Ninjainpajamas Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 I think people like to see escorts or prostitutes...whatever you want to call them as something only desperate people use, because there is no real emotions there. First off if that's the case, then why are famous people or people in high status positions almost always use escorts? Are famous movie stars desperate? Some of them are the best looking people in society! Yet what? you're better than them because you have....morals? The same delusional morals that are supposedly in force when you meet some stranger and end up spending the with them the first night? Those morals that you use when you go on a date, have sex with someone for a week then that personal magically disappears? Oh no, I forgot though...just because you INTENDED for there to be an emotional connection that makes it better. If anything that just makes you more naive! The guy who strings you along using you as a booty call, or the girl that uses you for sex because she's just trying to satisfy her needs but isn't really into you. Oh but I guess that's ok because you're not being PAID to have sex...please, you're paying with some kind of price, the only difference is nobody comes out and says it or wants to admit it, especially guys who do what they can to get laid...they're practically using you as an escort/prostitute except you don't realize it. Although I don't think society is ready to admit or smell their own ****, If it's an escort you seek then I'd say give it a try. There's nothing wrong with you living your own life, who gives a damn what other people are going to think, If you want to do it because you feel you need to...then do it, If you don't want to because YOU don't want to then don't...none of these people are going to give a damn when you're 80 years old cruising around in your hover-round. People don't realize they already make a lot of sacrifices to fulfill their emotional and physical needs, and If you're finding yourself wasting time with lots of men and need a man who is attractive and actually knows what he is doing unlike the fodder of men out there who care more about their needs than yours...then hey, you might actually enjoy the experience, and who says you need to do it forever? I wouldn't take it so seriously, If it were up to me I'd have prostitution or escorts as legal...that way men or women who just wanted sex or companionship and had a hard time finding it could get their satisfaction and those who are looking for a relationship can actually invest their time in one instead of wasting each others time.
Dafa Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 In the foolishness of youth I once opined it would be cheaper and less stressful to hire a maid and a hooker and it wouldn't be until many years later and one marriage that I would come to understand the wisdom contained in such foolishness. So, with that, if you've got the money and want some adventure, go for it IMO. I'm not sure if i understood you correctly but are you saying that now you are seeing that you were right at the start? If so, i must admit, i find that affirmation to be a very cynical way to look at all this. If you were to add to the maid and hooker a very intimate friend, then i'd perhaps buy it. In this hooker and maid scenario, where would you find the emotional attachment that a relationship entails? Isn't this emotional attachment very important, perhaps the most important? Still, from the sound (well, writing) of your post, you are probably much older than me and have much more baggage...
FitChick Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 why are famous people or people in high status positions almost always use escorts? Are famous movie stars desperate? Some of them are the best looking people in society! If you want to read a book where these high priced call girls name names and perversions of the rich and famous, see if you can find this book. Prepare to be surprised and shocked. Highly entertaining!
grkBoy Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 Titania, I've taken a moment to skim through some of your past topics to refresh my memory on your history. I could be completely off here, but I honestly think you are picky...but not in the sense of wanting a guy who's amazingly hot, wealthy, exciting. You're picky in a different sense...as well as impatient and unsure. You remind me of men and women I've met in my life who wish they could find Mr or Ms Right as easily as it would be to walk into a McDonald's and order an extra-value meal. They want a relationship, but they loathe the time and work it takes to get to one. Online profiles, going out to social gatherings, mingling, meeting, getting to know people, first dates, second dates, awkward moments, etc. They simply wish they could go straight into 3-6 months into a RL where the love is there and the comfort is there. Where they skip the other junk and go right into hot sex, romantic dates, and cuddling on the couch with a DVD. The problem is the world doesn't work that way, and those who wish it would simply get bored easily or lose interest easily. So they wake wanting to find someone, spend a little time looking, but give up quickly because they only see the misery of the "meet and get to know" process. Again, I could be wrong, but I think Titania is one of these people in a way. A lot of her past posts seem to talk of disinterest, frustration, and a lack of patience. She goes off how she wants to find someone, but then goes into how much she hates the dating process in many ways. Sure you could hire a guy to be your instant boyfriend, but in the end you'll get bored with him because you'll know it's fake. You need to stop dreading the process and just go through it. Stop looking at it all as such a downer and live your life. The right guy won't be a lot of trouble or work to get into the RL with.
Krios Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 I could be completely off here, but I honestly think you are picky...but not in the sense of wanting a guy who's amazingly hot, wealthy, exciting. You're picky in a different sense...as well as impatient and unsure. You remind me of men and women I've met in my life who wish they could find Mr or Ms Right as easily as it would be to walk into a McDonald's and order an extra-value meal. They want a relationship, but they loathe the time and work it takes to get to one. Online profiles, going out to social gatherings, mingling, meeting, getting to know people, first dates, second dates, awkward moments, etc. They simply wish they could go straight into 3-6 months into a RL where the love is there and the comfort is there. Where they skip the other junk and go right into hot sex, romantic dates, and cuddling on the couch with a DVD. The problem is the world doesn't work that way, and those who wish it would simply get bored easily or lose interest easily. So they wake wanting to find someone, spend a little time looking, but give up quickly because they only see the misery of the "meet and get to know" process. Again, I could be wrong, but I think Titania is one of these people in a way. A lot of her past posts seem to talk of disinterest, frustration, and a lack of patience. She goes off how she wants to find someone, but then goes into how much she hates the dating process in many ways. Even IF that were to be true, I don't think that's Titania's biggest stumbling block. She's into guys that are way younger than her and somewhat nerdy and into video games (Starcraft). Those requirements limit her choices significantly in terms of local prospects. Furthermore, guys like that don't always have women on their mind at that age. I don't want to discourage you Titania, but perhaps you need a different strategy, as the current one doesn't seem to be working for you.
Author Titania22 Posted February 11, 2012 Author Posted February 11, 2012 Thankyou for your replies. gaius thankyou, maybe find out how he feels about an LDR for me ok oxy Awesome. ninjainpajamas I agree I also think "is this going to matter when I am 80?" and generally the answer is always "no". I am yet to find something that seems to matter now, that will still matter when I am 80. dafa I kind of agree with carhill here. Relationships and especially marriages are expensive. grkBoy and Krios you are both right. I do think I am too picky in exactly the way you describe. In the past I have put myself out there a tiny bit, only to run back and hide for months at a time. This time I am trying to be different. I have pulled back from my computer game playing, and am starting to find things to get me out of the house. I went out once each of the last 2 weekends, and possibly will go out tonight, if not definately next week. I also got an email about beginner salsa lessons and am thinking about taking it up. I also have a girlfriend who is just as committed to finding a relationship, and we are going to keep each other motivated and in circulation. I realise that as great as the guys I have met gaming are, they are all already in relationships and haven't really been willing to introduce me to any single friends as yet. "It's flattering that you don't think your friends are good enough, but that doesn't get me any closer." I am not going to try the online dating thing this time, as it has been a primary source of scaring me and making me give up. I am slowly getting myself used to be open to a wider age group. A year ago I only wanted a guy around 20, 4months ago i started finding men as old as 26 more appealing, and I did some searching last night and I think the guy I was interested in last week was about 30. So little by little I am changing to see a wider age range as attractive. And I was not turned off when my friend thought he was my age. I am also getting used to the idea that if i meet a man i like, he will probably be a noob (this is australia after all). But still I agree I limit myself way too much. On an aside I had a talk to my daughter last night and at one point in the discussion i brought of Felicia Day and Sean Plott because they had streamed live together a few days ago, and I said "she seemed like a much better match for him then I am", and my sweet daughter says "no, I think you are a much better match for him".
Krios Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 I am also getting used to the idea that if i meet a man i like, he will probably be a noob (this is australia after all). Those f*cking noobs, how do they work? If he's open for it T, then you could train him. It'll be adorable the way you'll learn him to block and defend his choke, to learn him to expand and to keep his economy going, to watch the higher ground next to his expansion. You should learn him the hotkeys, so that he can build/spawn units while he's not even looking at his base and command them over in groups to the enemy in an endless stream of units besieging their bases endlessly. Good times.
Author Titania22 Posted February 11, 2012 Author Posted February 11, 2012 Those f*cking noobs, how do they work? <img src=\"images/red/smilies/laugh.gif\" border=\"0\" alt=\"\" title=\"laugh\" smilieid=\"15\" class=\"inlineimg\" /> If he\'s open for it T, then you could train him. It\'ll be adorable the way you\'ll learn him to block and defend his choke, to learn him to expand and to keep his economy going, to watch the higher ground next to his expansion. You should learn him the hotkeys, so that he can build/spawn units while he\'s not even looking at his base and command them over in groups to the enemy in an endless stream of units besieging their bases endlessly. Good times. <img src=\"images/red/smilies/laugh.gif\" border=\"0\" alt=\"\" title=\"laugh\" smilieid=\"15\" class=\"inlineimg\" /> Too precious. My last boyfriend was so challenged he didn\'t know that if words on the screen were highlighted blue you could click on them and go to other pages. It\'s so sad here, that most people seem to think they are nerdy or geeky if they have a facebook account. (I\'m serious)
Els Posted February 13, 2012 Posted February 13, 2012 Even IF that were to be true, I don't think that's Titania's biggest stumbling block. She's into guys that are way younger than her and somewhat nerdy and into video games (Starcraft). Those requirements limit her choices significantly in terms of local prospects. Furthermore, guys like that don't always have women on their mind at that age. I don't want to discourage you Titania, but perhaps you need a different strategy, as the current one doesn't seem to be working for you. Well, I think this discussion is probably moot by now, given T's exciting new prospect but... I'm not sure how wanting a nerdy gamer guy limits your choices? Those guys are a dime a dozen everywhere that I've been, and I've been in Asian communities, Caucasian ones, small towns, big cities... yeah. The whole gamut. Granted, if you REALLY want a pro SC2 player you'd probably be limited somewhat, but if you don't care what he plays I wager you could randomly pick out 10 guys in a room and at least a few will be a semi-frequent gamer. The benefit of liking that sort, in fact, is that they tend to be overlooked by other women. Gaming is almost universally a plus point when a woman does it, but not always when a man does it. Not many girls appreciate one.
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