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i never talked about my problem on this forum....

 

well...i broke up with my ex almost 4 months ago...the reason...i was too controling and demanding of his time...

and he wanna have a break and be alone...

 

i tried to get back together....i tried constantly calling,stalking him,begging...i read books about how to deal with relationship and get back together....but just can't help myself...finally i realize i was insane becoz i begged and stalked him....i realized i could do better than that...

 

so i went to talk to psychologist...after 3 sessions....i made a commitment to myself...not to contact him anymore and went on with my life...i had new friends and spent a lot of time studying...i got really gd grades this semester...

 

after no contact for like 3 months...we met twice

the first time we saw each others car in an intersection....so called him and said hi...met in library to chat a bit...

the second time...we saw each other in the library studying for finals....i always want him to know...i have grown up and learn that studying is more important than spending time stalking him....i asked him to go dinner together...he said he went home first...i could call him when i was ready...but ended up too late...didn't go to dinner together

 

recently after the final...i called him more often...like 1-2 times per week...to get him to go dinner together...

 

on mon....suddenly got his call....he had really horrible stomachache and needed to go to hospital...

i thought....even as normal friends...i should take him....how can i let him in pain and he may die...

i dunno...but once i saw him in person....and started walking together....we just hugged naturally...and how he reacted...made me feel like we were back to normal again....and we talked about how we were....

 

he still remembered my b.day is coming up this sat....he still kept my gift on his desk...he still wore the bozers i bought him....and he mentioned that too....he showed he cared...he mentioned we should go eat lunch tomolo...we should go to beach some day....

 

after the ER...we went to eat supper....stayed in his house...one thing led to another and we ended up having sex...he even insisted me staying over...he said we should take it slowly and start fresh...

i dun want him to feel sofficated becoz of the intimacy...so i took off...

 

it happened before...so i have expected....he usually expresses his gd feeling...but the next day...he will be 180 degrees opposite and wanna stayed out of the relationship...of coz as i expected...

he resumed his horrible attitude again....i mean i foreseee it becoz that's how guys r to get laid...but he's so ambivalent...just as my psychologist analyzed....

 

what should i do???? stay no contact for a while...maybe he'll miss me.....

i'm lost....how to deal with ambivalent ppl????

 

long post....i apologized....thx

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You went to his rescue and he played a game. JMO

Let him go girl... find you someone that cares for you. :):)

Just because he had on boxers that you give him and had on the chain you give him or what ever it was. Does not mean that he still cares.

 

He cared enough to let you drive him to the hospital, he knew you were steady on his hills wanting to get back together, he knew that he could get what he wanted at the time and he did.

That is just my OP and nothing more

 

Find you someone that can treat you the way you need to be. :):):)

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