rebeccajones Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 I love taking photos. I showed this guy I have been dating and friends with for a about a month some of my photos that I worked on. I sent him a link to view on FB. Later I asked did you see my photos and did you like them through email. He replied that he likes photos of ME and he saw one of me as a nurse and thought it was HOT. I mean that is great but photography is a love of mine and the photos I sent him were not of me they were various nice landscapes. So I said do you appreciate photography? Then he said you take nice pics and I hope we get some together etc etc, but it was kind of late and I got kind of hurt. It seems shallow to me.
ditzchic Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 How old is he? He either has raging teenage hormones or he is very immature. He sounds like a typical creepster who's only interest is in sex. The good side of this is that he's not trying to hide it. You know where he stands. If you're looking for something deeper you should look elsewhere.
Author rebeccajones Posted February 14, 2012 Author Posted February 14, 2012 Well I thought he was cool, but now I'm not so sure how he sees me. Although he has been there for me and has been a friend for a while so I appreciate that. But he is immature and focused on sex.
Jynxx Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 Don't overcomplicate things, we are simple creatures with simple minds What he saw and thought: 'pictures' 'pictures of landscapes' 'pictures of girl' 'hot girl' you: "do you appreciate the pictures" he: 'wait... her = the hot girl' "you hot"
ditzchic Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 Well I thought he was cool, but now I'm not so sure how he sees me. Although he has been there for me and has been a friend for a while so I appreciate that. But he is immature and focused on sex. Hate to be the bearer of bad news but he sees you as sex. You tried to share a passion with him and he brought it to sex. He doesn't care about your passions or what gets you excited in life. He cares about seeing you dressed as a nurse. He told you that. Believe him. Even if he changes his approach after you gave him the idea that he upset you, it's part of the hunt. That is still how he sees you.
Author rebeccajones Posted February 14, 2012 Author Posted February 14, 2012 I understand I have to accept our differences I just dont want to be an object.
ditzchic Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 I understand I have to accept our differences I just dont want to be an object. Good girl! It's nice to know some of us still have self-respect
kaylan Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 Whats the big deal? Instead of commenting on your landscape pictures he instead chose to complement your "Me" pictures in your profile. He might be a little slow in realizing you wanted him to pay attention and comment on your photography work. Either way, can you fault the guy for getting sidetracked by another album if he finds you attractive?
Author rebeccajones Posted February 14, 2012 Author Posted February 14, 2012 haha. I'm trying to figure out waht to say to him. It kind of made me think he just wants me for sex ugh! Hi Dust
Author rebeccajones Posted February 14, 2012 Author Posted February 14, 2012 I just want to be understood and not seen as a sex object. I'm not model but you know what I mean?
kaylan Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 I cant help but think that this would of went over OPs head if this guy was also, in fact, hot himself. Ive gotten away with murder when a girl has found me to be hot, and girls have gotten away with murder on occasion with me if I found them very attractive. Stop over-analyzing this one comment and just move forward and see what happens. Sheesh =P If I was seeing a girl, found her super attractive, and she linked me to her facebook albums, Id definitely comment on nice photos of her too. However I would also have the presence of mind to use the word "sexy" instead of "hot", and Id also remember to comment of her landscape photos that she originally wanted my opinion on. Me just thinks this dude made a small mental gaff.
jobaba Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 I love taking photos. I showed this guy I have been dating and friends with for a about a month some of my photos that I worked on. I sent him a link to view on FB. Later I asked did you see my photos and did you like them through email. He replied that he likes photos of ME and he saw one of me as a nurse and thought it was HOT. I mean that is great but photography is a love of mine and the photos I sent him were not of me they were various nice landscapes. So I said do you appreciate photography? Then he said you take nice pics and I hope we get some together etc etc, but it was kind of late and I got kind of hurt. It seems shallow to me. I just want to be understood and not seen as a sex object. I'm not model but you know what I mean? Meh. I agree with Kaylan. You're nitpicking. You kind of want it all. Look at it the other way around. I'm the kind of guy who would never do that. Comment that a girl is sexy/hot before I got to know her (at least in the past). I could easily see myself appreciating your photography and then you being like, "Jobaba really appreciates me as a person but I'm not really physically attracted to him." See what I mean?
Author rebeccajones Posted February 14, 2012 Author Posted February 14, 2012 lol yea I understand. I think I over analyze. I am working on it and trying to see things in new ways.
Author rebeccajones Posted February 14, 2012 Author Posted February 14, 2012 jobaba you are so right! The guys that are too nice seem fake sometimes or I don't like them, because they are too easy and the ones that don't say what I expect begin to worry me. OMG WHY ? Singledom is not SO horrible.
Feelin Frisky Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 I understand I have to accept our differences I just dont want to be an object. You are an object------of his affections. It's hard to say from the little you've said if he is dense or ignorant of your meanings. I'd have to see the photos and if they look like works of art or just pictures without the chick in them to render my decision.
Author rebeccajones Posted February 14, 2012 Author Posted February 14, 2012 lol. I wish I could show you! They ARE works of art!
Author rebeccajones Posted February 14, 2012 Author Posted February 14, 2012 Yea in a way you are right. My mom always says men ARE not like us and it is true. I think sometimes we want them to act like women or expect them to and it's just not possible.
ffw Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 OP, do you analyse about each & every thing this way? Poor guy, has a long way to go.
kaylan Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 Good grief. I love my girl for who she is AND I see her as a hot sex object. Do women want their guys to open up or not? 95% of straight guys who saw a woman they liked in a nurse's outfit would want to do her right then and there. Yes, I would have commented on your other photos but it wouldn't have stopped me jerking off when I saw you dressed as a nurse....nor would it have stopped any healthy male. My girl knows I want her all the time. She's the object of my lust. Guys are wanting to do it all the time so why wouldn't you want you want your boyfriend to be focused on you? **prays to god he has the sex drive and attitude of this guy when he reach his 50s** Tu eres mi idolo jaja lol
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 Hate to be the bearer of bad news but he sees you as sex. You tried to share a passion with him and he brought it to sex. He doesn't care about your passions or what gets you excited in life. He cares about seeing you dressed as a nurse. He told you that. Believe him. Even if he changes his approach after you gave him the idea that he upset you, it's part of the hunt. That is still how he sees you. Wait a minute... what???? Very clearly it was SHE who "cared about HIM seeing HER dressed as a nurse" (both before, and now after she sent him to the site). He is no more to blame for HIS having seen HER dressed as a nurse than I AM!!! Particularly since there is photographic evidence that SHE (and not ME) dressed her(self) as a nurse at some point. (maybe that should be more offensive to real nurses than his requested observations were to her) Not only that, but the OP then pressed for a response in relation to the photos and she now doesn't like the response she got. If she didn't want HIS (freely-decided) response, then she certainly shouldn't have asked him about the photo links she'd sent. And why shouldn't he "like photos of (her)" ??? This whole issue doesn't warrant so much as another moment of the OP's contemplation - treat it as if it were nothing. If you want to share photography with somebody, get two cameras and go somewhere together... (did the OP ever have such a brainstorm??)
Author rebeccajones Posted February 14, 2012 Author Posted February 14, 2012 I dunno but I really like my photos! I also worked hard on adjusting them a bit and they to me are so cool!!! I'll see how it goes. Yes I over analyze I think Batman.
Author rebeccajones Posted February 14, 2012 Author Posted February 14, 2012 ah yes I agree sex drive I like in a man so I should not complain. I would hate for a guy to not want it! Gosh we are never satisfied.
Author rebeccajones Posted February 14, 2012 Author Posted February 14, 2012 Strange why? You are bad Dust! But I kind of like it lol.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 It's kind of harsh to call the man a creep for commenting on your body. It would be creepy if he said it out of nowhere ... some guy you never met saying that out of nowhere would be creepy. Men are really simple. They want food sex and silence. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/blog.php?b=154 One more thing and be honest. If a man was really interested in your artwork would you really like that? Do you just like to think you would like that? The guys that are too nice seem fake sometimes or I don't like them, because they are too easy and the ones that don't say what I expect begin to worry me. OMG WHY ? You just said you would not right here. In short you are just the kind of woman so called "nice guys" get frustrated by. If he had said he appreciated your art you would not like him. In fact your scenario illustrates the whole PUA philosophy so well that it looks a little too perfect.
musemaj11 Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 Women are just crazy. They want to be understood but they dont even understand themselves.
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