gingerpounder Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 My ex-girlfriend came back to me a couple days ago after 6 months of being broken up, and wants to give us another shot. She sounds pretty serious about it and her friends want us to get back together aswell..She dated someone just after me for only 2 months and even told me to move on at one point.I tried talking to her about it at the time but she would just walk away and ignore me. Basically, she was pretty cold and heartless towards me for the most part. But right now, Im kind of in a "flirtationship" or having a friends with benefits thing with another girl that i like. This girl told me she cant have a relationship right now because she isn't emotionally ready but we talk, act and fool around as if we were somewhat together. So, im caught up between either giving my ex a second chance or just have fun being single and fooling around with this new girl and hopefully fall into a relationship with her later on. Any advice on what I should do? If you have any questions, just ask!
chelsea2011 Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 My only advice is, don't d*ck two people around just because you're indecisive. Not cool. Sort yourself out and get over your ex before you bring someone else into your life. That's the only fair thing to do.
Dark Phoenix Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 But right now, Im kind of in a "flirtationship" or having a friends with benefits thing with another girl that i like. This girl told me she cant have a relationship right now because she isn't emotionally ready but we talk, act and fool around as if we were somewhat together. This is a huge red flag, dont do this. She's not going to change her mind with you about this. You are going to get hurt. If you want to keep having fun with her, by all means do it. This isnt going to change, she's emotionally walled off and she will push you so far to the curb if you start to close in on her emotionally
alphamale Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 So, im caught up between either giving my ex a second chance or just have fun being single and fooling around with this new girl and hopefully fall into a relationship with her later on. Any advice on what I should do? If you have any questions, just ask! if you take your ex back you'll look like a total tool and will have no power in the relationship
Dark Phoenix Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 (edited) if you take your ex back you'll look like a total tool and will have no power in the relationship this is pua talk... this is why most pua's or afc's are single and beg for dates... when i first came here, i liked your guides, as I grew emotionally, I learned this type of philosophy has absolutely no place in a relationships. Power should be a close swing in the 50/50 range but can swing back and forth comfortably 60/40 to 40/60. Each person or relationship is different and has to fine adjust the tune of the swing of "power" Accepting someone back for a second chance, you actually have all the power in the relationship because they have to swallow their pride to come back and ask. You do need to let go of it and maintain a balance towards the middle after the relationship starts again Edited February 13, 2012 by Dark Phoenix
Philosoraptor Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 You need to do whatever makes you happy. But if you offer a second chance to your ex you need to make sure she is ready for that chance. Ask her important questions related to the ending of the past relationship and how she has changed regarding her part of the downfall of that relationship. This needs to be a long conversation not just a "sure let's try".
ScienceGal Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 You need to do whatever makes you happy. But if you offer a second chance to your ex you need to make sure she is ready for that chance. Ask her important questions related to the ending of the past relationship and how she has changed regarding her part of the downfall of that relationship. This needs to be a long conversation not just a "sure let's try". Exactly. I took an ex back who was playing the "sure let's try" card. It isn't enough. Now, he's gone again and it's my own fault for compromising when I should've been true to myself. I knew he wasn't clear in understanding his own wants. She needs to know she wants you back and why. You both need to be able to believe the issues from the past are resolved, and be able to leave them in the past. It has to be a fresh start where you are meeting each other half way. 50/50, or nothing. Good luck!
worldgonewrong Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 this is pua talk... this is why most pua's or afc's are single and beg for dates... What are "pua's" and "afc's"? I genuinely don't know.
Philosoraptor Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 Pick up artist Average frustrated chump
worldgonewrong Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 Pick up artist Average frustrated chump thank you! (amuses me to see these terms as acronyms. made me smile!)
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