Foreveryours10 Posted February 9, 2012 Posted February 9, 2012 I met a guy about the beginning of december. He asked for my number but because I didn't really know him and wanted to make sure he wasn't crazy I gave him my email instead. He had to go back to work, a state away the next day and I was going home on vacation. So while we were both gone we would email each other everyday and then I finally gave him my number about the end of january. I went back to school and at the beginning of february he came back to town. So when he came back he kept asking me whenever I was available to hang out. So we chose a day, he took me to dinner and drinks and then came back to my place afterwards to talk and hang out. Then we skipped a day and hung out again. This time he just came over we hung out some more watched movies and whatever. He stayed the night and just cuddled with me all night. Every so often he would kiss my forehead or cheek and would hold my hand. Then when he left in the morning though we just hugged goodbye because he had to go back to the other state for a week. Here is my dilemma, I can be a bit insecure and am unsure if he likes me or is just looking for a cuddle buddy. If it were up to me I would want to date already. But at the same time I know we have been talking for awhile but the fact that we have only hung out twice tells me its too soon to be trying to push the let's date talk. Where as my guy friend keeps being like oh it's not too soon either he wants you or he doesn't...but I also know he likes me and I think he is just trying to sabotage me and the other guy so, idk?
veggirl Posted February 9, 2012 Posted February 9, 2012 I wouldn't ask a guy for exclusivity or anything after 2 dates. But, you can ask him what he wants in general in a relationship--casual, short term, long term, etc. If that matches up with what you want, then continue seeing him. How often will you two be able to see one another, though, if he is living a state away? I'd just be wary of him just wanting a girl available in the state when he comes to visit. You need to ask him what he is looking for.
Ninjainpajamas Posted February 9, 2012 Posted February 9, 2012 Yeah you need to find out what HE wants, before you start throwing darts into the dark hoping you'll hit your target of a relationship/dating. When you don't know something with men, you need to ask them and find out, whether directly or by asking questions they aren't trying to answer with "what you want to hear". So you need to ask him before you start saying what you want or need, you need to learn to pry the honesty out of men and when they answer you, you have to trust your gut instinct whether you trust them or not, not just wrap your head around your own wants and ideals. I always find it extremely frustrating how women are able to cuddle with you and spend time with you watching movies and hanging out but don't have the balls to ask any important questions...and these are important questions to YOU. Why in the world do you choose on finding the answers out the hard way? sleeping with them and then telling him you want a relationship? You need to be confident and strong enough in your own position, If he doesn't want a relationship and you do then stand confident in that stance. Don't be one of those women who try to win guy who doesn't want relationship just to get butt hurt when he doesn't. If he's telling you he wants to date and have a relationship too, then tell him what he's getting into with yo BEFORE hand not AFTER. Women like to make you sign the contract then fill in the terms and conditions which is ridiculous. But the fact that he lives in another state tells me this is probably not going to go beyond FWB.
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