesn't dress like a slut. the only reason i date is for the fun of having a relationship. Just give me more info for my entertainment like age, general location, hs/college. What she looks like. what you look like. How many girls you've kissed. Sht like that. It won't really change my advice though. You like the girl. So just stop worrying about rejection, no way to avoid it. You must risk it all and ask her out. The fact is if she says no you can probably just be cool about it and keep being her friend if you don't freak out. Then ask her out again! Also if you get a date don't treat it like a business interview. Have fun, be romantic and make a move! By the way, does anyone have any actual answer to my question? this guy just wanted to ignore it, insist that what i told him was wrong, and tried to act cool.
Author dudeonthisforum Posted February 15, 2012 Author Posted February 15, 2012 Why some time... Why haven't you made a move? Are you in HS or a teenager in college? You sound like you are your own worst enemy. Stop overthinking and just make some moves like asking her out, kissing her! She's a girl its her job to be ridiculously shy when some guy who likes her is being all awkward around her. Just ask her out already and make out when you run out of things to say. True story! Ok, thanks mr. know it all, you know the situation and the girl better than me. When I say she's shy I ****ing mean it. and i guess you don't subscribe to this, but I don't just ask girls out without getting to know them at all first. Theres this new thing called flirting, I think the cast of the Jersey Shore invented it. It's this thing where you just have fun talking to a girl and try to get her laughing. You just talk about silly sht or what ever really. Then you ask them out. You should try it. It's also ok to not always be saying something and just enjoy the girl. Why would you want to get into the friend zone? Thats a parnoid delusion loser guys came up with to avoid facing reality that you can't get stuck in such a place. If you want to get to know a girl romanticly, you have to get to know her romanticly. You can't friend your way into being her lover. You already like her, so ask her out and then make more moves. Let your lips touch her lips. what you don't understand is, despite me asking you to trust me on this, i don't need to worry about being stuck in the friend zone. with shy girls like her its always the case that once your a friend you are wide open to date them. and i'm more than capable of that part, it's just hard to get her comfortable because she's so shy. i don't want to embarass her by trying to use one-size-fits-all techniques on her that won't work anyway. she's very quiet as well as shy so i don't see that kind of flirting as appropriate. also, frankly, no matter how i approach her she wouldn't honestly think i want to be her friend. once i get to know her well enough to get past her shyness, i'll ask her out. if all goes well it shouldnt take too long. also, i am one of the last who adhere to that elusive moral principle, abstinence until marriage. excuse me, i forgot that it's assumed i'm looking to **** her. seems like this is your first time meeting a christian, so i'll let you know that i don't date girls for sex. a large part of the reason i'm interested in this girl is because she's one of the few girls whose boobs i don't see on a daily basis since she doesn't dress like a slut. the only reason i date is for the fun of having a relationship. Just give me more info for my entertainment like age, general location, hs/college. What she looks like. what you look like. How many girls you've kissed. Sht like that. It won't really change my advice though. You like the girl. So just stop worrying about rejection, no way to avoid it. You must risk it all and ask her out. The fact is if she says no you can probably just be cool about it and keep being her friend if you don't freak out. Then ask her out again! Also if you get a date don't treat it like a business interview. Have fun, be romantic and make a move! By the way, does anyone have any actual answer to my question? this guy just wanted to ignore it, insist that what i told him was wrong, and tried to act cool.
Almond_Joy Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 Ok, thanks mr. know it all, you know the situation and the girl better than me. When I say she's shy I ****ing mean it. and i guess you don't subscribe to this, but I don't just ask girls out without getting to know them at all first. what you don't understand is, despite me asking you to trust me on this, i don't need to worry about being stuck in the friend zone. with shy girls like her its always the case that once your a friend you are wide open to date them. and i'm more than capable of that part, it's just hard to get her comfortable because she's so shy. i don't want to embarass her by trying to use one-size-fits-all techniques on her that won't work anyway. she's very quiet as well as shy so i don't see that kind of flirting as appropriate. also, frankly, no matter how i approach her she wouldn't honestly think i want to be her friend. once i get to know her well enough to get past her shyness, i'll ask her out. if all goes well it shouldnt take too long. also, i am one of the last who adhere to that elusive moral principle, abstinence until marriage. excuse me, i forgot that it's assumed i'm looking to **** her. seems like this is your first time meeting a christian, so i'll let you know that i don't date girls for sex. a large part of the reason i'm interested in this girl is because she's one of the few girls whose boobs i don't see on a daily basis since she doesn't dress like a slut. the only reason i date is for the fun of having a relationship. By the way, does anyone have any actual answer to my question? this guy just wanted to ignore it, insist that what i told him was wrong, and tried to act cool. You're pretty hostile when you feel you're being misunderstood. Just saying. I'm no longer terribly shy, but I used to be, and I've always been quiet. To answer your question, you can: - Ask her about her hobbies in or out of school - Tell her about your hobbies - Talk about professors you've both had or classes that you both have had or need to take. -Ask if she would like to hang out with you sometime outside of lunch. If you want to build a rapport with her first I'd suggest getting info about hobbies so you can propose a meet-up place or activity that you'll both enjoy. Good luck.
chelsea2011 Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 That question is easy. Just ask her engaging questions about her life, family and friends. Its the best way to get to know someone. Plus it shows your actually interested in learning more about her and who she really is.
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