UndecidedMe Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 Hey yall.. having a Real hard time with this. Been riding the fence for four months now, and need some outside thoughts on subject. First, I've been with my bf for 5+ years now. He was my first everything, and now I'm 25. (He's 26). He has been my world and I loved him fully. We know everything about each other and are completely honest with one another. So much so that when he cheated on me a few months back.. he admitted it to me 3 days later. It was a one time "mistake," but he had the audacity to do it with someone I've known my whole life. Actually she was my step sister for many years (until parents later divorced). She's the biggest piece of **** whore in town, and I trusted my man enough to let her stay on the couch One night... not even thinking my man would do what he did. She is pure trash (her kids taken away by CPS, escapist, can't hold a job for 6 months at Burger King). Yet he boned her while I was asleep upstairs.. not to mention at the time I was the only one with a job... so I had to go to sleep before him. I am a good woman and have always taken care of my man. I've been stable for him.. even through the death of his mom a couple years back. I have LOVED his man.. we've lived together for 4 years! He is my best friend, and he knows everything about me. We're still together... I'm trying to not let this kill us.. but lately I've been really attracted to other men. I'm afraid of losing the best thing I've ever had in my life, but I feel like I'm missing out. All this complexity/ drama has worn me out, and I'm just not as attracted to my man as I used to be. But I'm afraid of losing him.. of ending it all, and then wanting him back again. Soooo... long story. No simple answer. Undecided as to what to do.. take a break? Any past experience knowledge with what you did in a situation like this would help.. I'm at a loss. THANKS, UndecidedMe
Dark Phoenix Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 (edited) Its time to take a break in my opinion! All your view points are valid and I understand your feelings on everything from the attraction to losing him forever. This is something you have to do so go out and try new things Edited February 14, 2012 by Dark Phoenix
CaliBabe Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 With as much as you do, as highly as you should think of yourself, ask yourself this... Does a prize like you deserve the treatment you received? HELL NO! Kick his ass to the curb and get yourself a winner. Someone who values you and would NEVER cheat. You should value yourself more than to put up with this.
ScienceGal Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 5 years of your life is a long time, but the rest of your life is longer... He cheated on you! Do you really believe this will be a one time thing? You should take a break, especially considering you're attracted to other men. I give him credit for being honest, but that doesn't mean you have to stay with him. You deserve better.
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