USMCHokie Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 "Wanna f*ck?" But seriously though, I don't quite understand how exes go back to each other for sex...am I missing something here...?
Star Gazer Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 19 months later, not a single thing. It's funny how time gives you all the answers you need, without reaping any new wounds.
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 Nothing. Even though the break-up happened only a week ago, I am left with no questions. If anything, we over-talked everything. I understand perfectly how everything happened and why. I know my mistakes, I know his mistakes, I know we aren't right for each other. I think this is going to make it easier to move on.
smudge21 Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 I always thought I had loads of things to ask, especially before she got wed. Now though, even though I still have these questions, I'm kinda' not really bothered for the answers. Nothing she could tell me would change anything, so why bother. Why did she like me in the first place, how did she feel about me, why did she end it, why does she keep showing interest, why did she do this or that in her life, why... blah blah blah. No matter what her answers, we would still be apart. As I said, before I really wanted to have one final chat, but now I'm just okay with it all. I think those of us that believe we need to ask our exs something, or search for closure, are really only looking for excuses to see them again, to feed that addiction that is still hanging on. We don't really want answers or closure, we just really want them. Only when the emotions have gone, can we truly see that questions and closure are pointless.
Million.to.1 Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 I love the last 3 posts. Spot on and inspirational. I too have no questions for the Ex. I have spent the last 2 months asking myself all the questions instead and those are really the only answers I should care about. Indifference takes time though sometimes.
radiodarcy Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 nothing really. i asked him countless questions during the time we were seeing each other that never got answered. i don't see the point in asking any now. at this point i really don't think i would care what his answers are anyway.
PegNosePete Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 How's the cat? I couldn't give a crap about my ex but I miss that cute kitty
tigressA Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 Did it really make you feel good to bring me down and betray me the way you did? And for myself: How could I have allowed you to treat me so badly? The question for myself is still what really plagues me. I haven't been able to forgive myself.
Cmac Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 I really just wanna know if she thinks about me at all. Since it happened she's never made any attempt to get in touch with me...just makes it feel like she is moving on so easily and that maybe I just didn't mean that much to her
EgoJoe Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 I already asked everything and know what I need to know. Granted I let most of it sit for far too long. Ninja NC is great for some people and for me it was for a while. I am the type of person that has to confront. My Ego is a huge problem. I also tend to get stuck on my observations (Yes, Betterdeal I do see part of your point) once I have enough data to confirm them. It takes me awhile to get to that point but when I do it is not always good.
lalalandman Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 Nothing at all. Just as everyone said. As a matter of fact, I don't feel that I need LS anymore because I don't seek answers. I'm so grateful for this site. This was my therapy for moving past a really tough BU. Good luck everyone on your journeys.
shayla Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 I used to want to know why he treated me the way he did, why he cried and begged me to stay when all along he had another woman that he planned on marrying, why all the games and manipulation...I thought that all I wanted was for him to explain why he did this and sincerely apologize. Now, I don't want to ask him anything...doesn't matter why. It's what happened, done dun duh dun.....
RetroFan00 Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 Nothing. Heck, I wouldn't even speak to him if I ever see him shopping in the same store I'm shopping in.
quankanne Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 I don't quite understand how exes go back to each other for sex...am I missing something here...? exes are something of a security blanket ... you know what they're like, and you know they're usually willing to screw without expecting anything in return ... my question: "You know all that bragging about what a stud you were in bed? You realize you actually sucked, that when someone is good at something, they don't have to advertise it?"
betterdeal Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 How's the cat? I couldn't give a crap about my ex but I miss that cute kitty Always about the pussy with you, eh, Pete?
betterdeal Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 I could ask my ex anything because she lives 4, maybe 5 minutes walk away, but I'd rather eat my own testicles than do that.
cincinnatikid Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 What was the inflection point? The moment you knew that you just couldn't commit any more effort?
M2155 Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 i asked him countless questions during the time we were seeing each other that never got answered. i don't see the point in asking any now. I love this. Good point.
smokey bear Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 Are you ok? If life was better with me, why stay in the chit hole of a world you've created for yourself? Was it worth it? Why do i love you but want to poke your eyes out at the same time? You know i hate you dont you? Do you know ls, in my 6 months odd split ive only been angry once, i dont like it, these above questions are anger. SO i ask myself a question. Why are you angry at him, when you done the exact same thing to him first, whats the difference, whats good for the goose is good for the gander.
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