forgot25 Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 Hello everyone! I’m from Greece. I’d like to talk about a relationship I had, with the man I love, but unfortunately it ended .. I'm 21 and he’s 24 .. We met each other in university, we’re in the same field .. He was impressed and showed too much interest, and we were very well together ... We spent all the time together, and finally lived together very soon ... We did many things together .. He showed me that he loved me .. We spent the whole day together .. The truth is that I was a bit jealous with him more than normal ...But he accepted that ... Our relationship lasted 2 years ... When we left the city where we were studying then came the distance (geographical distance) ... Then, he went to work for a month in Germany (things were worse then between us). I was jealous and we were fighting all the time and this became worse with the distance .. He said that he began to think the geographical distance and he couldn’t bare the way I was treating him any more ...I tried to change his mind with no results... After than he had to go to the army in Cyprus ... I stopped communicating with him, and when I did that, he started to communicate with me .. He said he loves me , he sais that he’s afraid ... he said that I was the biggest part of his life and he ‘s a coward ... I did nothing and he went on to say that he thinks that we could still be together .. I began to hope again and one day I asked him if he wants to be together again .. And he said that we can’t be together.. I’m about to go crazy .. I love him .. This is hurting me so much.. What should I do; I do not want to lose him for ever .. Thank you for your time!
sunny95842 Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 Hello I have gone thru the same thing and let me say that you will get over him. Try to keep busy so you dont think about him so much.
Author forgot25 Posted February 12, 2012 Author Posted February 12, 2012 Hello I have gone thru the same thing and let me say that you will get over him. Try to keep busy so you dont think about him so much. You think he is not going to change his mind?
sunny95842 Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 I know how your feeling I wish you all the happiness.
Whisky1981 Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 Girl you are young. You probably have friends and you have to lean on them. Talk about your relationship with your parents let them say what they think about all this. What they think about him and the way he treats you. The distance will remain even if you get back together. The old problems will resurface after a few weeks. Be strong and move on. Go out and meet new people. Time will heal every wound. Maybe one day you will get back together and when and if that day will come the distance will not be a problem anymore. Be strong!
Author forgot25 Posted February 13, 2012 Author Posted February 13, 2012 It's so difficult for me to move on.. I love him... I recall all the good times, all the things he did for our relationship, he was a really good person... I dont know why I justify everything he does.. I keep telling myself that he's being through a difficult time in the Army.. I could fight for the distance.. I could fight for our relationship... I can't meet new people.. I want him so much..
Whisky1981 Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 I know how it feels. Believe me everybody on this planet went trough this. It is difficult but you have to find the strength. It is normal to see just the positive when you break up with someone. But if you two broke up there was a reason and things were not all roses. Even if he was going trough difficult times in the army you were his point of reference. And he has no right to bring his bad moods on someone that loves him. He should have leant on you and found confort in you. Playing with you was a really mean move. First trying to get back together and when you accepted then he rejects you. This is playing with human feelings and this is really mean. Dont give up maybe you will remain friends and who knows maybe sometime in the future you will get back together when the whole army and distance thing will resolve by itself. I dont see the point in trying to maintain such a long distance relationship (Greece ---> Cyprus). If you are a jelous person this becomes much more complicated because of all the things that are running trough your head when he is so far away. Be strong and try to meet new people. Who knows maybe your mind is just fogged. You are young and you will have much more chances to encounter someone beautiful along your way. Hugs .
Author forgot25 Posted February 14, 2012 Author Posted February 14, 2012 I know how it feels. Believe me everybody on this planet went trough this. It is difficult but you have to find the strength. It is normal to see just the positive when you break up with someone. But if you two broke up there was a reason and things were not all roses. Even if he was going trough difficult times in the army you were his point of reference. And he has no right to bring his bad moods on someone that loves him. He should have leant on you and found confort in you. Playing with you was a really mean move. First trying to get back together and when you accepted then he rejects you. This is playing with human feelings and this is really mean. Dont give up maybe you will remain friends and who knows maybe sometime in the future you will get back together when the whole army and distance thing will resolve by itself. I dont see the point in trying to maintain such a long distance relationship (Greece ---> Cyprus). If you are a jelous person this becomes much more complicated because of all the things that are running trough your head when he is so far away. Be strong and try to meet new people. Who knows maybe your mind is just fogged. You are young and you will have much more chances to encounter someone beautiful along your way. Hugs . I was thinking to suggest him to go slow... Maybe we could wait until he finishes his army obligations and then we could make a conversation face to face.. Without pressing him.. Do you think its a good idea?
Whisky1981 Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 Actually I think this is a great idea. But meanwhile dont stop living. Go out. Take dance lessons. Spend a lot of time with your friends. Then one day when you will sit face to face with him your mind will be much clearer of what you want from your life and who you want in your life.
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