marigo Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 This guy and i have been talking for about 3 months. We usually text and dont really talk on the phone. Im more of a texter so i do prefer that its through text. Anyway, we text everyday and at first he usually initiate but now i would say its 50/50. Hes very responsive with texts but i do feel like im the one keeping the conversation going. We joke around a lot but sometimes i feel like the way he talks to me, he kinda sounds like a jerk. We've been on dates and they always are great. Hes not super affectionate but theres something about him that makes me feel safe and protected. We finally had a talk about what we are and established that we are dating and we'll see what happens. We both arent seeing other people. Anyway, lately i dont know if im just stressed about other things in my life as well but i feel like lately, his texts are becoming a little harsher. Some of them hurts my feelings but i havent said anything. I showed my friend the messages and she said e sounds like a jerk. It seems like he likes me but hes not a into me as i am to him. Im just confused. I dont know if hes just really that way and not really a sweet type of guy or hes not that into me. I dont know if i should start becoming a little more distant to see how he takes it? In terms of dates, hes usually the one who would suggest we hang out this weekend coming up, i do too but lately its usually him. Im just confused. Help!!!
Ninjainpajamas Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 Three months is a long time for a guy to be playing hot and cold, and the reason he probably sounds like a jerk to you is because he's irritated or possibly annoyed by you...he's basically not taking the time or effort to show you much respect, and he's also putting you on the back burner. And also he's starting to show his true colors, this is why I always tell women to disregard all the bull**** a man does in the beginning because that's not who he really is. Anyway, the bottom line for me Is he's not that interested. If he was he would have pushed for more, think of how a guy gets when he's really into something, like a hobby or interest...will a guy just sit there and be like "oh cool, that's kinda cool...I'm just going to hold back then and contain myself until I feel like putting effort"....Does that make much sense to you? What do you think he's waiting for? ::insert excuse:: Good luck trying to find him being honest with you about that, but the writing is on the wall because these are his actions. He's not going to seriously consider dating you, that's just something he's saying so he can continue to see you and that you remain interested enough in "giving him a chance" when there really is no chance, he's just stringing you along...especially if you're giving up the booty. And If he's a half-decent look guy who doesn't have a complete **** for brains then I'm sure he has another thing going on the side as well...guys don't cut the bull**** out until they are in a relationship...don't believe them if they are capable, but I can't tell cause this guy sounds kinda douchey at the same time, but then again most are and they seem to get somewhere with someone. Anyway, you need to be more confident in yourself, and you REALLY not to cut off the crap when he treats you like a jerk, you need to speak up for yourself and not be a pushover...where is this woman power ****? where did it go? If a guy treats you like an *******, tell him he is! Don't be scared and curl up in the corner of your room and HOPE it's not that big of a deal or make excuses for him..tell him "hey watch your god damn mouth pussy, don't talk to me like that hoe!"...ok, maybe not that but have some damn self-respect, when someone treats you a certain way just don't take it....you know why? because it will only get worse and I already see you trying to bend backwards for the douche bag and once he knows he can push you around and you just sit there like a little puppy then he'll have no respect for you eventually and just treat you however he feels like and then he'll be like..."oh I'm so sorry, but you know what I'm going to keep treating you like **** because you've tolerated it up to this point" Men aren't as tough or cool as you they like to pretend to be, women are just such pushovers and tolerate so much that they actually get away with being that way...they are cowards though, don't let them do it, there's no backbone to them, you give them the powa!
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