DNice Posted June 3, 2004 Posted June 3, 2004 I met my girl in October 2002. She is my good friends sister. We clicked right away but i was skeptical to start anything cause she was my friend's sister. We finally started dating in May 2003. We got along great but we did have different personalities. Hers being outgoing and mine being laid back and quiet. We sometimes banged heads over things but nothing serious. She said I was the love of her life and vice versa. We both felt very strongly about each other. In December of 2003 we moved in together. Then on Valentines Day SHE proposed to me. Which was a bit of shocker because to me it was pretty fast. If anything I was going to wait till her Birthday in June. She beat me to it, I said yes and we were both happy along with our families. She knew about my personality and that sometimes i had nothing to say or talk to her about and it started to bother her. Other than that I did everything possible for her and treated her great except in that one area. We wound up having an engagement party and then booking a date for a wedding next September. All this was going on and she still felt miserable but she still went through with it. WHY? I bang my head against the wall still cause i have no clue whats going on in her head. One minute she says i want to have kids with you and the next she says she needs her space. It seems like I cant do anything right because I just moved out of the apartment on Tuesday after giving her space for about a week and a half where we hardly spoke or saw each other and she tells me I guess I made up my mind and dont want to deal with her. Thats not it I just couldnt keep going back and forth to the apartment and seeing it along with pictures of us all over. I want to give her more space maybe a month thats why packed everything up and left. Now she is saying this was a mistake and that she should of never done it because she doesnt see it getting any better because she cant change me. Well she knew how i was before proposing to me now she wants to end it. I know you cant change peoples personalities and I accepted her as she was and is and believe me shes no saint. Everyone has there flaws. Im just stuck in a huge rut and dont know what to do. Do I end and dont bother anymore and move on? Do I call her periodically to see hows she doing? Or do I just give her more time? A ANY and ALL Feedback will be appreciated cause my mind is in a fog right now. THANKX ALOT
pitprincess Posted June 4, 2004 Posted June 4, 2004 To me it really don't sound like you have done anything wrong, but thats just my OP. different personalities are hard to meet in the middle but alot of times they work. Me and My husband have been married 22 years and we have nothing the same as far as our personalities go I would give her a few days to figure out whats going on in her head. May I ask your ages?
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