Jealous

[LK30]

I've written on here recently about a girl of 22 (I'm 32) who I'm sort of seeing and it's more a physical relationship even though I find her attractive and do have some feelings for her.

 

I think I need help as I'm a little bit jealous. She said on FB today that she was going to invite a friend (male) down to stay over, and she also has a female friend who's a bad influence on her. The guy has a gf and didn't come down in the end, but I sort of feel really jealous that she might sleep with someone else even though we're very much friends with occasional benefits.

 

Once she's been with someone else I don't want to then get intimate with her, but I can't help but say things to her like 'oh yeah, what might have happened if he had come down to stay with you' etc, which isn't right and I shouldn't care, but I think it's coz I do have some feelings for her.

 

I need to sort myself out!! :-(

[TheFinalWord]

I've written on here recently about a girl of 22 (I'm 32) who I'm sort of seeing and it's more a physical relationship even though I find her attractive and do have some feelings for her.

 

I think I need help as I'm a little bit jealous. She said on FB today that she was going to invite a friend (male) down to stay over, and she also has a female friend who's a bad influence on her. The guy has a gf and didn't come down in the end, but I sort of feel really jealous that she might sleep with someone else even though we're very much friends with occasional benefits.

 

Once she's been with someone else I don't want to then get intimate with her, but I can't help but say things to her like 'oh yeah, what might have happened if he had come down to stay with you' etc, which isn't right and I shouldn't care, but I think it's coz I do have some feelings for her.

 

I need to sort myself out!! :-(

 

I thought you were going to end this? I don't think its jealousy as much as you realize this romance is doomed to end. You're 10 years apart bro.

 

Look at this objectively. I think it's pretty unrealistic to expect a 22 year old girl to not have any other loves in her life. She's still a child. She had just gotten out of a relationship when you showed up. My guess is you were a rebound. If you two were exclusive in a relationship maybe it would be different.

 

I think you need to let this go At 22 this girl is emotionally immature and is going to make a lot of stupid decisions. Just think when you were 22!

[LK30]

Thanks The FinalWord, I appreciate your reply, and you talk a lot of sense.

 

You're right, I'll look back and think 'what was I worried about!' I did know her for a month or two before she split with her guy, so I suppose I didn't feel too much like a rebound as I would have done if she had come along after the split.

 

I suppose all I see is people together, and people moving on quickly to other relationships and I've been caught up in one failure after another and this girl gave me something to focus on, and I admit I've enjoyed the intimacy which I've been without for the whole of 2011 and suddenly I was offered some which is hard to resist as she is quite pretty.

 

But yes, you're right, and she's moving away at the end of March so I am wondering whether just to carry on until then and make the most of it as I'll be back on my own after that!!

 

I wish I would just grow up, but it's not like I've got a dozen 30 year olds to choose from right now lol!!