drew605 Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 So I tried online dating and ended up meeting a girl from my university, she seemed to like me up until yesterday she would text me everyday before I initiated, also, she asked me out yesterday for coffee this week. However, last night I called her after texting her (instead if IM) for the first time, because I wanted to be a bit more familiar with her before the date. Although, I told her I was going to call her she still picked up and asked "who is this"...which made me feel belittled and she further made the situation worse by asking me "whats up", stupidly I responded with "nothing" and "what are you doing?" and the answer was "nothing". Afterwards, she hang up immediately and sent a text claiming that she thought her parents were waking up (since we chat mostly a night) and she was sorry. So, I am concerned that I may have scared her by calling or that I broke a social convention where people do not just call the people they have a text relationship wit or maybe she thought i was awkward by asking her what she was up to (by that point i was nervous as hell... it may have showed) The reason I do not think her parents had anything to do with it was because I wasn't on speaker phone and we were not talking anything dirty. Also, she seemed so shy when I called..compared to her online personality (which i like to be honest), and she mentioned in previous IM conversation she was scared of boys at 15. He Bio is as follows; She is a 20 year old Indian girl (Canadian), who is a wannabe med student, she claims to of dated 3 boys in the past, and lives with her parents. I don't know what to do when she wakes up in a few hours and probably doesn't contact me.
Oxy Moronovich Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 You should text her again. It's only been a day. Besides, 20 yr old girls are really, really, really flakey. Women in their 20s in general are flakey. You may not have done anything wrong. Her being Indian (from the subcontinent) does not have anything to do with it. 20 yr olds of all ethnicities and nationalities are flakey. Try to contact her again. If she doesn't answer then move on. Next time, don't reply with "nothing." Say, "Nothing much. I've just been chillin'." Act cool and don't let her do all the talking. Talk on the phone for 15 minutes before you set up a date to meet. Good luck.
Emilia Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 Talking on the phone can be really awkward when you don't know the other person well and a lot of people are not very good at it. Hence the popularity texting. As I said in your other thread, the only way to get good at this is by talking to as many girls as you can, initiating dates, getting to know them, etc.
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