NYC-BigKat Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 Last night I went out to hang out with my frnd in the city. It wasn't so so cold so we walked around the streets. I saw lots of pretty girls my age & a little bit older but when I look at them they turn away really fast or they wont look at all. My frnd says its funny 'cause he thinks they play games. I'm unsure 'cause I love talking to girls but they make it harder this way. I think lots of guys get this .
ditzchic Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 Maybe because they don't find you attractive... Or if you are staring at them they may think you're creepy.
poodle Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 I can't speak for other girls, but when someone looks at me I look away because it makes me shy.
ditzchic Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 I can't speak for other girls, but when someone looks at me I look away because it makes me shy. That's not how I roll. lol. If a guy who I think is cute looks at me, I lock those eyes before I smile and look away.
Fondue Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 I can't speak for other girls, but when someone looks at me I look away because it makes me shy. This is a good way to tell someone: "I'm not interested."
ThaWholigan Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 You have to know how to use your eyes in social situations. Too much staring, you look creepy. Strike the balance between interest, and mystery (sounds corny, but works).
poodle Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 This is a good way to tell someone: "I'm not interested." Guess that explains why I never get approached. What would you suggest I do? If I were to stare back I'd probably scare the guys. By the way, when I'm not interested I get uncomfortable and a little annoyed. Getting a little shy should be looked at as a good thing.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted February 11, 2012 Author Posted February 11, 2012 Guess that explains why I never get approached. What would you suggest I do? If I were to stare back I'd probably scare the guys. By the way, when I'm not interested I get uncomfortable and a little annoyed. Getting a little shy should be looked at as a good thing. Some could be shyness yes 'cause the girls look down at the streets some just keep looking straight ahead. I see them doing this with better looking guys than me so its not only me thats getting this weird stuff.
misssmartypants Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 Aggressively making and maintaining eye contact is uncomfortable. It goes against most instincts in the animal kingdom. People are basically uppity apes. Short answer is cut it out look look away and smile.
poodle Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 Some could be shyness yes 'cause the girls look down at the streets some just keep looking straight ahead. I see them doing this with better looking guys than me so its not only me thats getting this weird stuff. If they look down it's much better than having them look straight ahead.
Fondue Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 Guess that explains why I never get approached. What would you suggest I do? If I were to stare back I'd probably scare the guys. By the way, when I'm not interested I get uncomfortable and a little annoyed. Getting a little shy should be looked at as a good thing. If you want to be "interested" but shy, if you guys make eye contact, quickly throw a cute smile and then look down/away/etc. You will give the hint that you have interested . Try it, dude!
Author NYC-BigKat Posted February 11, 2012 Author Posted February 11, 2012 If you want to be "interested" but shy, if you guys make eye contact, quickly throw a cute smile and then look down/away/etc. You will give the hint that you have interested . Try it, dude! Do u mean me or the girl above me? I'm not staring to creep girls out nooo way I just look at them a little bit to see if they wanna look back & some look for a split sec then turn away real fast. My frnd says some of them play games 'cause it happens to him then he says sometimes the same girls come back & pass him so he can talk to them. Girls are tricky .
El Brujo Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 They look at me, but not in the way I'd like! It's always the cross-eyed stare! You'd think they never saw a giant before... it's like I just stepped out of a flying saucer.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 I can't speak for other girls, but when someone looks at me I look away because it makes me shy. Me too, I get shy when a man looks my way.
ditzchic Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 Is it creepy to try to look up a girls skirt? Let's experiment. Come take a glance and I'll let you know if I'm creeped out
FitChick Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 This is a good way to tell someone: "I'm not interested." Definitely. If you lock eyes with them, they'll take it as an invitation, which it is. I generally wear sunglasses so I can watch them watching me.
Shaun-Dro Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 Definitely. If you lock eyes with them, they'll take it as an invitation, which it is. I generally wear sunglasses so I can watch them watching me. Yea, there's a lot of mind games going around. I guess it's because of the streets of NYC, what have you, but women do have walls built all around them for obvious reasons. It's one of the reasons bothering them while in the street is a no-go. It's best to try meeting women in social venues, or if it has to be in an unknown, public place, make sure she gives the first invitation to reach her, because if not, she will "wall" you out fast.
ScreamingTrees Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 People look at each other. It's normal.. How do you honestly know that a girl is inviting you over to talk to her simply because she's in your presence in the same aisle in a store and she glanced at you? How do you know? Do you guys just take the shot regardless, figuring a glance or two is better than the cold shoulder? Oddly enough, I've recently had a girl who looked to be around my age ask me if I needed help with anything in a walgreens.. And I was in the CANDY aisle, though I didn't get anything anyway.. I'm also not an elderly person, I didn't seem lost, didn't soil myself, so I'm not sure why she even bothered.
ditzchic Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 People look at each other. It's normal.. How do you honestly know that a girl is inviting you over to talk to her simply because she's in your presence in the same aisle in a store and she glanced at you? How do you know? Do you guys just take the shot regardless, figuring a glance or two is better than the cold shoulder? Oddly enough, I've recently had a girl who looked to be around my age ask me if I needed help with anything in a walgreens.. And I was in the CANDY aisle, though I didn't get anything anyway.. I'm also not an elderly person, I didn't seem lost, didn't soil myself, so I'm not sure why she even bothered. She either thought you were cute or her boss was watching
ScreamingTrees Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 She either thought you were cute or her boss was watching Hell, maybe she has an oppressive dictator of a boss. I DID see a lot of security cameras. ;p
Carlos S Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 I hope you're not staring them down. That's never a good idea
Author NYC-BigKat Posted February 12, 2012 Author Posted February 12, 2012 I hope you're not staring them down. That's never a good idea No no no staring thats just weird right? I just look at them to show that I like them & think they'r pretty not to creep them out. I dont know what u mean by NYC girls are so aggressive. I dont see it. They just look serious more than other girls & can be ruder sometimes but they dont stop guys they like first since I never seen it.
Febreze Posted February 12, 2012 Posted February 12, 2012 No no no staring thats just weird right? I just look at them to show that I like them & think they'r pretty not to creep them out. I dont know what u mean by NYC girls are so aggressive. I dont see it. They just look serious more than other girls & can be ruder sometimes but they dont stop guys they like first since I never seen it. Girls can be rude anywhere not just NY ok so cut that out because it isn't very nice I dont think its a good idea to stare at women anywhere u go because it can cause anxiety especially if its in the middle of the street somewhere. I get men staring at me all the time. I mean REALLY STARING and it freaks me out when that's all they ever do. As a woman we're more vulnerable than u so please understand that. Your staring can come off as alarming. Just last night when I was coming home from a get-together I had some sleazy guy beep the car at me. I turned to look at him and he was leering at me then snapped "damn baby u gotta nice ass" then drove off Stuff like that is what we women have to deal with so staring can create similar feelings of disgust and at best discomfort. If u really wanna talk to a girl u like just try to make a move but please be civil and not creepy about it. Make sure its in the daytime too ok? Coming up to a girl at night in the middle of nowhere is very disconcerting.
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