Will Watching Porn w/ My BF Make Him Less Tempted to Watch It Alone? & More Questions

[CrazyAboutLove]

(My boyfriend and I live together.) If my boyfriend had sex with me often enough to satisfy me, then I'd tell myself to be fine with him jerking off to porn, ...but he doesn't have sex with me often enough to satisfy me --and I don't need a lot to satisfy me: I'm a 30-year-old who'd be happy with getting laid by him 4 times a week (he's 33). Some weeks, he's able to do that, but definitely not regularly, especially the past several months. When he jerks off to porn, he doesn't want to have sex with me for days, so it makes the sexual part of our relationship worse! (And I NEVER reject him when he wants sex or a bj.) That's primarily why I'm against him jerking off to porn.

 

The secondary reasons I'm against it is that I'm insecure and I hate how he gets turned on by it so much more than by me. I've seen a lot of porn he's looked at, and most of the time, they were blonde teenagers who were 100 lbs. or less, and I'm Asian (with black hair) and overweight (but most people can't tell I'm overweight with my clothes on --basically, I get hit on a lot with clothes on, but if you saw me naked, you'd be able to tell I'm overweight). Another secondary reason I hate porn is in #7 below. But if he did have sex with me often enough, then I would ignore my secondary reasons to dislike porn, and I'd let him jerk off to it. Anyway, here are my questions:

 

1) He told me he won't jerk off to porn anymore and that he hasn't for a while, but he has told me that before, and I caught him doing it, ...but he says this time he really isn't --who knows. If I watch porn together with him sometimes (before we have sex), will he be LESS tempted to jerk off to it when he's alone, will it make no difference, or will it tempt him to jerk off to it when alone even more?

 

2) Guys, if you're the type who never watches the same porn video twice and doesn't try to find the same porn star more than once, do you ever fantasize/think about the porn star after watching her and jerking off to her, or do you forget about her? If you do think about her afterward, does it ever happen while you're having sex with your gf/wife?

 

3) Speaking of which, in a comedy movie, a guy said he thinks of hot women to help him orgasm when having sex with his gf/wife. Is this common/normal? Do most guys do this?

 

4) Guys, does watching porn stars make you compare your wife to the porn star and then become disappointed with how your wife looks? Does it make you think sex with your gf/wife is boring in comparison?

 

5) Is it bad that he always picks the ones with blonde, White teenagers? Does this mean he would rather be with a blonde than me (Asian) and that he is just settling for me because he thinks he can't get a hot blonde? Also, is it messed up that he's likes teen porn? (It grosses me out to think that he might fantasize about my about-to-be-teenage nieces.)

 

6) Guys, when your gf/wife watches porn with you before sex, do you picture the pornstar in your head while making love to your gf/wife? Does it make a difference if the porn is turned off before you start having sex or if it keeps playing?

 

7) I was traumatized by this: one day, he said he was too exhausted to have sex; then I started playing a porno (with a blonde teenager since I knew he liked that), and he got hard VERY QUICKLY, and so then we were about to have sex, and I thought we didn't need the porn anymore, so I turned it off, but his p**** INSTANTLY became limp --I was so sad! From that day, I couldn't get myself to watch porn with him again. I realized that porn could give him a super hard-on quickly anytime, no matter how tired he was, but when it's just me, sometimes (maybe 65% of the time) he gets hard in good time, but sometimes, it takes him a while to get hard or he can't even get hard. Should I just tell myself that this is pretty normal because guys naturally get bored of banging the same person/body over and over and that it's normal for them to get turned on by porn more because it's a new girl each time, or am I righteously feeling heartbroken by it?

 

Sorry so many questions; thank you all for answers!!!

Edited February 11, 2012 by CrazyAboutLove

[Ninjainpajamas]

Wow...kinda like the same question rephrased into different parts.

 

First off, you're issue with insecurity is no mans. No guy is going to come into your life this guy or the next and magically give you this security and confidence that you never had. That has to come from within.

 

With that being said his actions and your insecurity are a really bad combination as he is doing things that I would think any woman would be suspicious of.

 

I'll be truthful with my answers, but I'm not going to pull any punches so be careful what you wish for...

 

1) This guy seems to be interested in porn more than probably average, to the degree that he's watching a great deal as well as having sex with you. I think it's going to just cause you disappointment when he gets back to watching it, because eventually he'll fall back into the routine and then he'll get frustrated and upset and you'll just be hurt and upset because you feel that he should stop doing this because of how it makes you feel, however your issues are separate than his likes, he obviously is into porn and probably will be for at least a while and maybe for a long time to come, you shouldn't blackmail him (imo although many women will probably disagree) because that's his interest, with or without you.

 

He's not going to be any less tempted to watch porn having sex, it's like eating your favorite food vs drinking your fav drink, one doesn't override other just because they both taste good and go in your mouth. The only problem is If he eats too much he'll be less thirsty or viceversa and that's causing a relationship problem.

 

He probably has to choose since he seems to have a "limited amount of ammunition".

 

2) I only really remember a pornstar If she's really attractive or has a body type I really like or just really turns me on. So for myself I may have her in the back of my mind, however you do think of hot pornstars while masturbating and I'm not sure why you wouldn't think of them while having sex with your gf or wife, that's just something men do.

 

If you find one that doesn't, capture that man so we can stick him in a scientific research chamber so we could study what's wrong with him.

 

3) Yes, guys frequently think of other women while having sex with you. It's already happened to you more times than you can shake a stick, and it's going to continue to happen because again...this is how a mans head works and sometimes he needs to mix it up visually to get himself more turned on.

 

This however happens more with a girl he actually has a chance of sleeping with or someone he might know or see in real life, maybe you got a hot friend or sister, or someone that has a nice body. If you know someone who has a nice body in your circle or daily life he's likely imagined having sex with her...and yes 100 percent chance while with you.

 

4) I've never become bored with my partner or disinterested in having sex with them because of how they measured up to a porn star. A pornstar is a fictional character, kinda like how you girls like romance and stupid movies like Twilight that depict men in unrealistic ways by making them half-human. It works the same way for men and porn-stars, that girl is somewhat of a non-reality, hell some guys in real life might not even want to sleep with her because she's a porn star and that's kinda gross (although don't count on it).

 

However a fantasy is a fantasy, and let's face it for most men they don't come near to having that fulfilled...so yes, while your body may not be as hot and sexy as we'd like, most men find It satisfying none-the-less.

 

Bottom line Is I wouldn't let yourself feel insecure over this one.

 

5) He is prob somewhat of a perv for a hard-on for blondes. I myself am attracted pretty equally to any woman, If she's sexy she's sexy If she's not she's not...I do not care the color of the vagina.

 

He sounds a little creepy though, and since he's been so consistent I think he might have a little bit of a fetish going on. I find fetishes like that pretty repulsive myself but hey, If you love the guy...I'm sure many are like that also, It's not something they can control, but If he doesn't act on it...maybe let it be?

 

Just trying to figure out a compromise for yourself.

 

6) I don't think of the pornstar, I consider them just a piece of meat that I beat off to and when it's over it's over...one thing you can count on with many men is they get over women visually pretty quickly, and something new is always more intriguing than something old for most.

 

However there are some that do hit you a certain way and can stick in your mind but it's rare for me anyway.

 

This guy however seems to have a porn video reel going non-stop in his head, whether he's watching it or not, possibly addicted?

 

7) Guys do get bored of banging the same body eventually, It's something that I've heard from every married man I've ever talked to in my 31 years of age on earth.

 

However It doesn't have to stay that way or get typical, you can always be adventurous and try new things, it's easy to get stuck in a sexual routine where as in the beginning you're trying out all kinds of kama sutra moves(well at least for me).

 

That is a bit of an odd story though, it doesn't sound right at all. Sometimes a guy can go limp for no reason I hear, but at least for me I can always fire it back up.

 

Closing comments:

 

To be honest, judging from what you've said I don't see a lot of desire on his part to be intimate with you...it seems like kind of a chore. I hate to tell you because you're already insecure, but he's having trouble being turned on by your weight...I don't know If it's your race, that's not something normal for me but he clearly seems to prefer blondes.

 

Plus his sex drive appears to be pretty weak or average, unless he's just not really into you anymore.

 

You're going to be so sensitive though, and you're already insecure I'm sure he's not going to tell you the truth...whatever it is, and I'm sure whatever he says is not going to make you feel any better. You've got your own insecurity which is your own big issues, and you have his issue, which this seems pretty bad.

 

You're going to have to communicate with him though and find out the problem and what's going on, this could be a sign of the end of the relationship...I'm sure you'd like to stay and be with him, but you guys seem to be missing a large element in your relationship that definitely can't be resolved If you're not honest with each other.

[CrazyAboutLove]

OMG thank you so much, Ninjainpajamas, for being honest and answering all my questions!!! That is SO HELPFUL because my boyfriend has gotten to the point where he pretty much won't tell me anything.

 

1) Since he does have to choose between sex with me or jerking off to porn because of his "limited amount of ammunition" like you said, will me watching porn together with him before/during sex at least HELP him choose sex over jerking off? The thing is he sometimes goes on one-night trips for work in other cities, and that's when he gets tempted the most to jerk off to porn, but I don't want him to jerk off those nights because afterward, he doesn't want to have sex for 3-5 days, so I'm thinking maybe the night before his hotel stay, I'll watch porn together with him and have sex, and then that might help him choose not to jerk off during his one night in the hotel. But would it not help at all?

 

3) Your answer here was shocking and scary to me. I would MUCH RATHER him picture porn stars or models than people he knows in real life!!! If most guys are like you and picture women they actually know in real life, I'm thinking that I really should watch porn with him before/during sex (maybe every other time we have sex) because maybe then he'll think of the porn star instead of someone from real life, right?

 

Do you think that guys who picture women from their real lives like you do are more likely to cheat (like if any of those women made a move on the guy)?

 

4) Your answer here made me feel much better; thank you.

 

5) Thank you for thinking of a compromise. I think he and I are probably not going to last. Nevertheless, the information you provided will definitely be VERY HELPFUL to me for my future relationships.

 

7) You'd probably think he's even more odd than you already do because today, I asked him if he wants to try anything new/adventurous in bed, and he said no. I've actually asked him this several times before, and he always said no, ...which I'm not that surprised by because I'm sexually "boring" too I guess in that I'm not really interested in trying other positions because like for him, my favorite positions are doggy and missionary (and we've also done me on top while he's sitting or lying down), and other kama sutra type positions just seem like they'd be more uncomfortable than enjoyable, and I can see that he feels the same way about it.

 

Anyway since he doesn't want to try anything new, I'm thinking watching porn together could spice things up for him when we have sex. Do you enjoy watching porn with a gf? If so, how often would you LIKE doing that --like 50% of the time?

 

I think you're right about him having trouble getting turned on because of my being overweight. In an ideal world, guys would constantly be super turned on by their gf's no matter how fat/old they are/became, but that's not how humans were created to be I guess.

 

Thank you so much again!

 

If anyone else has read this, feel free to post a reply because the more people who give their opinions, the better!

[Ninjainpajamas]

I don't think many guys are going to be comfortable being honest and answering all of your questions I'm kind of "selling us out" to an extent, because it's not like men want you to know this information because that only makes our lives more difficult than they already can be in relationship.

 

Plus It's hard for men to be honest, with others and themselves, but especially women...but moreso women they are interested in. For example you'll see a lot of married women or women in relationships speak for their bf's and say "oh my bf isn't like that, no not my man...my man is good" But when you're a man yourself and you hear the backroom chatter and men being honest with other men, you know that the what you tell a woman will always go through a filter, for one not to be judged, and two so that the woman can continue to live delusional like in her own little world. Women like to feel like they have some kind of power or control over what their man does or likes or that they are "enough" to satisfy and fulfill their mans every need, but men aren't wired that way...they can mentally combat their desires and "try" to live like a righteous man...but If no one was looking or would find out, It's a different story.

 

So yes, All MEN feel that way and imagine sleeping with other women they know in real life and you can pretty much sweep pornstars under other women as well...but nothing beats the real life visual so it's easier to imagine more with a woman you actually physically see in real life. And they ALL do it while having sex with you.

 

Most men will cheat If they have the skill or appeal to other women, It's hard to resist attractive women who want to sleep with you (many women out there don't care if you're married or in a relationship, many like it, to "steal" you away) and I'm sure If a skinny hot blonde tried to get him in bed he'd take the chance. However If a man is committed/married some take that very seriously and deny the temptations, but If you see most of those men don't run into many situations where they are tested or they are smart enough not to put themselves in those situations to begin with...which is what I would do were I married. However I don't think that picturing real women while having sex are more likely to cheat, that can just be fantasy, it's a way of sleeping with other women without sleeping with them.

 

I don't think he's attracted to you anymore, sexually or physically (body) so I'd either recommend losing weight or watching porn frequently and then having sex, he can probably hold the images and the hard-on enough to have sex with you :S You could also try dye-ing your hair platinum blonde If he's into that as to appeal to his fetish. I wouldn't try any sexy clothing or "spicing" it up with candles or what not, I think you're screwed in that regard at this point.

 

Personally I don't watch porn while having sex mostly ever, I'm too busy, satisfied or uninterested, I used to watch porn with women in my early 20's but now I just use it for "personal" use mostly and that's even cut down as I've gotten older.

 

I just think you should leave this guy, not because he's a bad guy or whatever but because I think his actions and the things you have to do to try and turn him on are going to be damaging to your self-esteem and confidence...even more so than they probably are. It's not worth it, he's not that into you anymore...be with somebody who wants you the way you are and makes you feel good and satisfied, you don't have to be with a guy like this and shouldn't ever be. Just because he doesn't find you sexy doesn't mean you aren't.

[Mrlonelyone]

It sounds to me like him looking at porn which has women who aren't like you at all is the issue.

 

White, blue eyed blonde and thin in porn.

 

While your Asian, black hair, brown eyes and not thin.

 

So even if you were thiner it's like an asian woman wouldn't turn him on or something.

 

That said don't read too much into his choice of pornography. If you haven't noticed the blue eyed blonde woman is over represented in American porn. Odds are if he selects a utterly random porn flick it will have a blonde woman in it. So that may not mean so much.

 

 

Please don't take this the wrong way. Could it be that he's not attracted to you anymore because you have gained weight? Men are visual. While there aren't a set of magic measurements in inches, there are certain ratio's that men find most attractive.

 

My advice would be to work on yourself. As ninjapajamas said no man can give you confidence.

 

A BMI of 23 and a waist to hip ratio of .65 could. That would get you a BF who would wear you out on a daily basis.

[kaylan]

2) I only really remember a pornstar If she's really attractive or has a body type I really like or just really turns me on. So for myself I may have her in the back of my mind, however you do think of hot pornstars while masturbating and I'm not sure why you wouldn't think of them while having sex with your gf or wife, that's just something men do.

 

If you find one that doesn't, capture that man so we can stick him in a scientific research chamber so we could study what's wrong with him.

 

Guess you will need to do research on me, because I dont think about other women when Im having sex. Im totally focused on the hotness of the girl I am with.

 

I only fantasize about porn stars when masturbating.

 

I dont think all men think about other women when having sex. Im pretty sure plenty dont. Why would I need to? Im enjoying sexiness thats right in front of me...vs some imaginary thing.

[CrazyAboutLove]

Ninjainpajamas, you're amazing!! I think I've learned more from you about men than I have my whole life! It hurts to hear the brutal truth, but it helps much more! I always felt like I might have been living in a delusional world when it came to trying to figure guys out, and I hated that feeling of not knowing the real truth. Even though it's hard to hear how men really are, I actually think that your posts will make me a better girlfriend to my future boyfriends because I'll be more understanding of how they really think/behave.

 

You are definitely very wise and smart. I have always hated hearing from my boyfriend that it's not easy for people to fall for others and that it's stupid to avoid interacting or becoming friends with hot women because he's totally sure he wouldn't cheat, even if a supermodel-type girl made a move on him. Hearing that from him just told me that he hasn't learned enough from life (or that he's lying, but he really looked like he believed that it's not easy to fall victim to temptation). I had a bad experience from which I learned how easy it is for ME to fall for someone else, etc., even though I always thought I would never be that kind of person, but that experience taught me that when I get married, I will definitely avoid putting myself in "tempting" situations ...because even the most ethical, nice people can make a mistake, and research even shows that when you first meet someone who attracts you a lot, hormones in your brain get released that "blind" your sensible thinking. I'm thinking I either need a guy who's not that attractive to other women and so wouldn't have that many opportunities to cheat, or who's smart like you and would avoid tempting situations.

 

I don't think he's totally unattracted to me --just somewhat, ...maybe mostly, but even today, he still got a hard-on for me pretty quickly from just me acting confident and giving him sexy looks, and him hugging and rubbing me, which, like I said, happens about 65% of the time, and we've been together more than 2 years, so knowing how guys can "get over women visually pretty quickly" and "get bored of banging the same body eventually" like you said, I'm not that surprised at his sexual responses to me. I haven't gained any weight from the beginning, and at the beginning, our sex life was great and I could tell he was very attracted to me, ...so I think he just got bored from banging the same body, ...or his standards got higher and now he wishes I was thinner.

 

Thank you so much for your great advice and encouragement! I will find a guy who's better for me

 

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Mrlonelyone, thanks for your input. That does make me feel better to read what you said about blondes being over-represented in porn. Plus, maybe I've been a hypocrite --I realize that I had a phase years ago when I was more into blondes that others, and the women I've always most wished I looked like (even before this boyfriend) were usually blonde (young Jennifer Aniston and Britney Spears pre-pregnancy).

 

Like I said above, I haven't gained any weight (was overweight from the beginning), but I know that losing weight will benefit my health and my self-esteem, so thanks!

[kaylan]

Im going to answer each one of your question, as well as addressing your preface.

 

Response to your preface

 

I believe porn is fine for people to watch until it begins to take away from their sexual relationship with their partner. That shouldnt happen...and I dont understand how a guy could let that happen. Sex is WAY better than masturbation.

 

I have a super high sex drive, and usually need to get off a lot during the week. Therefore I have watched porn even when Ive had girlfriends. Id get off a few times during the week with porn, and then a few times with my past girlfriends. Id end up sore at the end of the week, but very happy. When we had more sex, I had less interest in porn. So basically, lets say I need to get off 6 times in a week. Id gladly have sex all those times, but when I cant, Ill masturbate...which is usually helped with porn.

 

Your boyfriend should not be allowing masturbation to take away from your sexual relationship. 4 times a week sounds like a good plan for the average busy adult. But dont let what he watches in porn take a hit on your self esteem. People get turned on by a variety of things, and hes obviously able to get turned on by you.

 

My ex used to make comments in passing about how such and such actor was cute or hot. These were taller, light eyed, white guys. Im an average height, black guy with dreads. So sometimes Id feel very self cautious. It took me a little while to realize that although she found various things, she was with me, thought I was sexy, and wanted to be sexual with me.

 

I know its not exactly the same as your situation...but I was relating how my ex liked something that was opposite to me...just like your boyfriend seems attracted to women who seem opposite to you. I think youd be less threatened by it if you were more in shape. Trust me it does a lot for your self esteem. While I was insecure sometimes while with my ex, I kept in good shape and shed always make comments about my body that kept me feeling great.

 

Now on to your numbered questions.

 

1) You cant be super sure he will never jerk off alone to porn again. Im pretty sure he will do it again. I know its hard for me not to jerk off when single because my sex drive is so high. But if I know ill be having sex, I can control myself and save my energy for later. However, when it comes to porn...Im so used to using it when I jerk off, that masturbating without it is boring and takes a while.

 

So its possible that hes like me and needs it when jerking off. However, I can go without jerking off if I am getting sex. But my sex drive is high enough that I dont completely have to. You should talk to him about why he jerks off when he knows itll zap him of his energy for sex.

 

Watching porn with him I believe will have no affect on his current habits. Masturbating is an alone time thing and something he has to fix himself. Porn is just an aid, and porn time with a girl feels different than porn time during alone time.

 

2) I will watch some videos or porn stars more than once. I have several faves.

 

However, I have NEVER fantasized about another woman while have sex. I never understood why or how people do this. I just enjoy sex so much that my mind is totally on the girl Im currently with.

 

Plus I only have sex with girls I find super attractive anyways, so itd be hard for me to focus on anything but her.

 

3) Its a movie. I wouldnt take it too seriously. However, I have no idea how many guys actually do this. Tbh, the only time I think someone would be thinking about someone else or say the wrong name during sex, is if they arent all that into the person theye sleeping with. Honest opinion.

 

I help myself to orgasm by directing the girl on what works for me, or by tensing my legs. I usually have to tense my legs to orgasms during blowjobs =/

 

4) Watching porn has nothing to do with any girl I am seeing. Porn is fantasy and there are things I watch in porn that Id never do in real life. I know exactly what I like in bed, and the only way Id think a girl was boring was if she wasnt into those things. Or if she lacked passion in bed. Porn has nothing to do with that.

 

There are also certain things I might find attractive about a certain porn star that Id never want my girl to look like. Like I said before, people find various things attractive. I sometimes look at bbw porn...other times I look at big fake breasted mature porn. I would never date a female like that though.

 

Im most attracted to a slim fitness model type body with like a B cup. Thats the body type I tend to gravitate to in real life and I sometimes look it up in porn. But a lot of the time Im looking at a variety of different things. So no, I dont wish the girls Im interested in had the bodies of women I see in porn. I like specific things in a girlfriend and make sure I find it.

 

Porn and reality are two different things.

 

5) To be honest, id be concerned if I was seeing a girl who only looked at one specific type of porn that was the total opposite of what I was. It would send me the wrong message. Its one thing if she looked at a variety of things, but if she was always looking at one thing...itd send me a message that that is what she wants. So I get where you are coming from.

 

But as I said before...porn is fantasy...and if hes having sex with you and is attracted to you, then dont worry so much.

 

Is your boyfriend white btw? If so, then theres nothing wrong with him looking at white girls in porn. Hell tbh, theres nothing wrong with looking at any race in porn. I look at all sorts of races depending on my mood. I was looking at Indian blue films the other night. Good stuff.

 

The teenage thing though...Ill admit its a little weird only because thats the only thing hes watching. I sometimes watch the same stuff. Youthful bodies are attractive. But I also watch mature and milf stuff too. Hell the other day I was watching a 50 plus year old woman give it to a guy my age(25)...it was hot btw lolz

 

6) Ive never watched porn before sex. But if I did, I wouldnt be thinking about the other women once the sex starts. Like I told you, I dont think of other women during sex. Thats just me.

 

If I ever did watch porn during sex, I could imagine me and a girl looking at it during. Not because we are imagining doing anything with the other couple, but because its arousing to watch people have sex. In which case Id make sure we were in front of a mirror as well. This was we could watch ourselves have sex, as well as the porn...lolz

 

7) Hmmm how long have you been together? Maybe his attraction for you isnt as strong as it was in the beginning. Is your body different from how it was when he met you? Based on the fact that he only looks at porn with fit young woman, its apparent that hes attracted to body type. Im sure hed be able to get hard for you in seconds if you got in better shape. Question is, is he in shape himself? Maybe this is something you can do together.

 

Not all guys or gals get bored of sex with their mate over time. Some do and some dont. Some couples are good at keeping their sex life hot. It takes effort though. Foreplay is big, as well as taking small vacations or having dates together still. Role playing is helpful as well. Staying in shape is big too.

 

And never underestimate the role a happy partnership can have in a sex life. If a couple isnt getting alone, this can affect their sex life.

[kaylan]

So yes, All MEN feel that way and imagine sleeping with other women they know in real life and you can pretty much sweep pornstars under other women as well...but nothing beats the real life visual so it's easier to imagine more with a woman you actually physically see in real life. And they ALL do it while having sex with you.

 

Most men will cheat If they have the skill or appeal to other women, It's hard to resist attractive women who want to sleep with you (many women out there don't care if you're married or in a relationship, many like it, to "steal" you away) and I'm sure If a skinny hot blonde tried to get him in bed he'd take the chance. However If a man is committed/married some take that very seriously and deny the temptations,

 

but If you see most of those men don't run into many situations where they are tested or they are smart enough not to put themselves in those situations to begin with...which is what I would do were I married. However I don't think that picturing real women while having sex are more likely to cheat, that can just be fantasy, it's a way of sleeping with other women without sleeping with them.

OP

 

When men first meet a woman two questions immediately come to mind

 

1. Would I screw her?

2. Could I screw her?

 

And yes most guys will imagine having sex with women they find attractive. However, while I agree that all guys have sexual fantasies about different women they meet...I dont agree that all men do this during sex. I myself never think about other women during sex. But I easily fantasize about other women when out and about during the day.

 

No big deal...just passing thoughts.

 

About the cheating thing...I dont believe most men will cheat if given the chance...some will and some wont. Ive had chances to cheat, and have always turned them down because I am loyal and value love. Plus I dont do things to others that I wouldnt want them to do to me. I also dont put myself in potentially bad situations when I have a girlfriend.

 

For me, while physical appearance plays a part into what attracts me to a girl...I really need an emotional and mental click to really be all in. So I wouldnt screw up what I have with a girlfriend, by going off and messing around with some chick just because I find her attractive.

[skecreact]

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