Trouble with an old friend?

[sadbh]

Im having some trouble with an old friend. We know each other eight years, we went to school together for six and now are both in seperate colleges (same city) for the past two years.

Since going to college our group of friends vowed to stay in touch and this has gone quite well until recently. Whenever we arrange to go out together even if its just for a quick coffee just to catch up she always agrees at first and then has an excuse like she was called in to work or shes broke. Trouble is we then see the photos of her out with other friends the next day on facebook.

Since going to college she has made alot of new friends but then again so have all of us in our group. We still make time for each other and dont ditch plans just because something 'better' comes along.

And its not an issue of her drifting away and moving on because she isnt the type to let friendships go. She still regularly sees most of her childhhod friends and always says stuff like 'miss you guys' or 'we need to hang out soon'.

I dont want to talk to her about it because I dont want to cause trouble within the group that everyone else will have to deal with. But Im not gonna lie it really hurts that she'd let our friendship go she was always one of my best friends.

Any advice or theories around her behaviour would be greatly appreciated

[Emme]

As you get older your personality changes. That might be what's happening with her or she might not want to hang with the group anymore, who knows. I don't want to call you an old friend but she might want to spend time with her new found friends. I noticed you used the word "WE" that means there has been talk about her brushing you guys off. If a group of you feel that she is being distant the only thing you can do is just wait for her to come around. The choice is yours to wait for her to realize that she is not treating her friends as she should. Usually something major goes wrong and then she might run back to you guys since you will understand her more than her new friends. Maybe that might happen.

 

You seem hurt since you see her as a best friend. Best friends do stupid things but always remember that you are not to be disrespected in any way. Never tolerate relationships where you are not valued. Decide if you want to still be a friend to her but find another outlet of friends. You mature in life and meet new people. Take this opportunity to find new friends. Brush it off for now and leave the door open for when/if she's ready to get in contact with you guys. Good luck.