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HA! I can trump all your accents.. Bawston here. Its wicked pissah dude! heh

 

I also agree with one of the previous posts about California and accents, because to the best of my knowledge there is no regional accent you would attribute to CA. Southwestern/western accent sure, but not CA specifically. I know this having spent 7 years there. :)

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if girls ask guys out in australia..and worry about calling them...

 

then im moving to australia.

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I didn't give my opinion on when you should call, T, because I frankly never played these games. All my Rs started out as friends.

 

I think you should just call him whenever you WANT to though, but adjust future interactions based on the response you glean from him. I do agree that a guy often calls when he is interested, but lack of calling may possibly suggest shyness rather than lack of interest as well - there's no way to tell, this early on.

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I didn't give my opinion on when you should call, T, because I frankly never played these games. All my Rs started out as friends.

 

I think you should just call him whenever you WANT to though, but adjust future interactions based on the response you glean from him. I do agree that a guy often calls when he is interested, but lack of calling may possibly suggest shyness rather than lack of interest as well - there's no way to tell, this early on.

 

Well it was not my intent to play games, Elswyth. I was more looking for moral support in my decision to call yesterday. And since I didn't get any, and then just felt really tired, I thought well I won't call now since I will probably start yawning on the phone. Obviously in hind sight I am wishing I had already made the call, while the meeting was so fresh.

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Perhaps a bad way for me to explain it. Since so many people here call dating a 'game', that was what I meant by it. I never did the stereotypical 'dating'. So as much as I wish I could help, I have little experience to draw from.

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I think you should call ASAP. Guys don't place much importance on V day so don't worry about it.

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Thanks ES. Now you have me thinking of calling tonight.

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Well I tried calling the guy just then and he didn't answer. I let it ring. He doesn't have message bank.

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Omg he just called back, and we set up a date for friday night for dinner.

 

I can't believe it. My first proper date in about a year.

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Omg he just called back, and we set up a date for friday night for dinner.

 

I can't believe it. My first proper date in about a year.

 

Awesome. Good luck!

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Wohoooo Titania :bunny::bunny::bunny:

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Omg he just called back, and we set up a date for friday night for dinner.

 

I can't believe it. My first proper date in about a year.

 

Fortune favours the bold, Titania! Good show!

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Yay! I'm excited for you. And proud of the initiative you took. I hope you have a very fun date.

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Thanks Girls!

 

I am looking forward to it.

 

One thing thoough, because it could come up on a first date.

 

Any advice on kissing someone with a beard? I keep thinking that the beard hair will go in my mouth and ruin the mood.

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Thanks Girls!

 

 

Any advice on kissing someone with a beard? I keep thinking that the beard hair will go in my mouth and ruin the mood.

 

If you're hungry, you might be able to graze for snacks in it ...

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If you're hungry, you might be able to graze for snacks in it ...

 

Gross Mme, that doesn't help.

 

I think Roald Dahl scarred me for life with "the twits".

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Maybe you'll need to use a dental dam if you kiss.

 

I kid, I kid! Don't worry about the beard. I'm sure if you both enjoy the date and you're feeling it, you will be able to navigate the facial hair creatively and without any trauma!

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Roald Dahl, does he direct movies or something?

 

Funny! As if you didn't know he is the famous children author. They did make movies out of some of his works though. He wrote charlie and the chocolate factory among others.

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Omg he just called back, and we set up a date for friday night for dinner.

 

I can't believe it. My first proper date in about a year.

 

Yay!!! :bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny:

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The date went well. We got along great.

 

 

-He has gamed and said his favourite genre was RTS. He only play SC2 for a couple of months and made it to the silver league (same as me) before quitting.

-He had heard of both Felicia Day and Day9.

-I was determined to pay for the date as I had asked him out, but he absolutely insisted on paying for it. On the plus side for him, the whole date came to $19.50, for dinner and a tea and a coffee afterwards.

-It turns out he was 22yrs old and not interested in a relationships with me.

-He said I was "incredibly incredibly sexy" and apologised repeatedly for rejecting me. He also made it clear that if I wanted something casual he would be interested.

-And he walked me back to my car.

-BTW He wasn't as chubby as I thought (but he did have a belly on him), and the way his beard was shaved would not have made kissing the big problem that i was fearing earlier (not that anything like that happened).

 

I think that covers the highlights.

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Sounds like it was a good experience even if it didn't lead to a relationship.

 

Keep looking ;)

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The date went well. We got along great.

 

 

-He has gamed and said his favourite genre was RTS. He only play SC2 for a couple of months and made it to the silver league (same as me) before quitting.

-He had heard of both Felicia Day and Day9.

-I was determined to pay for the date as I had asked him out, but he absolutely insisted on paying for it. On the plus side for him, the whole date came to $19.50, for dinner and a tea and a coffee afterwards.

-It turns out he was 22yrs old and not interested in a relationships with me.

-He said I was "incredibly incredibly sexy" and apologised repeatedly for rejecting me. He also made it clear that if I wanted something casual he would be interested.

-And he walked me back to my car.

-BTW He wasn't as chubby as I thought (but he did have a belly on him), and the way his beard was shaved would not have made kissing the big problem that i was fearing earlier (not that anything like that happened).

 

I think that covers the highlights.

 

Ah, sorry to hear that. Glad you had a great time though. And good to know that he's a decent honest guy, not the sort that'll try and string you along just for sex.

 

To be perfectly honest, people often do not wish to enter into relationships with people more than 10 years older or younger than them. Perhaps try gunning for the guys closer to your age range next time?

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Thanks Girls,

 

TBH I had no idea how old he was when I met him. I have bad eye sight and I wasn't wearing my glasses. I even thought he was chubbier then he was. And he said he has the beard so he will look older.

 

I really am trying to be open to a larger age range.

 

It didn't upset me like I thought it would though. I think I am getting used to the whole "you're too old" thing by now. I kind of expect it. In some ways I do think it would be much easier if i could just look in the 50yr old age group, but I can see a whole different range of challenges there. I will start on tuesday at the philosophy group trying to visualise the men there as attractive possibilities, instead of just seeing them as old.

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