yzyzyz325 Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 I havent checked her FB for ages. yesterday, we i met firends for dinner, one of them told me that my ex gf (i'm her first of everything) just changed her relationship status to in a relationship. The fact that she had new bf did not shock, but what surprised me a lot was she put that on FB not long after they started going out tgt. We were tgt for 1.5yrs before she suddenly broke up with me without any good reasons, just saying she was too busy blah blah.... and throughout the 1.5 yrs relationship, she never updated her relationship status, i asked her once, but she said she was not that open person to show this, so i didnt request again. Now, when she just got a new bf, she could not wait to update on FB, i just dont get it!!!
Million.to.1 Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 Don't pay to much attention to Facebook. I was never a "post my reletionship status" person until my last boyfriend, who was a FB addict, sent me a relationship request. It didn't mean our relationship was anything more than it was. It's one of those things that really cause more problems than it's worth. Don't let it undermine your relationship with her, as FB is all half truths and public displays of affection anyway. You never used it much, so don't let people that post updates on every little thing they do make you feel like you have to buy into that crap. 1
smudge21 Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 People's lives are never as good as they appear to be on Facebook. It's a photo album, a collection of holiday snaps and a shortened highlights of their life. It's not a true indication of what they're lives are really like and we shouldn't focus on it. Prior to FB, once we broke up with someone that was it. We'd never know about them, now social media is just there to give is reminders should we choose to go looking. Choose not to and carry on with your life, safe in the knowledge that you don't know what's going on in her life. What's hurting you hear is a website, not her. That's crazy and you know you're better than to let something like this set you back. 1
Author yzyzyz325 Posted February 13, 2012 Author Posted February 13, 2012 (edited) Don't pay to much attention to Facebook. I was never a "post my reletionship status" person until my last boyfriend, who was a FB addict, sent me a relationship request. It didn't mean our relationship was anything more than it was. It's one of those things that really cause more problems than it's worth. Don't let it undermine your relationship with her, as FB is all half truths and public displays of affection anyway. You never used it much, so don't let people that post updates on every little thing they do make you feel like you have to buy into that crap. She was so shy throughout our relationships and didn't want to show too much in front of our friends and her family. Even so i felt she was too cold sometime, but since i respected her, i usually didnt force her to do things she didnt want to do. For example, i like models and figures (not so into it, just like watching it), when we passed by model shops, i always wanted to go inside and take a look. But she never wanted to go inside and always said i could come when she was not here. Well, i didnt want to force her, so i just walked away with her everytime. On the other hand, her new bf, according to my friend, he seems to be quite open and assertive. He already changed his profile photo into couple photo they took tgt, which i never did b4 bcoz i didnt want to make her feel bad. I dont knw if she likes it or not, but since she has changed a lot after BU (she didnt pay attention to her weight b4 and always enjoyed eating nice food, but now, according to my friend, she has lost a lot of weight and she doesnt eat those things that she used to like so much), maybe she is not shy anymore and likes to be published... Edited February 13, 2012 by yzyzyz325
Philosoraptor Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 Maybe she is growing in your time apart? All you can do is be happy for her growth and hope that you both continue to grow and mature as well rounded individuals.
Author yzyzyz325 Posted February 13, 2012 Author Posted February 13, 2012 Maybe she is growing in your time apart? All you can do is be happy for her growth and hope that you both continue to grow and mature as well rounded individuals. to be honest, i doubt it. I think million to 1 got the point, she accepted her bf's request, especially when i know her new bf is so assertive. She is a very stubborn person, being extremely self-protective and cautious about giving are her characters, and for which, i dont think it would change that easily. Yes, she may not be so shy after having experienced once, but still, it's way too soon for ppl like her to update relationship status, not her style at all!
Author yzyzyz325 Posted February 14, 2012 Author Posted February 14, 2012 She wanted you to see it. Duh. Sorry, i dont get it. What's the point? So she will kill my hope? I dont even think she cares about my feelings. She barely cared my feelings when we were tgt, let along now.
Author yzyzyz325 Posted February 15, 2012 Author Posted February 15, 2012 i dont knw if i shud delete her from my facebook, i really dont want to be that childish
Author yzyzyz325 Posted February 15, 2012 Author Posted February 15, 2012 So it's stupid to be polite and considerate, sigh... why didnt she just block me like my first gf did to me, so it would be much easier to me
Philosoraptor Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 So it's stupid to be polite and considerate, sigh... why didnt she just block me like my first gf did to me, so it would be much easier to me Why don't you just gain some composure and not look at her facebook?
coopster Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 So it's stupid to be polite and considerate, sigh... why didnt she just block me like my first gf did to me, so it would be much easier to me Why don`t you block her? Yes DELETE her. Do it now
Author yzyzyz325 Posted February 15, 2012 Author Posted February 15, 2012 i just dont want to be that childish...
Author yzyzyz325 Posted February 16, 2012 Author Posted February 16, 2012 Why don't you just gain some composure and not look at her facebook? I didnt't! I have not checked her fb for ages, and i even blocked news feed of her. But all our mutual friends know that, and one of them just told me...
Philosoraptor Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 I didnt't! I have not checked her fb for ages, and i even blocked news feed of her. But all our mutual friends know that, and one of them just told me... If this is the case then I would tell such friends that you wish to know nothing about her life as she is the past, and it is none of your business.
coopster Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 I didnt't! I have not checked her fb for ages, and i even blocked news feed of her. But all our mutual friends know that, and one of them just told me... Then why not block her completley? Its not childish in doing so. If anything it`s a grown up act to do. You dont wish to know whats she`s doing? Maybe you wish her to know what your doing then?
veggirl Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 i dont knw if i shud delete her from my facebook, i really dont want to be that childish Yes you should delete her. How is it childish to do so? Is she your friend? No. I regularly clean up my FB and delete people. You guys must be very young, if this is an issue. So it's stupid to be polite and considerate, sigh... why didnt she just block me like my first gf did to me, so it would be much easier to me Why don't you block her? Look, you need to quit worrying about what people will think / say and just DO what's good for YOU. What's good for YOU is to delete and block your ex from fb, and tell your friends to keep their "news" about her to themselves.
Author yzyzyz325 Posted February 17, 2012 Author Posted February 17, 2012 Then why not block her completley? Its not childish in doing so. If anything it`s a grown up act to do. You dont wish to know whats she`s doing? Maybe you wish her to know what your doing then? i have never thought of that b4, but maybe my subconciousness wish that? i dont know. I am just always a friendly and polite person, i dont want to attack ppl when they havent done anything to me. Blocking her when she has not blocked me is not sth i would do...
Author yzyzyz325 Posted February 17, 2012 Author Posted February 17, 2012 Yes you should delete her. How is it childish to do so? Is she your friend? No. I regularly clean up my FB and delete people. You guys must be very young, if this is an issue. Why don't you block her? Look, you need to quit worrying about what people will think / say and just DO what's good for YOU. What's good for YOU is to delete and block your ex from fb, and tell your friends to keep their "news" about her to themselves. Yes, i already asked my friends not to mention her in front of my again. But i cant block her. I can block her news feed, i can control myself from visting her fb, but i dont want to block or delete her, i just can't! I have never done that kind of things before becoz i always try to be generous. And she didnt block me neither, then why shud i block her and make things even worse?
veggirl Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 Yes, i already asked my friends not to mention her in front of my again. But i cant block her. I can block her news feed, i can control myself from visting her fb, but i dont want to block or delete her, i just can't! I have never done that kind of things before becoz i always try to be generous. And she didnt block me neither, then why shud i block her and make things even worse? FFS. How old are you? Teenager? If so, I understand you ignoring my FAB ADVICE. So don't block her, but at least delete her. I mean seriously... you've never deleted someone from FB? If you notice someone deletes you, are you very offended, sad for days? It's FACEBOOK ya goof. No need to make it so dramatic. Anyway, keep her on as you wish, what was the question again then?? 1
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