Lobouspo Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 Or do men misinterpret a woman simply being nice and friendly as being "interested"? I wonder because recently I have observed women being polite, and the men in question started hitting on them. On these occasions, people in the vicinity just cringe, because its so awkward. Have you noticed/ experienced something similar?
carhill Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 To draw a parallel, there was a time when I opened my door to strangers with a smile and an open ear. After enough experience with that, I came to understand that a stranger rings my doorbell when they want something. If I'm not in the giving mood, and that is quite often these days, my response parallels that. For the women, IMO, it can be the same thing. Strangers approach them. Enough of such strangers have taken their friendly response as an opening to get something from them so that they now keep the door generally closed. I respect that. That said, IMO, if a woman decides from the moment the man catches her eye that he's attractive, the door will, at least, be unlocked. Her demeanor/behavior/aura will reflect that. I've made and observed enough cold approaches over the decades to experience that dynamic first-hand.
NYC-BigKat Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 Or do men misinterpret a woman simply being nice and friendly as being "interested"? I wonder because recently I have observed women being polite, and the men in question started hitting on them. On these occasions, people in the vicinity just cringe, because its so awkward. Have you noticed/ experienced something similar? Um...it seems like they do sometimes yes. I look at them & then they look the other way. I dont get this with unattractive girls tho .
FitChick Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 do men misinterpret a woman simply being nice and friendly as being "interested"? I am naturally friendly and talkative so I have to rein myself in sometimes. Good thing I walk very fast.
Krios Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 Women do not want to be left alone by a guy they deem "right for them", it's the same for men. If you like each other you want to interact. Being standoffish can have a myriad of reasons, it's the same for men. I've been standoffish with women at certain times in my life, but that wasn't because I didn't find the women that approached me attractive, but rather that I didn't think it was the right time to focus on a relationship and I didn't want to lead them on.
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