Untouchable_Fire Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 You just said you would not right here. In short you are just the kind of woman so called "nice guys" get frustrated by. If he had said he appreciated your art you would not like him. In fact your scenario illustrates the whole PUA philosophy so well that it looks a little too perfect. I think she wants to feel attractive AND talented... not just one or the other. That is where this guy is failing hard. He is basically saying "I want to bone you"... but he is failing to say "I respect you" at the same time. Of course the I wanna bone you guy is typically in the lead romantically because he seems confident and into her. However, don't make the mistake that she wants some guy who thinks the day after pill is breakfast in bed!
xxoo Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 Are you upset that he commented on your hotness? Or are you upset that he didn't comment on your talent? It is disappointing that you didn't get the positive feedback that you wanted. But there are a lot of reason that could be. Maybe he doesn't know enough about photography to appreciate your talent. Maybe he knows plenty, and didn't think they were that great But, yeah, it is TOTALLY normal for a guy to appreciate, and comment upon, hot photos of you that you SENT to him! Can't fault the guy for that. Be flattered, and give him the benefit of the doubt. Maybe show him the photography in person, talking about your favorite shots, and see how he responds.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 Yukon Do women want their guys to open up or not? 95% of straight guys who saw a woman they liked in a nurse's outfit would want to do her right then and there. Yukon, guys don't usually have a hard time "openning up" about sex. So yes, women do want their guys to open up, but "openning up" when it comes to sex isn't exactly something a lot of men have trouble with. We want our guys to open up about other things other then just sex too. Rebeccajonees, the fact that he completely ignored saying anything about your landscape photos is strange to me. He could have said something like, "You're photos are great. I really like the one you took on the beach. By the way, you look really sexy in that nurse outfit." But instead, he just focused on you in the sexy picture and didn't much seem to care about what you care about. Heck, I have dated guys that were interested in things I wasn't. But when they wanted to show or tell me about these things I was game and enjoyed HIS enjoyment of it. Even if I wasn't particularly interested in the thing, I was interested in what he enjoyed and his happiness.
jobaba Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 I just want to be understood and not seen as a sex object. I'm not model but you know what I mean? jobaba you are so right! The guys that are too nice seem fake sometimes or I don't like them, because they are too easy and the ones that don't say what I expect begin to worry me. OMG WHY ? Singledom is not SO horrible. Ugggh. My head hurts...
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