NicoleM Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 Recently it was my ex birthday and we occasionally ran into each other at our local hangouts and we were quite civil to each other. Anyways.... It was my ex birthday and again trying to be nice I said hope you have a great birthday! I know sometimes people never get their text messages until a day later so I honestly didn't worry about it but the worst part is he thanked my friend for a happy birthday wish but not me? He didn't have the courtesy to say thanks? I tried to be nice and it wound up blowing in my face:( I suppose if I see him hanging out at my local hangouts I will ignore him and if he texts me I will ignore him too because I hate trying to be nice and someone treats me like I do not exist and they thank my friend but not me? Forget him...... I know I shouldn't be mad but I am a little hurt:(
Eddie Edirol Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 Of course it hurts! You wanted to open up communication with him and he shut you down. He did the right thing because he knows you want him back, but he cant encourage you to keep texting him. He did you a favor. After all the things he put you through, you needed this shock to help you forget about him.
Author NicoleM Posted February 9, 2012 Author Posted February 9, 2012 I do not want him back but sheesh even a decent person says thanks and he thanked my friend but not me? I just ask some simple courtesy if a stranger said happy birthday I would say thank you. I haven't texted him in 2 months but since I knew it was his birthday I just wanted to be polite heck even people I barely know say happy birthday on my facebook when my birthday rolls around. I guess he did me a favor but sheesh still hurts:(
Eddie Edirol Posted February 9, 2012 Posted February 9, 2012 Lemme ask you this... Do you always expect a "thank you" when you open a door for someone, or do you do it just to do it? How many of your friends do you text happy birthday to? Do you thank every single stranger on FB that writes happy birthday on your wall? Expecting a thank you isnt the reason to wish someone happy birthday. He doesnt owe you politeness, or anything, especially if he thinks you will try to get attached again. Why would you want him to answer you if he doesnt want to hear from you? You dont want him to be polite, you want a connection with him in the form of a thank you. He is your ex, youre not supposed to need a reply from him. Youre not supposed to feel the need to text him happy birthday either, and youre definitly not supposed to hope for a connection when you text him. Do you get it yet?
fiat500 Posted February 9, 2012 Posted February 9, 2012 Sorry OP, Some exes will never be true friends to you again once they break up with you. Sometimes you just can't rekindle or go back to that innocent relationship you two had before getting intensely involved. It's like you're lower than a stranger to them and once they are done with you they begin to dislike you in a strange way. It's very weird. They probably won't look at you like that forever as long as you stay away from them for good. The human mind tends to be cruel. A person you've broken up with may appear to be annoying and clingy (even if they're really not) if they hang around but once they're gone..the dumper starts to think "hm. maybe they weren't so bad :("
moosekaka Posted February 9, 2012 Posted February 9, 2012 The human mind tends to be cruel. A person you've broken up with may appear to be annoying and clingy (even if they're really not) if they hang around but once they're gone..the dumper starts to think "hm. maybe they weren't so bad :(" exactly.....I knew I made the right decision to leave once I saw her reaction to me despite not having made contact in 3 months.
Philosoraptor Posted February 9, 2012 Posted February 9, 2012 I have to agree with what was posted above. If you couldn't send well wishes without an attachment then it shouldn't have been sent at all.
geegirl Posted February 9, 2012 Posted February 9, 2012 Especially with an ex, when you send these types of text messages, only do it when you can safely say you have zero expectations.
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