amythan Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 Hello, Long story short I was seeing this guy casually for the last three months. I always felt that he was not that interested and i started to find the situation annoying. The problem is that he is flaky and he never wants to plan for things. Lately he just calls me when he is around my place and late in the evening. I understand we are FWB but i do not want to be treated like a booty call. Today it was the same thing but i was having a shower and he said that it took long so he had to head home because tomorrow he is traveling. Fair enough. We texted back and forth and finally i told him that if he wants to see me he should give me some notice and that i do not find flattering when people only want to spend time with me when they are around the corner and give me ten minutes notice. Was this an overreaction ? I do not want him to be my bf but i am not on call and i like to sleep with people who really want to sleep with me. I do not want to be the last resort girl. He will probably never call me again but it is ok. I am fine with casual relationships but this was annoying ... Am i wrong ?
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 I think you are very dishonest with yourself. You have many threads identical to this one. Obviously this arrangement is not okay with you. You keep going for it. And then posting about the results. Which are never any different. I think you want a boyfriend, so why don't you hold out for that and stop bothering about whether your reactions to being a booty call are appropriate or not.
TheFinalWord Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 (edited) FWB but i do not want to be treated like a booty call Oxymoron. I think this FWB term is deceiving. This guy isn't your friend. For a guy a FWB is casual sex with minimal investment. He's going to do the minimal possible for it. People treat you the way you allow them. Edited February 8, 2012 by TheFinalWord
FitChick Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 (edited) Oxymoron. This guy isn't your friend. For a guy a FWB is casual sex with minimal investment. He's going to do the minimal possible for it. People treat you the way you allow them. Agree. FWB and booty call are the same thing. Too many women use magical thinking -- "If I am his FWB, he will fall in love and make me his girlfriend." "If I get pregnant, the man will stay forever." Edited February 8, 2012 by FitChick
veggirl Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 Yes you are overreacting. You ARE a booty call. You don't even sound like you guys are friends -- maybe friends in YOUR mind, but certainly not in his. Hitting you up 10 min before he wants to get together, pretty typical and fits the rest of the, erm, relationship you have with him. If that's not cool with you, then put an end to it! Why are you in this FB situation anyway? You clearly aren't okay with it. End it.
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 I've responded to a few of your threads just like this one over the months. You don't ever engage, you usually disappear and come back again soon with another thread about the same situation, or another one just like it. Why do you get into these scenarios when you don't like them? Please discuss!
xpaperxcutx Posted February 9, 2012 Posted February 9, 2012 Why don't you just call him your " hookup"? Not much substance there except you guys are tapping asses.
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