Afishwithabike Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 Really? I think it's awful, and that the "author" needs to investigate an entirely different line of work. Like, maybe, being a waitress. Maybe this is a waitress hawking her screenplay..?
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 i'm confused... did this psychiatrist tell you it's okay for you if you keep seeing the prostitute in the context of prostitution ( you will continue to see her for sex) while you are still married? I;m sorry, but I have to ask what kind of psychiatrist would recommend that as a good idea? I know, I know! A make-believe psychiatrist!
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 I've discovered some amazing things through my therapy We're talking about TWO SESSIONS here. Hardly qualifies as "through my therapy."
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 One of the things they love the most is chasing away a married man who calls the other woman a mistake and wants to make his marriage work. I guess I missed the part where "he" was trying to make the marriage work.
frozensprouts Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 to be honest, if this is a real guy writing about what's really going on in his life, then it sounds like he is looking more for a way to validate his actions and decisions, which right now seem to be that he wants to find a way to keep seeing the the prostitute(s) while being married to his wife... If this is true, I would really question a psychiatrist who would try to find ways for a married man to rationalize seeing prostitutes and not telling his wife about it. I could maybe understand him recommending he not tell his wife about past behavior, but current, on going behavior is different.
lordWilhelm Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 I thought you had a penchant for dramatization but now you're saying you "negotiated" going back to the other woman with your therapist. There were things before that weren't holding much water but now you've just capsized. You've got to be trolling, right?
Untouchable_Fire Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 Today I feel like I'm grieving the ending of my relationship with the prostitute. Just like any of us would grieve the ending of a four year relationship with a normal woman. There are ups and downs. Times when I hate her, times when I miss her and times when I want her back. This is refreshing, it's a normal reaction disconnected from my abnormal reaction when I saw the displaced feelings toward about the person I loved years ago that passed away. It feels right. I hope time fixes this and I hope it's not a lot of time. I need to move past this phase to truly begin working on ME. I then need to work past the ME to work on my marriage and future. All scary yet all exciting. First here is my brief take on your situation. I think the prostitute really did care for you. On what level I can't say for sure, but based on what you say it makes sense to me that she did. You were never going to leave your wife for her. That puts her in a very precarious position... and makes her feel just as disposable as you feel. It is very probable that she continued seeing customers because she was afraid to lose the income from them and be dependent on you. You offered her very little in terms of long term commitment. I think she really did have strong feelings for you... offering 50,000 is pretty tangible proof. Nobody does that if they are afraid to actually make good on it. Clearly the affair was unhealthy. Seeing a Psychiatrist is important because it will help you begin to work on your marriage. You don't talk about your wife much that I have read... but it sounds like there are some massive issues. Most of the time I think people should be honest with their spouse... but your case is different. I have a guess at the kind of woman you are married to... and telling is the dumbest idea ever. Don't do it. Stick with the therapy. I wish you the best.
lordWilhelm Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 And just to be clear, if this is actually real, then I really think you should look into a different therapist.
2sunny Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 What are YOU doing to quit handing the hooker so much power? And what are YOU doing to reconnect with your wife? Two simple questions - please answer them...
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 She handled him like a doorknob. That must be something she learned on the job.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 buying lipstick or a golf club? Marital assets are community property and he STOLE from his. Buying household products is not the same as it is for the "communal" family if you will. Sorry toots! Most of us don't live in that kind of a household. You are 1000 degrees of "wrong" on the subject.
frozensprouts Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 She handled him like a doorknob. That must be something she learned on the job. hmmm... by this do you mean that everybody gets a turn?
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 hmmm... by this do you mean that everybody gets a turn? That, and a certain technique of "wrist action" … if you will.
lamaman3 Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 The problem is that you are under the illusion that you had something with this woman. You were nothing but another John, but one that paid more for the illusion that you wete somehow different or more special than the other customers. A beautiful woman can always find a chump to fall in love and support her, meaning she didnt need u to rescue her from hooking, she chooses to do it and youre just another sub category of John. Since you love her nothing good will come out of this. Cut her off and thank god it did not turn up even worse.
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 I think the OP has already moved on … to crafting other tales.
goodthingscome Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 "I'm as much of a hypocrite and liar as she is. " yep, well said......
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