goddess888 Posted June 3, 2004 Posted June 3, 2004 Alright it starts like this me and my boyfriend got engaged 8 months into our relationship we have been together for 2 years now and have a son who is now 9 months. We have been fighting here and there because i think he is cheating on me. I think i have a reason to think he is cheating. Before he started all his **** he always came home on time called on time everything just picture perfect(well i thought so anyways) so predictable. Well then one day he decided to leave our cell phone in his friends car (who by the way is a total a**) so i couldnt call him and he couldnt call me then he decided to just not come home for lunch a couple of days that week. He always busts him butt to come home to his family but not latley he has been working late for about three weeks now.He always tells me about other girls at work one inparticular. I never pay him any attention though he is just runnig off at the mouth( I think anyways) Well last night he told me he didnt want to be with me anymore and he wants to leave. This is not the first time he has done this but its never been this intense . He was asking me what i wanted in the house and how much child support i wanted a month. He was saying he is a failure and his son is going to hate him all this stuff to make me feel sorry for him he was crying the whole nine. Well today he comes home for lunch and acts like nothing is wrong but then he asks me again how much child support i want for my son.He told me he loved me and gave me a kiss before he left(my mom says he is playing with me) which i do believe my heart is not something to be played with expecially when it comes to my son. I do love him with all my heart he gave me my son.. I just dont know what to do.
krbshappy71 Posted June 3, 2004 Posted June 3, 2004 Goddess, so sorry you are going through this. You are not alone. (as you will quickly find out on this forum) I would not agree to any $ amount regarding your child, that all needs to be handled legally if he really is leaving. Don't cut him a deal, sounds like he is looking for the easy way out in that regard. If you think he is serious, protect yourself. Talk to a lawyer, if no $ for a lawyer, there are legal services lawyers that work on a very sliding scale, and usually give a free consultation. Perhaps when you bring up to him you have talked to someone he will realize what he is really asking for. I'm not saying give up, but if it does come to this ending, protect yourself and your child's future. Things can end amicably and then take a turn for the worse later. There is also the visitation details to be worked out. Have you two discussed counselling? Would he go?? Would you? Two years together and a child, you have so much at stake, worth a try. Hope this helps, hang in there.
TempSain Posted June 3, 2004 Posted June 3, 2004 Did he give a reason for wanting a divorce? Sounds like he wants out so that he can be with another. Men usually dont change like that unless there is someone new in his life. Sounds like its gonna be messy.
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