turt Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 I can get other better pictures but since I've been there a few months, I don't know why I feel weird to just suddenly put a much better picture up? I feel like guys might think It's out of desperation which is probably true lol It wouldn't concern me. Also remember that there are new people signing up everyday.
mesmerized Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 From what I've seen, it's pretty equal except that women will get asked on dates much more obviously. If an attractive woman ends up only getting one night of sex, it's her own fault. I don't agree. It's no secret that a lot of attractive men are not after relationships. When a guy can get sex easily with a lot of beautiful women, why have a relationship? It's not until they get older that they show a more genuine interest in having a relationship. For women, it's a different story. Attractive or not, most women are open to have a relationship and often seek one.
Zaphod B Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 (edited) I'm guessing you're an attractive guy...for an attractive guy it's easy to get anything, from sex to relationships with great women. For an attractive woman it's only easy to get one night of sex. And relationships are only easy if she is willing to downgrade. No I do not consider myself attractive at all. In fact I'll walk into a bar and hang out there. Most of the time I won't even get first glances, let alone second glances! LOL. Meeting women by traditional methods has gotten me nowhere except in the case of my ex-wife. Throughout my life I've regularly got the "you're a nice guy, but..." speech. When I reached 41 I'd had sex with two women in my life that I didn't have to pay for. In the last 2 years, thanks to OLD it's increased dramatically. I put it down to being able to get them to like me first before the meeting. So it gives me an advantage when we finally meet. They will actually give me the time of day even though I'm not handsome and sexy. I can then normally charm them with my personality. But I need to be relaxed first and because I first broke the ice through online chat, I am. Edited February 13, 2012 by Zaphod B
FitChick Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 I can get other better pictures but since I've been there a few months, I don't know why I feel weird to just suddenly put a much better picture up? That is a big mistake. I change my photos every month because I don't want to be accused of having old photos. It also gets men who don't recognize you immediately from their previous viewing to click on your profile again. I find it annoying to see the same photos of men from four years ago with some of them even claiming they haven't changed. Really? Prove it, mister!
turt Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 I don't agree. It's no secret that a lot of attractive men are not after relationships. When a guy can get sex easily with a lot of beautiful women, why have a relationship? It's not until they get older that they show a more genuine interest in having a relationship. For women, it's a different story. Attractive or not, most women are open to have a relationship and often seek one. It only takes a few men to make women think that way. Let's say guy #1 gets with a new woman every week. That's around 50 per year. But... we have guy #2 who is in a relationship with one woman for the entire year. In this scenario, 50% of men are looking for a relationship but 50x the amount of women did not get into a relationship. If a guy can get any woman he wants for sex, well you see the point!
mesmerized Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 It only takes a few men to make women think that way. Let's say guy #1 gets with a new woman every week. That's around 50 per year. But... we have guy #2 who is in a relationship with one woman for the entire year. In this scenario, 50% of men are looking for a relationship but 50x the amount of women did not get into a relationship. If a guy can get any woman he wants for sex, well you see the point! Actually, I'm not sure what your point is. I'm guessing you are saying that only a few men fit in that category? I agree that not a high percentage of men can get any woman they want and that's not what I claimed. I said that above average/more attractive men rarely seek relationships these days because they are desired by a high percentage of beautiful women, either for sex or more. An attractive woman on the other hand, can only get sex if she wants to but having a relationship with an attractive man would still be a challenge due to the mentality that these guys have.
turt Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 Actually, I'm not sure what your point is. I'm guessing you are saying that only a few men fit in that category? I agree that not a high percentage of men can get any woman they want and that's not what I claimed. I said that above average/more attractive men rarely seek relationships these days because they are desired by a high percentage of beautiful women, either for sex or more. An attractive woman on the other hand, can only get sex if she wants to but having a relationship with an attractive man would still be a challenge due to the mentality that these guys have. You misunderstood what I wrote. What I'm saying is that both of the above are very attractive and anyone would want to go out with them. The actions of one has a much higher effect on a greater number of women. 1 vs 50 in a year. For instance, if everyone wanted to date one of these two, the guy in the relationship is gone - no one can date him. The guy who doesn't is getting with a new person every week. T
mesmerized Posted February 14, 2012 Posted February 14, 2012 You misunderstood what I wrote. What I'm saying is that both of the above are very attractive and anyone would want to go out with them. The actions of one has a much higher effect on a greater number of women. 1 vs 50 in a year. For instance, if everyone wanted to date one of these two, the guy in the relationship is gone - no one can date him. The guy who doesn't is getting with a new person every week. T Perhaps, but my observation is the opposite. Most attractive young men I meet are after playing the field more than staying with one girl.
elaina Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 Just for the record, I am very happily married to a lovely man I met on Match.com. And my former employee married a guy from EHarmony. Also, we were both well over the age of 25. So some people obviously are not wasting their time bothering with online dating. What works or doesn't for you is not necessarily universal. Agreed. My husband and I met on plentyoffish.com We got married last year in September!!! (Oh, and we are both over 25) People on online dating sites are just people... and just like meeting people off the internet, it's important to know what type of person you are looking for, and wait for that person.
elaina Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 Then here is the question, do you feel you are as hot as the women your friends are seeking? I don't care if their slutty or not. Do you match them in looks? If not then you are too picky if you arn't finding someone you are attracted to. I'm willing to bet if an average woman messaged your average friends they'd respond to her & try to set something up. also, I did a search on POF for 25 miles in my age range +/- 4 yrs of 40. MIND IS BLOWN. So much cleavage. so many slutty pictures. So many women not looking for anything serious. I gotta say, if by summer time I haven't met anyone on match i'm trolling POF with the 6-pack I plan to have by Memorial Day weekend. LOL! I think a lot of the above has to do with the culture trends of today.
oaks Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 About half of the dating issues aired on this board are about online dating. In real life everyone I know who has tried online dating has found it a giant waste of time. JUST DON'T BOTHER WITH ONLINE DATING. So, about half of the dating issues on this board must be about the other kind of dating, the offline kind. I don't know why people bother with that, either. More seriously, I think there's a sample bias. People who use online dating are, I believe, more likely to be open to the idea of using other online resources to help achieve their goal (of getting a date, a partner etc) and hence more likely to participate in online dating forums.
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