ech Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 Two things lately that have me going hmmmm. My bf left his email up, so yes I looked. There was an email there to one of our gay (male) friends, there were pictures of my bf attached. They were of him in the mirror in his underwear grabbing his "package". Why would he send that to him? Then another email I found a picture of him and his ex. She had on the same necklace he got me for xmas. I asked him about it and he said it was a star, not a starfish like mine is. So am I just being immature about the necklace thing? And what about the pictures? anybody?????? Thanks!
veggirl Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 How long have you and your BF been together? Did you confront him about the email to the gay friend? Cause that is a strange thing to do if he is straight...is he bi? 2nd-- how long have him and his ex been broken up? What was the context of the email you saw? ie; how long ago was it, who wrote who, are they still in contact etc. You're upset you think he gave you a used necklace, right? Well, he very well may have--I've been the girl who returned jewelry upon a break up (wouldn't be that girl now jewelry stays with me! ). Yeah, I'd be upset about that. It's a classless move if he did that. Are you sure it was the same necklace? (we need more details, girl).
Author ech Posted February 8, 2012 Author Posted February 8, 2012 Thanks veggirl:) We have been together for 6 months. It is not the same necklace, just VERY similar. They were together for 2 years. He does not speak to her, in fact he blocked all her numbers. I am not sure about him being bi- he says he is not into men (we have joked around about it) But why would he send those pics to him? Its been a rumor around town before I met him that he hung around these to gay guys "for a reason". So i dont know what to think.
Star Gazer Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 Straight men do not send gay men pictures of themselves in their underwear and grabbing their crotch. Gay and bi men do that.
Ninjainpajamas Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 lol, I wouldn't trust any man that is willing to send pics like that to ANYONE especially a gay friend! and why does he have a gay friend! Straight guys don't typically mingle with gay guys, if they did they probably would have a lot more luck with the ladies! Oh and the starfish necklace is highly suspicious, i wouldn't buy for a second that he didn't buy it for you to remind him of his ex. These are huge red flags, you both sound pretty immature so you probably don't have the wisdom to get out of this situation just yet. But this is definitely a deal-breaker and should be to you...you'll see though since I very much doubt you will leave anytime soon. You also had the desire to check his email, suspicious are we not? I'm sure you'll do what you can to believe the crappy excuses that he'll give you that you know are BS but you want to believe so you'll contort your mind into accepting it...but really this is baaaaaad and I hope at least you keep your eyes open at the very least from now on.
TheFinalWord Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 lol, I wouldn't trust any man that is willing to send pics like that to ANYONE especially a gay friend! and why does he have a gay friend! Straight guys don't typically mingle with gay guys, if they did they probably would have a lot more luck with the ladies! Oh and the starfish necklace is highly suspicious, i wouldn't buy for a second that he didn't buy it for you to remind him of his ex. These are huge red flags, you both sound pretty immature so you probably don't have the wisdom to get out of this situation just yet. But this is definitely a deal-breaker and should be to you...you'll see though since I very much doubt you will leave anytime soon. You also had the desire to check his email, suspicious are we not? I'm sure you'll do what you can to believe the crappy excuses that he'll give you that you know are BS but you want to believe so you'll contort your mind into accepting it...but really this is baaaaaad and I hope at least you keep your eyes open at the very least from now on. I agree. Why did you check his e-mail? That's an invasion of privacy. What if he could invade your thoughts and know everything? But since the damage is done... No straight man is going to send pics of himself to gay men unless he is gay or bi. Unless he's gay for pay lol The necklace thing is weird, but I have noticed people tend to repeat what worked in the past. So if a guy knows a few good lines that get into a girls heart, he'll re-use them. It could just be he's not that romantic and uses the same ideas for every new girlfriend. If its the same necklace (his ex gave it back to him and he re-gifted) than that is creepy, but if it's the same idea he's probably just doing what worked before. Albeit, that's not very classy, but a lot of guys struggle with being romantic.
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