I'm constantly nervous and can't detach myself from works

[iwanttolive]

Hi LS, as the title says it, I think I've come to a point where I'm so sick of myself and I need someone to prick the blister. It wearies me emotionally that I'm constantly nervous of making mistakes at works and when that happens, I beat myself very hard. Even after I got home or away on vacation, work-related issues keep popping up in my mind.

 

I keep telling myself that work is work and if I do not cause someone's death, the mistake is forgivable. However, even after checking my works thoroughly, I would remain paranoid.

 

My anxiety does not end here. I am also self-conscious whether my co-workers are upset with me. Last week, a co-worker was upset with me over something and I can't shake off the depressing feeling that things would be difficult if I need her help in the future.

 

I want to be a cool and confident person with positive outlook in life. Most of all, I'd like to enjoy my life but these things are weighing me down. Any advice, discussion and personal stories would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.

[denise_xo]

I've felt that way at various points in my life. IME it was a complex package of issues which I've addressed through a combination of therapy, life style changes such as more exercise and better diet, cutting out smoking and alcohol, meditation and yoga, periods on anti depressants, but most importantly, just trying to look myself in the mirror and face my issues head on. It's a work in progress.

 

Have you had this anxiety all of your life?

[whichwayisup]

Great post reply Denise.. I agree, yoga, a change in lifestyle (eating habits, exercise and CBT - Cognitive behaviour therapy) really can help. Also, what goes on in your mind, how you feel may not really reflect what's going on around you. If others are upset, they'll get over it and you have to hope they are professional enough to know one can't let personal feelings get in the way of professionalism. Chances are, whatever it was your co worker was bothered about, she/he isn't anymore.

 

You can only control yourself and how you feel.