AwptiK Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 A few of you have probably seen some of my other threads, this one is a bit different. It's not quite about coping.. I dated a coworker for 5 months and things ended just after the new year. We jumped into trying to be friends too soon, and it got really bad. It was really my fault, I had a rough few days and it came out as me being mean/angry towards her. That was like 3 weeks post-breakup. It's been 2.5 more weeks since then, and shes still seemingly put off by that incident. Right after all of that happened, I apologized and we were deemed "cool" by her. I know it's probably still "too soon" by anyone's standards, but I had a really long talk with another coworker who has known her for years, and I am truly okay now. I found out a lot of things about her, that if I had known prior to the relationship, I probably wouldn't have dated her. I am totally fine and understanding now, and cool enough to be a friend to her. I should share, that even the other coworker agreed that for some reason, every incident/bad thing to the ex, is x10 compared to a normal person's reaction. So here lies my question, the ex's last day at our store is tomorrow. Most likely the last time I will ever see her. I do want to keep in touch in some form, I at least want her to leave on a much better note than things are right now. I see her today in an hour, and tomorrow at the same time. That's all i'll get to see of her. I want to talk to her. I want to be "cool", and moreso than just her saying that so that I was okay after that one episode. --- One last footnote, Two nights ago is when I talked to the other coworker and got into this really good stage where i'm almost completely moved on. Yesterday, I bought a drink for that coworker and left it on the counter at work so she'd see it when she came in half an hour later. I simply wrote "Thanks - S" on the receipt. She texted me to say you're welcome, but she also said "K flipped." I asked why, and she said she didn't know, but K saw the note and said to her, "Stay away" This angered me a lot. I really wanted to call or drive down there (3 minutes away) and talk to her. I calmed down before I did either but I was pretty pissed off. This is who the ex is, and mainly why I want to try and talk to her.. Somehow that one event is SO much more meaningful to her than 5 months of me being a "really great guy" (as said by her) --- Hopefully someone can shed some advice in the next hour before I do see her. I don't quite know what to say. I know I can do it all nicely and without being frustrated.
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