Teknoe Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 Heh, Honey's thread (what to do with her BF who failed to launch) has spawned the opposite (would you date a girl who failed to launch?). Now I want to ask LoveShack this.... how many of us are living at home currently? I'm 28 and I am. Am I proud of this? Absolutely not. Everytime my friends/acquaintances bring up roommates I always get embarrassed on the inside and start feeling very anxious, hoping they don't turn to me asking me, "How about you, man? What are your roommates like?" I know I'm not ready for a serious, adult relationship right now, which is why dating isn't on my mind. Just curious how many others here are still living at home?
kaylan Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 Failure to launch isnt just about living at home. Its about getting into an adult mindset. Living at home is fine if thats not your long term plan. People sometimes go back home for various reasons. Living at home just looks bad when someone doesnt have any ambition to become an independent or contributing adult. They cant still be like a kid at home with little responsibility. Thats what the other 2 threads were about.
Art_Critic Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 I'm 48... I live at home.. my own.. People have to start somewhere.. 28 and living to home with your parents while it isn't everyone's ideal scenario it certainly is yours and you should not be embarrassed about it...
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 At 33, I am back at home with my parents. It's only temporary though
Krios Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 At 33, I am back at home with my parents. It's only temporary though Did I miss something? Did you break up with your boyfriend?
Star Gazer Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 I know I'm not ready for a serious, adult relationship right now, which is why dating isn't on my mind. Just curious how many others here are still living at home? Dating/relationships shouldn't really be all that connected to one's desire to get out from under their parents' roof and be an independent person.
Oxy Moronovich Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 Dating/relationships shouldn't really be all that connected to one's desire to get out from under their parents' roof and be an independent person. Why not? A woman who hasn't moved out of her parents' house lacks maturity. If she moved out but moved back in for financial reasons I am understanding. But if she never moved far away then that's a red flag for me.
ThaWholigan Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 Live at home with mum, I'm 23. Unemployed unfortunately, and I have regrets about not doing well in school, but I have many opportunities for wealth ahead of me and I am willing to take them. My mum seems to want me to stay for a while longer, but I'd rather my own space, and I would like to sort that soon. Kaylan is right, it's about getting to that point where you think like a man instead of a boy. I seem to have all the answers to everything except how to be a proper man who has conviction in his actions, and trial and error is the only path forward, so on I go.....
monkey00 Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 I immediately moved out after graduating and landing a job. Half my friends still live at home (late 20's) they have to get their sh*t together. And I had a friend who didn't move out from home until he was 30 - this was few years ago when me and my friends were giving him crap about it and he was financially secure and had a full time job too. I don't know I guess everyone has their reasons for living at home and reasons for moving out. Sometimes it can be justified such as the economy, and other times people don't have a good reason at all.
veggirl Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 Why not? A woman who hasn't moved out of her parents' house lacks maturity. If she moved out but moved back in for financial reasons I am understanding. But if she never moved far away then that's a red flag for me. I think that's what Star meant in her post? It's what I took from it, anyway, that people should want to move out, PERIOD, not just for dating reasons?
Star Gazer Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 I think that's what Star meant in her post? It's what I took from it, anyway, that people should want to move out, PERIOD, not just for dating reasons? Exactly right.
betterdeal Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 Housing is so pricey these days, it's no wonder so many young adults live with their parents. The housing stock is owned by baby boomers. Where do they expect the next generation to live?
monkey00 Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 Housing is so pricey these days, it's no wonder so many young adults live with their parents. The housing stock is owned by baby boomers. Where do they expect the next generation to live? The ghetto? Or maybe affordable housing.
tigressA Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 I moved out of the house when I was 18; I went to college 5 hours away. Never looked back. It wasn't about wanting to get out of the house/away from my parents. I just wanted to get the f*ck out of my hometown. I hated being there, it made me angry and depressed and contemplate suicide at one point. I don't know many people who still live at home with their parents. Most of my friends are living away from their family and are doing at least reasonably well. I dated a guy long-term who lived at home and he was working. He didn't pay rent (his parents didn't believe in that practice) but he was careful with his money and had substantial savings, etc.
oldguy Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 I left home when I was 17, I wish living at home longer was an option.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 I have been living at home for the last four years. I lived on my own from 2000 to 2008. Then moved back so I could take care of my elderly parents.
Titania22 Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 Like art critic said, I live at home (my own), but it feels the same, because my kids are here. I would prefer to be the one to move out and leave them here, then the other way around. And my brother still lives with my parents at 28. He lived in china for 3yrs, but other then that at home. He has no intention of moving out, rents and house prices here are horrendous, and my parents have more room then they need. Plus it means he has extra money to keep his computers up graded and go to board game conventions. If my dad were to pass away, me and the kids would move back too, because I could make sweet money renting out this place.
Sanman Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 I recently moved back in with my parents, but for different reasons than most. My parents are older and it is nice to help them out. However, the big reason is that my new job is 5 miles from my parent's place and was 40 miles from my old apartment that I really stopped living in. Sure, I could rent a place 5 minutes from my parents, but I rather pay off my loans with that $15-20k. Plus, the gf and I have talked about my moving to her area at the end of the year and moving in with her while we buy a house and get hitched. Thus, there seems to be little financial value is wasting that much on rent for a year.
SJC2008 Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 (edited) I moved back to my mom's house in Sep. My roommate gave me about 45 days notice. I said eff it, I'm not in a serious r and I'll just pay some bills down and really did not feel like looking for a place during the semester. It's only us two and we really only see eachother in passing. Yes I pay bills and buy food. I just turned 30, I'm graduating college next year at 31, late bloomer yes (legitimate personal reasons) but red flag no, I am headed somewhere in life. You'd be surprised how many woman will date you if you are at least headed somewhere. The girl from "It never fails" had no problem with me living at home and she's 25 and is trying to patch things up but I'm dating another woman now and she also has no prob, she's 29 and has a degree. If I get a response from a message, I put it out there. I just say "Hey I want to ask you out but let me tell you a little more about my self and current living sit.... and just summarize what I just said" Yes it's still embarrassing but don't let it get you down! Edited February 14, 2012 by SJC2008 age error
Eclypse Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 21 and living at home. Unfortunately my honours year at university is 9-5 intensive so I don't really have time to work between that and doing my thesis and I don't qualify for govt benefits so I'm currently at home and I think once I graduate this year and land a job I will keep living with them a few more years to build up a decent savings so that I can put down a deposit for at least a somewhat decent house.
Emilia Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 I left my mother's house and my home country when I was 20 and came to the UK with a suitcase. Can't imagine ever to move back home, it would have to be one major disaster for it to happen. During the recession I had to rent out my place to make sure my mortgage got paid as I was unemployed for a year but I managed to find somewhere to live very cheaply and had to deal with being in survival mode for that period. People offered my financial assistance but I would have felt like a failure if I had accepted it.
phineas Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 I'm 48... I live at home.. my own.. People have to start somewhere.. 28 and living to home with your parents while it isn't everyone's ideal scenario it certainly is yours and you should not be embarrassed about it... You are at the age where your parents might be living with you. I see it a lot with single mom's my age. No trying out every room in the house (if you know what I mean) with moms there after the kids goto sleep but you can't knock the live-in baby sitter bonus. LOL!
phineas Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 Like art critic said, I live at home (my own), but it feels the same, because my kids are here. I would prefer to be the one to move out and leave them here, then the other way around. And my brother still lives with my parents at 28. He lived in china for 3yrs, but other then that at home. He has no intention of moving out, rents and house prices here are horrendous, and my parents have more room then they need. Plus it means he has extra money to keep his computers up graded and go to board game conventions. If my dad were to pass away, me and the kids would move back too, because I could make sweet money renting out this place. They did a story on the news about how family's are transitioning back to multi-generation homes. How people that can afford their own home's are just putting on additions, moving back together as a family & enjoying a higher standard of living from combined family incomes. I love my parents, but if I had move in with them, i'd go insane & i'd probably strangle my sister (if my brother didn't do it first). I love my house. listen......silence......kids are with their mom & I spend summer nights in my boxers. In fact me & the 5yr old are in boxers & my 3yr old is just in his diaper on hot summer nights while we watch TV. I never want to give that up by living with parents. I'm sure my dad would join in but my mom wouldn't have it.
Million.to.1 Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 I moved out of home when i was 16. I'm now 32. I've been am back at home living with my parents for the last year and a half. I often work on boats, off at sea for weeks or months on end and i don't want to be finding sub-letters or paying rent while i'm away. I pay rent to my folks. They have a big place and it's nice to be here. I am also saving a great deal of money which i will be using this year to start up my own business. It was a choice i made so i wasn't living week to week paying ludicrous amounts of rent which my city has right now. Living at home is a way for me to get a bit ahead financially and have more freedom to follow my goals. I do miss flatting and living witth people my own age at times though.
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