Daremo_06 Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 Alright, I'm 42, shes 37. Very classy upperscale lady, lives/works near NYC. We have been out 4 times, taking things very slowly, but we have talked about valentines day and she is expecting a gift. Flowers are out, not a good idea because she spends half her week in one location and the other half in another. They would just die in her apt or office. I know I can do chocolates, but she is actively working on losing a little weight and counts calories, is running almost daily to counter what she eats for total calories. So I don't want to give her something that is counter-productive to that goal she has. We have spent a great deal of time talking to each other about a great many things and there is some chemistry going on here that I am expecting to develop into something more (there is just some additional issues to deal with that I am going to also post about in a separate topic) So mulling over ideas. Shes a starbucks lover, so gift card to starbucks was one idea, stuffed animal was another, lingere is possible as well. Thoughts? Esp from you ladies, if you recently met someone, found a connection to him and am interested, but at the same time want to take things slow.... what would you find to be a something that brought a smile to your face? Thanks! Rob
Philosoraptor Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 I'm no lady, but those ideas all suck. What do you know about this woman? What does she talk about? What are her hobbies? Did she tell you any life stories that you remember and could play off of? So many meaningful ideas are spoken and sitting there... but we're too branded and go with what the commercials say to go with. It's not as much about the gift as it is about paying attention.
Lonely Ronin Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 I'm no lady, but those ideas all suck. Sorry Daremo, but I have to second this.. Can you cook? If so, have her over to your place and make her a nice meal. I think you will also find that she will forgo the calorie counting for tomorrow.
kaylan Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 Sorry Daremo, but I have to second this.. Can you cook? If so, have her over to your place and make her a nice meal. I think you will also find that she will forgo the calorie counting for tomorrow. ^That. (10 characters needed)
Author Daremo_06 Posted February 13, 2012 Author Posted February 13, 2012 LOL WAAAAAAY ahead of you guys there... Had her over for late lunch/early dinner yesturday, cooked basil pesto stuffed pork chops for her. Done the nice dinner at a nice place with her Sat night. I can do it again, but I do not want to repeat something so soon.... I am looking for something small, yet different, and sincere. I am leaning towards the chocolates, perhaps something really fancy such as Godiva. I could do something like strawberries or the truffles someone mentioned. Also thanks for the honest opinion on the starbucks card or stuffed animal, your right, those ideas suck!
mitchell Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 Nothing say "Happy Valentine's Day" like a nice pair of handcuffs and a blindfold. I say go for it even though it's early in your relationship.
oaks Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 Flowers are out, not a good idea because she spends half her week in one location and the other half in another. They would just die in her apt or office. Get the flowers anyway. If you just started dating then you don't want to get anything expensive or anything long-lasting, which basically narrows it down to something consumable or something perishable, and she's counting calories so chocolate is out. So get flowers.
mickleb Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 (edited) Get tickets to an event or an experience she'd love (something you can do with her), or a getaway weekend. She's near NYC so there must be a billion things to choose from.. surely? Groupon isn't a terrible place to start for this kind of thing. Good luck and don't fret too much. But don't give her the cuddly toy. Edited February 13, 2012 by mickleb
Author Daremo_06 Posted February 13, 2012 Author Posted February 13, 2012 Yeah.. I've been thinking it over through the ride home and I think I am going to go with something small from Godiva, something small and intimate from an adult store.. perhaps something like the karma sutra body powder or something along that line. And then dinner somewhere was just talked about on the phone with her, so I'm figuring i'll do that.. or i might find another recipe tonight and have her over here. So thanks all for the suggestions
ShannonMI Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 Alright, I'm 42, shes 37. Very classy upperscale lady, lives/works near NYC. We have been out 4 times, taking things very slowly, but we have talked about valentines day and she is expecting a gift. Flowers are out, not a good idea because she spends half her week in one location and the other half in another. They would just die in her apt or office. I know I can do chocolates, but she is actively working on losing a little weight and counts calories, is running almost daily to counter what she eats for total calories. So I don't want to give her something that is counter-productive to that goal she has. We have spent a great deal of time talking to each other about a great many things and there is some chemistry going on here that I am expecting to develop into something more (there is just some additional issues to deal with that I am going to also post about in a separate topic) So mulling over ideas. Shes a starbucks lover, so gift card to starbucks was one idea, stuffed animal was another, lingere is possible as well. Thoughts? Esp from you ladies, if you recently met someone, found a connection to him and am interested, but at the same time want to take things slow.... what would you find to be a something that brought a smile to your face? Thanks! Rob No lingerie. That's just tacky when you've only just met this woman. If she's health conscious and counting calories why not get her one of those edible arrangements? Those things look cool. Does she read? Get her a book you know she'd be interested in. I'm an avid reader and a book always makes a nice gift.
whichwayisup Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 intimate from an adult store.. No. After only four dates, don't. She's looking for ROMANCE and something to make her feel special, something that shows you are interested (but not too sexual, it's too soon) and not just waiting to get her into bed. Flowers and a gift certificate to get a massage or a spa day. She'll love that.
Feelin Frisky Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 I once faced the same thing a long time ago and hadn't a clue. I went out looking around and saw a silk pillow big red pair of kissing lips. That and a small box Godiva Truffles went over. She just laughed and loved the lips pillow.
zlatnapolja Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 LOL WAAAAAAY ahead of you guys there... Had her over for late lunch/early dinner yesturday, cooked basil pesto stuffed pork chops for her. Done the nice dinner at a nice place with her Sat night. I can do it again, but I do not want to repeat something so soon.... I am looking for something small, yet different, and sincere. I am leaning towards the chocolates, perhaps something really fancy such as Godiva. I could do something like strawberries or the truffles someone mentioned. Also thanks for the honest opinion on the starbucks card or stuffed animal, your right, those ideas suck! Its not international sex day, its valentines day, the day of overrated/overpriced love.. But still its the day of love... Get her something sweet.. take her somewhere fun! Doesnt matter where, as long as your reason is good and sweet You could take her to a restaurant, to the zoo, central park it doesnt matter. If she's really that much into you as you are into her she'll just enjoy spending time with you! So make sure that whatever you give to her, doesnt make her feel awkward! Anything from an adult shop would make me feel uncomfertable if I just met someone! Btw : pillows, stuffed animals and blankets are never a bad idea unlesss she has astma. Make it sweet!
chryssy83 Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 I would send her flowers. I don't even like flowers, but then everyone she works with will see that you sent them. Their reaction will make her feel great! Sex stuff should be completely out. Makes you look like a jerk who is only after sex. Making a nice dinner is good, as is going out. Because that way she isn't spending Valentine's day alone. Candy is okay, but Godiva is kind of too popular in my opinion. Go with truffles from a small candy shop (may be too late, in my town they take special orders only) and a note that says you're glad you met. Kind of depends on where you are in life/where she is. If everyone around her is going all out, and she seems like the type who would expect that, you should do that, too. If you want to have something here. But please, no sex stuff. I think it would be a real mistake.
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